Invite help?

seujoanne

I'm scared of the Etiquette board!  Hee hee.

I have sort of a complicated family and want my invites to read as "the family" instead of listing the parents' names.  I would want to include all 4 parents - as well as my sister- who are all contributing to the wedding, so it's just easier to say something along the lines of family.  Any ideas?  I Googled but haven't come up with the right thing yet...

(FWIW, we are not having a super formal wedding and we are inviting only family and a few close friends - so I'm not too caught up in the "traditional" invite lingo.)

TIA!

MsLaura31

We're doing "Together with their families, Laura and FI..." It's very diplomatic solution!

Donnaaries

That's exactly what we did...

bobbileighb

I have seen together with their families on a few invitations where I know mutiple people in the family as well as bride and groom contributed.

bridgetlb

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[QUOTE]We're doing "Together with their families, Laura and FI..." It's very diplomatic solution!
Posted by MsLaura31[/QUOTE]

this is what we did

seujoanne

Totally bridezilla of me I'm sure, but to me using the phrase 
"together with their families, bride and groom blah blah" indicates 
that both b & g's families have contributed to the wedding... not the case.

I came up with (in the shower, where I do my best thinking) "together 
with their spouses, mr father and ms mother request the honour of your 
presence at the marriage of their daughter bride to groom." 

Do you think that's acceptable?

Tiffany618

Hmm...your suggestion doesn't include the sister, though?  I googled and found this one... still doesn't include the sister though...

Mr. and Mrs. William Jones
and
Mr. and Mrs. Robert Evans Smith
request the honour of your presence
at the marriage of
Jane Elizabeth Smith
to
Mr. Stephen James Richardson
on Saturday, the ninth of June
two thousand and four
at two o'clock
First Church of Christ
219 North Granby Road
Granby, Connecticut

mandasue178

This may seem snarky, but it isn't intended that way. I honestly think that most of your guests could really care less who is paying for the wedding. We paid for ours ourselves and still did the very traditional: Brides Parents and Grooms Parents blah, blah, blah. 

To me saying this: "together with their spouses, mr father and ms mother ..... "  just sounds like you're trying to make a point about who contributed and who didn't. In reality, with the exception of very traditional weddings, most weddings are paid for by any number of people. 

If it bothers you that much that you're implying that someone paid that didn't, then go for it, but I think it sounds much more forced and awkward than just saying "Together with their families"

Donnaaries

I agree with mandasue, I think it sounds kind of awkward.  It is a day about uniting families, I don't know about starting it off on this kind of tone.  It's more diplomatic to overlook who paid for what, and either include everyone, or go with the traditional wording.

seujoanne

Ok, thanks for the input!

ETA:  Is it weird to leave that part out and just say something along the lines of "the honor of your presence is requested at the marriage of blah blah blabbity blah."

lacy1603

That's what I did.  FI and I are paying for the wedding ourselves with a little help from my dad but that's it, so I just wanted it to say our names and no parents.

On this day we will marry the one we

laugh with, live for, dream with, and love.

We have chosen to continue our

growth through marriage.

 

Lacy  Nicole  ________

&

Christopher  Rafael  ________

 

invite you to share in celebrating

our love for each other as we exchange

our marriage vows on

 

Sunday, the fifth of September

two thousand and ten

at six o’clock in the evening at

 

.....etc.

bsn1752

Oooo, Lacy... I like that wording!  I may "borrow" 

lacy1603

Go right ahead Brianna!!  I found a couple I liked on line and kind of just peiced the parts I liked together. 

seujoanne

Thanks again for all the input, y'all.  I talked to the "person who wanted to be named" and it's been decided that "the family" is now acceptable phrasage.