Family Poll

marissa_claire

So, what's you family like?  I have an awesome mom, so whenever I see someone gripe about their mom I feel bad.  

Are you a close-knit bunch?  

Spread out geographically?  

How many sibs? 

How often do you talk to your family? 

Awesome mom or "I love her, but..."?

How well do you know your extended family (uncles, cousins, second cousins, etc.)?  

shaydenise

So, what's you family like?  I have an amazing immediate family.  They are so generous, loving, and supportive no matter what.

Are you a close-knit bunch?  My immediate family and mom's side of the family are - not so much my dad's side for some reason.

Spread out geographically?  Those that are close are 10-45 minutes of each other.  I do have family in AZ, GA, and a few other states.

How many sibs? One little bro

How often do you talk to your family? I call my mom everyday on my drive home from work.

Awesome mom or "I love her, but..."? Awesome.  In every way.

How well do you know your extended family (uncles, cousins, second cousins, etc.)? I'm way closer to my mom's sister (my aunt) and great aunts and uncles on that side than my dad's two brothers and one sister.  So I guess I know my mom's side pretty well.

amylydia23

Are you a close-knit bunch?  We are very close.  The relationship I have with my sisters is a little different, we don't talk much since I live in TX but when I am home it's like we never skipped a beat.

Spread out geographically?  My dad is working in Minnesota right now and I live in TX.  Mom and sisters are in CT.

How many sibs? 2 sisters.  I am the middle.

How often do you talk to your family?  I talk to my mom at least 3 times a week.

Awesome mom or "I love her, but..."?  My mom is an amazing woman.  I miss her she just came down and spent the week with me last week since Corey had to go back to work.

How well do you know your extended family (uncles, cousins, second cousins, etc.)?  I consider us pretty close compared to my H and his extended family.  When we were doing the guest list he didn't know what cousins belonged to his aunts and uncles.

sarah0725

So, what's you family like?  I have an awesome mom, so whenever I see someone gripe about their mom I feel bad. We're quiet, witty, and weird. When we all get together, we are pretty good at making each other laugh and also getting into serious discussions about politics or history or art or whatever, but we also have our issues. We are all pretty neurotic.

Are you a close-knit bunch?  Yeah, I think so. I think I am closer to each member of my family than some of them are to each other, if that makes sense. I tend to try too hard when it comes to smoothing over interpersonal problems.

Spread out geographically? My parents, eldest brother, and younger sister live in NJ. I live in WI. My second elder brother lives in CA.

How many sibs? 3 - two older brothers, one younger sister. Here we are (with Charlie):


How often do you talk to your family? I talk to my mom a couple of times a week. With the rest, it's mostly email, but my brother in CA and I talk on the phone once a month or so.

Awesome mom or "I love her, but..."? Kind of the latter. We have more of a "friend" relationship now that I'm an adult, and I've realized that she has a lot of sadness in her life. I am sometimes frustrated that she doesn't do more to help herself feel better. But I do love and appreciate her.

How well do you know your extended family (uncles, cousins, second cousins, etc.)? Not as well as I'd like. I don't live near most of them, so my relationships with them are mostly tied to my parents.

AllAboutTheBenjamin

So, what's you family like?  We are great.  My dad's a farmer, my mom's a homemaker.  I have a married sister, college-aged sister and high school sister.

Are you a close-knit bunch?  Very much so

Spread out geographically?  Kinda.  My college aged sister lives in the same town I do, which is roughly three hours from "home base."  My married sister lives back home with her new farmer husband, who's working with my dad.

How many sibs? Three sisters, all younger.  I'm 26, they are 23, 19, and (nearly) 16.

How often do you talk to your family? Often

Awesome mom or "I love her, but..."? Definitely "I love her, but..." I DO love her, but she's nuts.  And when she plans weddings, it's an entirely new breed of crazy.

How well do you know your extended family (uncles, cousins, second cousins, etc.)?  My mom's side, I'm very close with even though they all live far away.  My mom is from California and thats where they all live.  My dad's family, while they are all closer, are very quiet and private people.  Tough to get to know.

impslave

Are you a close-knit bunch?  I would say so.  I'm really close to my mom, aunt and granddad.  I spend a part of almost every day with them.   

