I got engaged a week ago. We've been together almost 7 years so it's been a long time coming. I've already done some wedding planning within the last year because I knew it was coming. That being said, I already bought my dress (it's red, the whole thing), got my guest list together, picked out my colors and picked my bridesmaids & his groomsmen. FH doesn't really care, he gave me full reign of everything. We're both still in school, he's a doctoral student & I'll be starting grad school next year, so we're really freaking poor. We found a place that we both love & is reasonable enough for us to be able to get married next year instead of 2013. We can afford 120 people, no more. My mom keeps adding more and more people to the guest list. People that hers & my dads friends (that I've never met) or haven't seen since I was a kid. She even wanted me to invite my ex boyfriends mom because she works with my dad. We had a terrible break up and I want nothing to do with my ex's family. She gets mad at me when I tell her to stop inviting people. Her usual response is "Fine, then take everyone off the list" or "You obviously don't care if there's turmoil between your dad & I and our friends". We fought over me having a veil (the dress is red, a white veil looks stupid with it), we fought over my bridesmaids dresses & colors. I'm not a traditional person, never have been. I'm getting really irritated with the whole thing and we've only been afianced a week. We are paying for the wedding. I've done the "Who's day is it?" and "We can't afford it" and "If you add more people, we'll have to get married in a few years instead of next year". It's like she hears me but she's not listenting. Advice?