I'm 33 and paying for my own wedding. Actually that's not true, I make an abysmal amount of money and have student debt so my fiance is paying for it. Anyhoo what's the age/independence limit after which your parents are no longer offered a set number of guests of their choosing to invite to your wedding? Like my aunt got married at 52 a couple of years ago. She didn't ask my freaking 80-year-old grandmother which of her canasta buddies should come.
I want my family to be there when I get married. So my fiance and I are hosting a reception party and inviting said family. I have figured out that all the family and friends I want and need to have there: my mom's family, my dad's family, future in-laws' family. Have consulted with them on who is important to include, who we might be overlooking etc. We can afford to have family. That's it
So what does my mom do but ask if she could invite 3 friends from WORK. These are not people I grew up with. I think I've met each of them twice. I told her no and she said "well you better not turn into a bridezilla." Months later my sister is still asking me to invite at least one of these women.
Um, effing sorry. We have a budget, most imporantly there are friends, personal friends and colleagues of MINE that I had to cut, and frankly the way we are looking at it is we're throwing a party to celebrate our wedding and inviting people who are important to US to it. If my parents were HOSTING the wedding, they could invite Sally from Accounts Payable. My dad? Not asking for jack doo-doo (parents divorced).
I've seen it written on here that you should give Mommy her entourage of cronies but I feel like I'm way past this in my life. When I graduate from my masters program, I'm not letting her invite people to the party. She hasn't invited her friends to my birthday parties. Etc.