Spread out geographically?  Nope.  For almost 8 years, I lived in our condo with my mom and granddad (her father).  Only reason I left was to move in with H before we were married.  Also, my aunt (mom's sister) lives in the same condo complex.  H and I live 15 minutes away.

How many sibs?   I have two brothers, both in California (we're in Nevada).

How often do you talk to your family?  I go to my mom's house pretty much every day, so I always see her and my granddad.  I text/email with the one brother I'm close to, but there was a falling-out with my other brother and I haven't spoken to him in over a year.

Awesome mom or "I love her, but..."?  "I love her, but..." she is very clingy.  I understand because of situations our family has gone through, but there are times (especially recently) where I've had to firmly tell her to back off a little.  I think she's finally beginning to understand that I can't be around 24/7 like I used to be when I lived with her.  I have my brother to thank for giving her some perspective.

How well do you know your extended family (uncles, cousins, second cousins, etc.)?  My extended family is pretty large (Latino/Catholic), so we were always in each others' stuff when I was growing up.  After college, I moved to the East Coast, so I lost touch with a lot of my cousins.  But thanks to Facebook, we're all hooked up again.

JenGin74

I haven't spoken to my mother in about 15 years.

I grew up with my aunt and uncle, but they moved to Texas when I was 21 so I hardly ever get to see them 

I have a pretty large family, but I'm kind of the black sheep so I'm not close with any of them.

Tim is my family.

Wrkn925

So, what's you family like? 
I feel like the luckiest person ever.  I have divorced parents and a odd family, but they are all majorly supportive and close.
   Are you a close-knit bunch?  
Yeah, we see each other a lot, and we always know what's going on in other's lifes.  No one ever goes to the hospital alone, stuff like that.
Spread out geographically?  
2 hour radius, besides one cousin living in FL.
How many sibs? 
One full sister, one half-sister, one step-brother, one step-sister.  I'm not close to my step sibs.
How often do you talk to your family? 
I never go more that 48 hours without talking to my Mom and Dad.
Awesome mom or "I love her, but...
Awesome Mom, on every single level.  The only "but" about her is that she has some emotional downs.  BUT, she just lost her father in March, and she was the primary caretaker.  She's had it rough.
"? How well do you know your extended family (uncles, cousins, second cousins, etc.)?  
I just saw almost all my first and second cousins Saturday.  I usually get to see them a lot.  I can pick out my 3rd cousins and tell you how we are related.

[Deleted User]

So, what's you family like?  I have an awesome mom, so whenever I see someone gripe about their mom I feel bad.  

Depends on which side. I'm close with my mom's side, not as close with my dad's.

Are you a close-knit bunch?  

My mom, uncle, and grandparents all live on the same street, right next to each other, so yeah, we're pretty tight. I'd give anything to be the fourth house on that street.

Spread out geographically?  

Immediate family is all in Florida, the rest are all up and down the east coast.

How many sibs? 

Younger brother. He's 18.

How often do you talk to your family? 

I talk to my mom every day, my dad usually on FB or IM. He calls every weekend or so.

Awesome mom or "I love her, but..."?

My mom is the best. Everyone loves her and she is awesome.

How well do you know your extended family (uncles, cousins, second cousins, etc.)?  
Not too well, most cousins are a lot older or younger, or I never see them. I'm close with a few uncles, but family reunions aren't easy for me. We kind of have a mutual hate for some people.

Chi_Chi

Are you a close-knit bunch? 
-Absolutely!

Spread out geographically? 
-My parents live about a quarter mile from me. The only reason we bought the house we did is because it's so close to them.

How many sibs?
-None. J and I are both only children. (Unless you count that he has 2 step brothers and a step sister)

How often do you talk to your family?
-I talk to and see my parents everyday. I stop by on my way home. We don't see J's parents too often, and there's no excuse for it. They live about 5 minutes off the main road we both travel 2 times a day for work.

Awesome mom or "I love her, but..."?
-Awesome mom!

How well do you know your extended family (uncles, cousins, second cousins, etc.)? 
-Extremely close. My mom has had a lot of medical problems (2 brain surgeries, a neck surgery and another brain tumor currently) so it's really brought her and her sisters closer together, which results in me becoming close to them, too. We've always been closed, but after my moms surgeries, we've made it a point to get out together more.

