I SO want to slap that girl.....

SSutton14

Does anyone else want to slap their family members in the face for being so negative sometimes?.... Here's the deal, my sister doesn't like my soon to be MR. and she makes it known.  She keeps telling me things like "He doesn't love you" or "He's going to leave you"..... How the hell do you stay positive when you have that kind of crap slying at you on a daily basis?!  I've told her, I get it, you don't like him but I do.  I don't think she realizes that this is my forever, not hers....UGH!!!!

Anyone having this type of issue, or just family member issues in general?

Anysunrise

Pretty sure I'd never talk to any relative that spoke that way about FI, and I know he'd do the same. That said, I'm glad I don't have this issue because my family loves him.

zippityb

I usually only want to dropkick the person who eats the last Pepperidge Farm cookie.

mgietler76

Is there a reason she says these things? I can't imagine she would say such things without justification, or maybe she's just a biotch.

SSutton14

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[QUOTE]I usually only want to dropkick the person who eats the last Pepperidge Farm cookie.
Posted by zippityb[/QUOTE]

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betrothed123

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[QUOTE]Does anyone else want to slap their family members in the face for being so negative sometimes?.... Here's the deal, my sister doesn't like my soon to be MR. and she makes it known.  She keeps telling me things like "He doesn't love you" or "He's going to leave you"..... How the hell do you stay positive when you have that kind of crap slying at you on a daily basis?!  I've told her, I get it, you don't like him but I do.  I don't think she realizes that this is my forever, not hers....UGH!!!! Anyone having this type of issue, or just family member issues in general?
Posted by SSutton14[/QUOTE]
Why is she saying these things?  Does she have legitimate reasons for it?  Have you told her or other family members about problems you've had?  Is she the only one who's negative about your FI?

AllAboutTheBenjamin

Yeah, my mother can be a complete assbag about things that don't matter, which stresses me out and pisses me off.

Seriously though - after you come down from being pissed, you just have to look at things and say 'screw it.'  My mom's a nutbar.  It's a fact.  I can choose to stew about it and let it ruin my day or, I can ignore her when she's being a bitchy slore and choose to focus on other things that make me happier.

Why does she say these things about your FI?

SarahPLiz

The last person who told me that about someone I was with was right, and I wish I would have listened sooner. 

SSutton14

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[QUOTE]Is there a reason she says these things? I can't imagine she would say such things without justification, or maybe she's just a biotch.
Posted by mgietler76[/QUOTE]

They had issues a few years back.  She didn't like the fact that when we were first hanging out, neither of us wanted to jump into the whole "we're exclusice" scene right away.  We had both been burned pertty bad and wanted to take is slow...I guess that wasn't what she wanted us to do. She is just WAY overprotective and thinks that what she says is the law.  She finds flaws in everyone BUT herself

AllAboutTheBenjamin

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[QUOTE]The last person who told me that about someone I was with was right, and I wish I would have listened sooner. 
Posted by SarahPLiz[/QUOTE]

Me too.

JenGin74

I'm going to need more info before I can have an opinion. Why does she say those things? People don't generally say things like that without a reason

zippityb

My sister once told me that I'd never truly be happy because I had the devil in my heart.

Starmusica

I may have missed your other posts....who are you.. when are you getting married etc etc?

and why does she say this? are you guys close? how has your relationship been in the past?

[Deleted User]

Does she say it randomly, or after certain events take place? Is he rude to her? I agree that usually when someone has a rpboel with your SO you should take a look and wonder why. But, other times that person is just a biitch.

SSutton14

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[QUOTE]I may have missed your other posts....who are you.. when are you getting married etc etc? and why does she say this? are you guys close? how has your relationship been in the past?
Posted by Starmusica[/QUOTE]

We are planning on tieing the knot in the summer of 2011 or spring of 2012.  Right now we are looking for a house so the planning process is a slow one right now.

SSutton14

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[QUOTE]My sister once told me that I'd never truly be happy because I had the devil in my heart.
Posted by zippityb[/QUOTE]

Ouch...... that's pretty harsh....

mgietler76

I also dated a guy that my entire family hated and I couldn't see why, sometimes it takes that other person who is outside the relationship to see anything wrong. But without any more information I can't really give an informed opinion.

Chi_Chi

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[QUOTE]My sister once told me that I'd never truly be happy because I had the devil in my heart.
Posted by zippityb[/QUOTE]
At least she acknowledged that you have a heart. I've been told that I didn't.

AllAboutTheBenjamin

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[QUOTE]I also dated a guy that my entire family hated and I couldn't see why, sometimes it takes that other person who is outside the relationship to see anything wrong. But without any more information I can't really give an informed opinion.
Posted by mgietler76[/QUOTE]

Yep - me too.  Honestly, OP - can people be total bitches about other people's relationships?  Yes.  Maybe they're unhappy with their own life and they're jealous, or maybe they just thrive on drama.  But most people aren't like that.  Most people usually have real reasons that they don't like someone.

