Hey girls,
So I have this friend of mine that I have known since kindergarten. She and I were super close all through school and even for a few years after high school, but have since kind of drifted apart due to moves, life choices, etc. She lives in my hometown and I stop by to visit her every now and then. We chat on FB and we always go out for each other's birthdays every year, but our relationship is definitely not what it used to be.
She's a total flake when it comes to RSVPing and actually showing up. She cancels plans at the last minute with no explanation at all, and I have even been in the room while she has cancelled over the phone with someone else and used a complete and utter lie as an excuse.
Last year, she was invited to a close mutual friend's wedding shower and never RSVP'd. I (being one of the BMs) assumed that was a no, and didn't count her in. Sure enough, she shows up at the shower with her infant daughter in tow. Ok, whatever. We quickly accommodated her, no big deal. When it came to the wedding, she complained to the bride that she didn't get a plus 1, so the bride eventually let her have one. Then, the week of the wedding, she entered her 1 year old daughter into one of those scam mall beauty contest things, and was convinced her daughter was going to win the trip to Miami to model. After bitching about not being able to bring her then boyfriend and daughter's father to the wedding, she DOESN'T SHOW UP (costing the B&G money, as you all know), and never even calls or texts that bride to let her know. She skipped a very close friend's wedding to have her baby be part of a modeling shoot that she never even ended up pursuing because, OF COURSE, it was a scam.
Anyway, my shower was last weekend and my sisters called her multiple times to make sure she got the invite and to see if she was coming. No response and she didn't show. She texted me the next day saying that she couldn't get a sitter, she's sorry she couldn't make it, and that she and her bf (not the same one as last year, btw) are DEFINITELY coming to my wedding next month (she didn't send back the RSVP card).
Today is my RSVP date. My parents (who are hosting the wedding in their back yard and are paying for the tent, tables, chairs, alcohol and food...so pretty much the parts of the wedding that require a head count) are saying that she is going to be her usual no-show self, and don't want to pay for her and her boyfriend. I want to have faith and count them in.
What would you do? I guess my fear is that they DO show up and have no seats, and then it makes me look like the bad friend!