ETA: My dads side of the family we don't really associate with, except one aunt who lives in TN. We (me, my dad, my mom) are the only decent ones. Really. The only time they call is when they need money. They all have had/ do have drug problems, so we just don't associate.

marriedfilingjointly

So, what's you family like?  My father sucks at life.  He's a mooch and a freelaoder.  Everyone else is pretty cool.

Are you a close-knit bunch?   for the most part.

Spread out geographically?  No, my brother is the farthest away; he's in grad school in Virginia about 6 hours away.  My mom and sister live a mile from me, and my father lives in the next town over.  His whole family is in this area.  As far as extended family, my mom's is all over the place.  All of my inlaws live nearby. 

How many sibs? 2--a younger brother and sister

How often do you talk to your family? at least once a week

Awesome mom or "I love her, but..."?  My mom and I have a great relationship now, but she was a pawn when she was still married to my father. 

How well do you know your extended family (uncles, cousins, second cousins, etc.)?  I grew up near my father's family.  My cousins were all about my age and we were all best friends until the end of high school.  My mother's family is all over the country and I rarely get to see them, but I like them a lot.  Her sister and my cousin came to our wedding and we all had a blast.  They are just really great people.  My paternal grandfather's widow and I are very close and we talk all the time. 

SarahPLiz

I love my family, some more than others, usually in small doses.

Parents are divorced, mom is remarried to a guy I can't stand but tolerate for her sake. Dad's longtime gf is awesome. 2 Sisters that are each awesome in their own ways. We used to fight a lot but not anymore.

Parents live in home town, little sis is at college in same state, 2 hrs away, older sis is in Cali and I'm in TX. Works well that way. 

We are much closer to my dad's side of the family because they were local growing up. My mom's family is all over the country, and although I love them and remember spending time with them, I am way closer to my cousins that I grew up with. 

I call my dad about once every 2 weeks to a month, depending on what is going on and if he is out to sea or not. I usually only call my mom when something is going on. We have different world views so it is hard to talk about anything but the weather for very long. 

I usually only see my family on holidays. We don't visit for the sake of visiting, and no one comes here to see us. My mom and step-dad will come to TX, and be 40 minutes away at my step-sister's house, and only call us when they get into town, and then get upset if we can't come have dinner with them. 

My biggest fear about the wedding is that I will somehow piss off my stepfather, who holds silent grudges forever. He thinks that you must somehow know that you slighted him, and have done it on purpose, and he waits around for you to ask forgiveness, even though you have no idea you even did anything wrong. Did I say already that I didn't like him? 

ETA: I talk to or text one of my first cousins about 3 times a week. We are VERY close. 

anna.oskar

Are you a close-knit bunch? 
Not overall and it makes me sad.  I've made it my mission to make us more close-knit.  As the oldest, i feel obligated to try.  My 19 year old brother and i have always been super-close and my niece and her mom are around,  everyone else kinda sucks,

Spread out geographically? 
a bit but most are close enough

How many sibs?
10

How often do you talk to your family?
one sister and brother, a few times a week

Awesome mom or "I love her, but..."?
She swears i ruined her life

How well do you know your extended family (uncles, cousins, second cousins, etc.)? 
not well at all

K&J64

So what's your family like? My family is crazy in the best way and hilarious. I have more memories of laughing around the kitchen table until we were crying or something came out of someone's nose than of people fighting. Don't get my wrong, we fought, terribly at times (my mom calls my sisters "the charming sisters" b/c they always getting into it), but we always make up. We would do anything for each other. Like drive round trip to Georgia in one weekend, drop everything and run to someone's side, spend our weekends helping with painting, moving whatever. My family is amazing, supportive, hilarious and I wouldn't trade them for anything.

Are you a close-knit bunch?  I'm very close with my immediate family, I love that I'm old enough now to be friends with my parents and my sisters and I have been friends our whole lives.

Spread out geographically?  Mom & Dad and the middle sister (I'm the youngest) all live in NJ, I'm about 30-45 minutes north of them now. My oldest sister lives in Lancaster, PA which sucks because she has two kids so I don't get to see my nephews nearly as much as I would.