I dated a guy for a very, very long time that no one in my family liked, and they took perfect opportunities to point things out that he did that they didn't approve of, and to tell me when he was being a douche.  I loved him, so I didn't want to see it.  But they were right. 

Just sayin'.

LessThanZero

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[QUOTE]My sister once told me that I'd never truly be happy because I had the devil in my heart.
Posted by zippityb[/QUOTE]


Ha! I'm dying. That's not true as long as it's this devil:


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zippityb

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I SO want to slap that girl..... : At least she acknowledged that you have a heart. I've been told that I didn't.
Posted by Chi_Chi[/QUOTE]

I told her I sure hope he liked tacos, because that's what he was getting for dinner.

SSutton14

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[QUOTE]Does she say it randomly, or after certain events take place? Is he rude to her? I agree that usually when someone has a rpboel with your SO you should take a look and wonder why. But, other times that person is just a biitch.
Posted by Seshat411[/QUOTE]

At random.... they don't see eachother EVER because when he and I come to family functions.... She leaves, or just completley ignores the two of us. Really puts the rest of the family in an odd position.  

She and I had a good relationship at one time, but it was on her terms.  Basically as long as I was single she liked to hang out with me.  She's never liked anyone I've brought home.  Get this she set me up with this one guy a long time ago and he and I hit it off.  Then as soon as we started to get a bit more seroiuc, she HATED him.  To this day I still don't know why, he never did anything to her or me.... (we split because I got bored and we ended up going to different colleges).

NatesGirl16

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[QUOTE]I'm going to need more info before I can have an opinion. Why does she say those things? People don't generally say things like that without a reason
Posted by JenGin74[/QUOTE]
Yep.

And, considering it is your sister, I would give more credence to her feelings.  I don't have siblings, but I assume (hope) that in most cases, they'd have your best interests at heart.  Is she usually negative about a lot of things that happen for you?

ETAL: Reading fail.  i just saw your post with additional info.  So is she just being a bitch? Why does she feel she needs to be so overprotective?

mgietler76

I was also engaged to said person my family hated, I cannot even tell you how relieved they were (as well as myself) that I called it off

AllAboutTheBenjamin

Well if what you're saying is true, you just have to ignore her.  Some people just don't like seeing other people happy.  Don't let it ruin your life. 

NatesGirl16

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I SO want to slap that girl..... : At random.... they don't see eachother EVER because when he and I come to family functions.... She leaves, or just completley ignores the two of us. Really puts the rest of the family in an odd position.   She and I had a good relationship at one time, but it was on her terms.  Basically as long as I was single she liked to hang out with me.  She's never liked anyone I've brought home.  Get this she set me up with this one guy a long time ago and he and I hit it off.  Then as soon as we started to get a bit more seroiuc, she HATED him.  To this day I still don't know why, he never did anything to her or me.... (we split because I got bored and we ended up going to different colleges).
Posted by SSutton14[/QUOTE]

So, this isn't a new thing for her.  Have you tried addressing the underlying issue with her?

mgietler76

What about the rest of your family? Do they also have concerns or just you sister?

Chi_Chi

You make me glad I'm an only child.

But seriously, just ignore her. If you can't do that, tell her to STFU! Tell her you don't want to hear it and will not listen to her talk bad about your FI.

betrothed123

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[QUOTE]What about the rest of your family? Do they also have concerns or just you sister?
Posted by mgietler76[/QUOTE]
Thank you!  I feel like I'm being ignored.  Maybe you'll get an answer.

SSutton14

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I SO want to slap that girl..... : Thank you!  I feel like I'm being ignored.  Maybe you'll get an answer.
Posted by betrothed123[/QUOTE]

Sorry love, I just don't type fast enough. The rest of the family doesn't have an issue with him.  They like him.

mgietler76

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I SO want to slap that girl..... : She and I have had it out about it.  She refuses to see things in any way other than her own, and when I ask her to give me the reason she feels this way, she gets angry and the conversation ends...... Don't get me wrong ladies, I love my sister and I know that deep down somewhere she probably had my best interests at heart, but when she can't even give me a good reason why she dispises him so, it makes me so angry with her.  I love FI and I don't want to lose him over this, but I also don't want to lose my sister.  My final thoughts are this.  When the first niece or nephew comes along I'm sure her frame of mind with come around.  It's just a matter of time I guess.
Posted by SSutton14[/QUOTE]

I am still thoroughly confused and have decided that your sister is BSC. I have one sister and 2 brothers and if ANY of them despised my FI I would definitely not be marrying him.