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Recently engaged and seriously considering breaking it off...

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Re: Recently engaged and seriously considering breaking it off...

  • leaynleayn member
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    Try not to feel embarrassed.  He f*cked it up...not you. 

    Maybe you can continue wearing the ring until you are ready to talk about it, or just wear a different ring on that finger (I bet he is the type to demand it back ASAP) and hope no one is rude enough to bring it up if you don't. 

    Good luck!  Please come back to let us know how you are doing.

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  • I know he says he will or take them off facebook or whatever but there are still so many other ways they can contact each other...and for a while its ok and then some new girls name pops up on his phone while we are out together and he comes up with some explanation or another on who they are etc etc...i am so sick of all of it...the last thing i told him is you can have all of them and I don't care anymore but you will no longer have me...
  • Mkerr: don't worry. You're friends will probably be glad you decided to move on to better things. I think it's much better to break off an engagement now than to have a marriage where there's no trust. I wish you the best and hope everything works out great for you!
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  • Get rid of him now. He has no respect for you or your relationship, or these women wouldn't feel so welcome to contact him. I also think he's lying to you about having history with all of these women, unless the history was made last week. Don't be gullible, and don't put up with anything you don't think you should. If you read further down this page, you will see posts by "scared2leave". Please don't let your relationship get to that point. Get out while you can, and don't look back or he will suck you back in.
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  • PiruPiru member
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    I think maybe you sound a tad controlling, but for good reason, apparently. I wouldn't worry about a guy being friends with exes in general, but you've found evidence that he's letting it be a little bit more than just friends. Videos should be deleted and sexual convos aren't ok. I'd echo everyone else's advice and kick him to the curb.
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  • I was feeling pretty "what the big deal?" about this post until I got to the section where he was texting things sexual in nature to his ex-gf('s).  That is not cool. 
    It's a really slippery slope between sending a dirty text message, to flirting in person, to all out cheating.  If you found out he was calling a sex chat line, it would be different.  That's fantasy and while it might make you uncomfortable, it's pretty innocent.  However, he knows this woman/these women.  While you can't hold the fact that he dated them and probably slept with them, he 100% should NOT be texting them with sexual innuendo or anything of the kind.  It's blatant disrespect for you and your relationship and needs to stop, or you need to bail. 
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  • I wish you the best.

    I think that you're making a very good decision.  If I found out my man was recieving/sending texts and photos like that there would be no second chances.


  • I don't know.  I know personally I would be pissed if my FI tried texting his exes about sexual stuff.  That stuff shouldn't fly.  It disturbs me that he said he would stop and then didn't.  What's that about?  Shouldn't he be a man of his word and not just until he sees that you are willing to move forward.  I think that for some couples you can be friends, but it doesn't always work out that way.  If you can't trust him now, will you be able to trust him later?


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