How many sibs? 2 older sisters 4 years older and 6 years older.

How often do you talk to your family? I talk to my sisters several times a week usually, as well as my mom, I also see my parents (and sis who lives in NJ) almost weekly.

Awesome mom or "I love her, but..."? My mom is the cats pajamas.

How well do you know your extended family (uncles, cousins, second cousins, etc.)?  My dad comes from a huge family, he had 8 siblings, 5 of which are still living. From those siblings I have 3 aunts or uncles through marriage 2 of which are living, 12 first cousins, 10 of which are living and 7 second cousins. I'm very close with one of my 2nd cousins who grew up in the same town as me and is just a year younger than me, he's my best man in my wedding. My mom's side had 2 uncles, none of which are living and 1 aunt through marriage and 2 first cousins. I'm relatively close to them, but they live in Georgia so I don't see them often. Plus we have honorary family that is huge, but not blood related. uncles, aunts, cousins, mommies and daddies. My tribe rolls deep.

ETA: first question.

kd.joseph

Are you a close-knit bunch?  Not really, we have kind of seperated a bit since my Dad dies years ago.

Spread out geographically?   I am the only one that doesnt live in the area anymore, I moved 3 hours away 2 years ago.

How many sibs? 9 of us, but 2 are deceased. 4 belongs to my Mom, 4 belongs to my Dad, then they had me. So I am technically an only child.

How often do you talk to your family? My mother at least once every 2 days or so. My sister (on my dads side) once a month or so. My brothers, sometimes once a year.

Awesome mom or "I love her, but..."? Love my Mom, she's the best. We have the same sense of humor.

How well do you know your extended family (uncles, cousins, second cousins, etc.)?  I talk to my uncle's on my Mom's side. There is no one left on my Dads side of the family.

marissa_claire

So, what's you family like?  Laidback.  They're different, for sure, but I don't think there's anything not to like about them.  

Are you a close-knit bunch?  Oh yes.  We definitely know each other very well and family is central.  

Spread out geographically?  Uh, we are now!  I've been away from home for a while, but I'm now in Chicago and my brother's now in Dallas with our parents and younger bro being in Kansas.  

How many sibs?  2 - four years older and 4 years younger.  Both brothers.  I treat my older brother's wife like my sister, though!

How often do you talk to your family? Daily, or almost daily.  I commute so I have an 1 hr. train every day to kill.  

Awesome mom or "I love her, but..."?  Awesome.  She was always so selfless growing up, and I appreciate it now because it's one of my main themes in life to try and put others before myself.  I also think it made her an amazing parent, because she would treat us to the movies or something before she would buy herself a new outfit (not a literal example, but you get the idea) and I guess I kind of believe that's how moms should be.  I know that's moms sometimes need "mom time" but I think your kids should come first a lot.  

How well do you know your extended family (uncles, cousins, second cousins, etc.)?   I know them all very well.  My mom's side was further geographically, but it's my mom's sisters and I'm the only girl (cousin, niece, grand-daughter) on that side, so they spoil me.  And my dad's side was all right around us - within an hour - so I know my cousins and aunts and uncles very well.  AND my dad's extended family (grandma's brothers and their descendants, so my great aunts and uncles and second cousins) were only a few hours away so we see them at weddings.  I love it!

BecW2be

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[QUOTE] Awesome mom or "I love her, but..."? She swears i ruined her life Posted by anna.oskar[/QUOTE]

How on earth does your mom have 11 kids and can blame YOU for the ruin of her life?!? That sucks. I'm sorry.

MeaghanandMichael

Are you a close-knit bunch?  Very.

Spread out geographically?  We are in CT, MA, NH and NC

How many sibs? Kathy - 43, Michelle 41, Mike 21... my sisters have kids too which is super fun

How often do you talk to your family? I talk to my mom a few times a week, sometimes my dad, my brother every day and my sisters a ton on FB but on the phone every once in a while

Awesome mom or "I love her, but..."? My mom is the bomb. She is pretty much my role model.

How well do you know your extended family (uncles, cousins, second cousins, etc.)?  I don't know them because we have none. This is also probably why my family is so close knit. It is just us four siblings, mom, dad and neices/nephews.

LesPaul

Are you a close-knit bunch?  My brother and I are close, but that's my entire immediate family.  No parents, grandparents, aunts or uncles are alive.  I claim other families as my own - DH's and ex-H's.

Spread out geographically?  Yes.

How many sibs? One older brother

How often do you talk to your family? email, text, and FB brother regularly.  Talk on the phone occasionally.

Awesome mom or "I love her, but..."?  N/A - she died when I was 9.  But I have 3 MILs who are awesome (MIL and SMIL from first marriage + current MIL).  I'm going to see two of them at TGiving.

How well do you know your extended family (uncles, cousins, second cousins, etc.)?  I don't.  I used to see a few cousins when I was little, but it's been years/decades since I've heard from any of them.

anna.oskar

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Family Poll : How on earth does your mom have 11 kids and can blame YOU for the ruin of her life?!? That sucks. I'm sorry.
Posted by BecW2be[/QUOTE]

They're not all hers.  I come from a family of chronic divorcees. and thus step-children

I'm the oldest.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

Are you a close-knit bunch?  - In a way. With certain people. I think moving away on my own made me a lot more independent, so I don't NEED to see or talk to them all the time, but we love each other.

Spread out geographically?  - Yes, I'm in CA, my parents and bro are in NY

How many sibs? - I have a  brother who's 3 years younger (25).

How often do you talk to your family? - Mom, at least once a week. Dad every other week or so. Brother sporadically, lots of texting and FBing.

Awesome mom or "I love her, but..."? - It's sort of an "I lover her, but" thing. She's a great mom. My parents were really great at raising us and I'll probably try to be more like them than not as a parent. BUT my mom is kind of crazy about some things. She's pretty judgemental. She can get under my skin if I'm around her for more than 4-5 days.

How well do you know your extended family (uncles, cousins, second cousins, etc.)?  - Well, I only have one aunt (dad's sister) and one cousin, and they lived in Utah when I was growing up in NY. I used to visit them with my grandma when I was younger. Sometimes they'd come to NY for holidays or events, so I'd see them at least once a year. My dad has a huge extended family (about 40 first cousins) whom I don't see anymore, due to distance, but we used to see them twice a year (Labor Day party and Christmas party).

My mom has very little extended family. Her father was an only child, and left when she was 7. Her grandmother died in 1983.  Her mother died in 1985. My mom herself was an only child. The only "family" she keeps in contact with is one of her mom's first cousins and his wife, and her grandmother's youngest sister, who's 92.

pirategal03

Are you a close-knit bunch?  My dad's family is extremely close (there are 7 of us including me and H).  My mom's family is close.

Spread out geographically?  I live an hour and a half away, and I have one cousin in Texas.  So no, pretty close.  My dad's family all live within a half mile of eachother (except me and H).

How many sibs? none

How often do you talk to your family? almost every day

Awesome mom or "I love her, but..."?  I had the most fabulous mom.  She was my best friend. 

How well do you know your extended family (uncles, cousins, second cousins, etc.)?  I'd say pretty well up to my great-uncle's grandkids, whatever form of cousin that'd be.  Once it gets into my great-grandfather's sibling's kids/grandkids it gets a little fuzzy on the relations, but we'd recognize eachother on the street. 

Wrkn925

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[QUOTE]Are you a close-knit bunch?  Not overall and it makes me sad.  I've made it my mission to make us more close-knit.  As the oldest, i feel obligated to try.  My 19 year old brother and i have always been super-close and my niece and her mom are around,  everyone else kinda sucks, Spread out geographically?  a bit but most are close enough <strong>How many sibs? 10</strong> How often do you talk to your family? one sister and brother, a few times a week Awesome mom or "I love her, but..."? She swears i ruined her life How well do you know your extended family (uncles, cousins, second cousins, etc.)?  not well at all
Posted by anna.oskar[/QUOTE]

Holy crap! Fun or insanity?

ETA: Just read all of your post and response about step sibs. 

LessThanZero

Are you a close-knit bunch?  Not really. The only people I talk to regularly is one of my sisters and my grandfather. I don't speak to my father at all.

Spread out geographically?  Pretty much.

How many sibs? I always start to say 2, and then i remember I have a half-brother who I only just met a couple of months ago. He's 20 yrs old.

How often do you talk to your family? I email with my grandfather every day and see him once a week. I talk to my sister about once a week. I talk to my mom once every 2 or 3 weeks and occasionally an aunt or some cousins on FB. I don't bother with anyone else usually, because they really don't bother with me either.

Awesome mom or "I love her, but..."? My mom is pretty awesome, but we aren't super close. I don't agree with some of her decisions but she's been through a lot and she's an adult so I just brush it off.

How well do you know your extended family (uncles, cousins, second cousins, etc.)?  I know some better than others. Hardly anyone in my family (on either side) talks to each other so there's never any family get-togethers or holiday celebrations.

Wrkn925

We did a family GTG two years ago where we went to Gatlinburg and stayed holed up in a cabin for 4 days.  15 of my closest relatives. 
I wish I could upload the video of us singing together on the porch.  It was hilarious and fun, we're trying to plan another trip.

K Byte

Are you a close-knit bunch? 
Um sort of, I guess.

Spread out geographically? 
My immediate family (parents and 1 sibling) isn't really, we all live in Ohio. When you get to my parents' and grandparents' families it gets a lot more complicated. We have family from coast to coast, north to south, and in Canada (Montreal) and overseas in Europe as not all of my grandmother's/great grandmother's (my mom's mother and HER mother, haha) relatives came to the U.S. My great grandmother (dad's mother's mother) had like 18 siblings or something and my dad has made contact with many of their descendants. So I guess we're close-knit in the sense that we're mostly aware of what our far-away relatives are up to!

How many sibs?
Just 1.

How often do you talk to your family?
Maybe twice a week haha.

Awesome mom or "I love her, but..."?
Pretty awesome

How well do you know your extended family (uncles, cousins, second cousins, etc.)? 
We're closer to some aunts/uncles/cousins than others. My cousins range in age from 42 to 14 and most are around my age so that's a lot of fun but we have a lot of family drama so some of them we haven't seen for awhile. As for second cousins and all that ... I have too many and I haven't seen many of them in years so I don't know. Some of them I've never met because they live in California or don't speak English or what have you. I got confused when I tried to think about my family tree because when I was little we just called all the non-grandparent relatives "aunt or uncle whatever" but they definitely weren't always aunts and uncles!

Chi_Chi

Oh, and I have never laid eyes on my actual FIL. He was/is? an alcoholic that used to abuse J's mom, so she left when he was like a year old. J's stepfather has been there for him since he was about 2. I think the last time J seen his dad it was Christmas time and J was in high school, so about 7 or 8 years ago. He was working at Popeye's and his dad walked in and proceeded to cuss him, call him every name under the sun and blame him (J) for ruining everything between he and J's mom. (This is coming from a man who wanted to name his son Jack Daniel) We did not put an engagement  announcement in the local paper because of him.

Wrkn925

Wow, Chi-Chi, that sucks.
I'm sorry your FI has to deal with that.

Chi_Chi

Thanks. He doesn't really talk about it, but when his dad is brought up, he's pretty calm about it, but I know that there is a lot of resentment there. I think more than anything, his dad has shown him what NOT to do when he becomes a father, and he will actually be a better person/father because of it.

LessThanZero

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[QUOTE]Thanks. He doesn't really talk about it, but when his dad is brought up, he's pretty calm about it, <strong>but I know that there is a lot of resentment there. I think more than anything, his dad has shown him what NOT to do</strong> when he becomes a father, and he will actually be a better person/father because of it.
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This is exactly how I've felt about so many people in my family. If there's anything they can be proud of themselves for, it's for showing me how NOT to be. So I'm grateful for that I guess. I completely understand the resentment part of it too. I struggle with that pretty much every day on some level.

ccdaisy

Are you a close-knit bunch?  Very- We moved about an hour away- but I talk to them almost every day.
Spread out geographically?  All in the south- SC, NC, TN and GA
How many sibs? One older brother
How often do you talk to your family?  almost daily
Awesome mom or "I love her, but..."?  I believe I get some of my OCPD from her..and we don't always work well together
How well do you know your extended family (uncles, cousins, second cousins, etc.)?  Very well- Don't see them as much as I would like.