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I'm wearing purple today... (warning suicide related)

In honor of the gay teens that have taken their lives due to the relentless bullying by their peers. While it's a tragedy when any child takes their own life for any reason, for us to sit by as a society and allow our children to be bullied to this extent is a travesty. To allow a certain subset of kids bear the brunt of bullying is a hate crime. We need to raise our children better. To be tolerant and compassionate. To understand that just because someone is different, it does not make them a punching bag. To know that their words are powerful and can be more harmful than any punch to the face or kick to the stomach. We need to set a better example too. In our local, state and federal governments. We need to show that it is not ok to treat a class of citizens as secondary or lesser than. We need to pass ENDA, over turn Don't Ask, Don't Tell (completely and finally), and repeal DOMA so that the LGBT citizens are no longer publicly bullied by the government. We need our schools to stick up for these kids and DO SOMETHING when parents call stating their gay son is being bullied before it is too late. We need to reach out to gay teens and let them know that there is hope, IT GETS BETTER. There are resources for them, like The Trevor Project, and if their families and communities don't support them, that they can find a new one that will.

I'm wearing purple today for

Billy Lucas (15) September 9, 2010. Indiana

Cody J. Barker (17) September 13, 2010. Wisconsin

Seth Walsh (13) September 19, 2010. California

Tyler Clementi (18) September 22, 2010. New Jersey

Asher Brown (13) September 23, 2010. Texas

Harrison Chase Brown (15) September, 25 2010. Colorado

Raymond Chase (19) September 29, 2010. Rhode Island

Felix Sacco (17) September 29, 2010. Massachusetts

Caleb Nolt (14) September 30, 2010. Indiana


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  • I'm wearing purple today too, but just because.

    I'll get on board with this though.
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  • I wore purple on accidenttoday, but now am glad I did!
  • I wore purple today, and  I knew why I was wearing it. Something needs to be done about this.
  • This whole thing is beyond sad. 

    I don't own anything purple that I could have worn in 40 degree weather, unfortunately.

    But I'm thinking of all these people throughout the day.
  • I have my purple on....granted its a purple tank top and it's only 45 degrees out, but I did manage to find something to put over it so I could show my support. It makes me sick to think there are young teens out there who bully other young teens into this type of abuse...My brother has been bullied for being gay for 8 years and it tears me apart. It was so bad that it got to the point of people driving by my mothers house and shouting gay comments at him and throwing things at him....

    Just one more reason I'm glad I left the South and there assbackwards way of thinking.
  • I wish I knew abiout this before this morning. I am wearing black and grey. :(
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    [QUOTE]I have my purple on....granted its a purple tank top and it's only 45 degrees out, but I did manage to find something to put over it so I could show my support. It makes me sick to think there are young teens out there who bully other young teens into this type of abuse...My brother has been bullied for being gay for 8 years and it tears me apart. It was so bad that it got to the point of people driving by my mothers house and shouting gay comments at him and throwing things at him.... <strong>Just one more reason I'm glad I left the South and there assbackwards way of thinking.
    </strong>Posted by RosenB[/QUOTE]

    This is a terrible generalization of the South. I'm a little offended.
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    [QUOTE]I have my purple on....granted its a purple tank top and it's only 45 degrees out, but I did manage to find something to put over it so I could show my support. It makes me sick to think there are young teens out there who bully other young teens into this type of abuse...<strong>My brother has been bullied for being gay for 8 years and it tears me apart. It was so bad that it got to the point of people driving by my mothers house and shouting gay comments at him and throwing things at him</strong>.... Just one more reason I'm glad I left the South and there assbackwards way of thinking.
    Posted by RosenB[/QUOTE]

    Rosen, I'm so sorry to hear this... I was lucky to grow up in a pretty diverse community in the NE, so while I dealt with my fair share of comments, for the most part this behavoir was considered unacceptable by the community. Please let your brother know that it gets better, that he'll find his niche in college and in his career. He'll make friends that accept him and love him and he will have a full and beautiful life despite what all those other kids say he's wonderful just the way he is. *hugs*

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    [QUOTE]Just one more reason I'm glad I left the South and there assbackwards way of thinking.
    Posted by RosenB[/QUOTE]

    Um, excuse me? Not everyone in the south is like that. Thanks for such a blatantly ignorant generalization.

    ETA--check out that list in the OP. Notice how the kids who died were from all over the nation? Yeah, bullying happens everywhere.
  • I didn't know anything about this.  I don't even think I have anything purple but I will be thinking about this issue today.
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  • I wore purple by accident but I'm glad I did. I'm not sure where I stand on all things GLBT, but I believe no one should be harrased to the point of feeling the need to take their own life.

    As for the south generalization, I agree it was stereotypical, but welcome to SB.
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  • I'm wearing purple today. But I guess it's invalid since I'm from the south? Sorry I can't help the cause, guys.
  • Bec, you are from the south and wearing purple. I am from the north and not wearing purple. Do we cancel each other out?
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    [QUOTE]I'm wearing purple today. But I guess it's invalid since I'm from the south? Sorry I can't help the cause, guys.
    Posted by BecW2be[/QUOTE]

    I'm not wearing purple, I'm wearing blue. Apparently I really am ass-backwards. Damn.
  • My school is participating in this today.  I didn't wear purple (I didn't have antyhing and I'm really involved in the LGBT community anyway), but a ton of my kids did and I was pretty impressed by that.  They actually know what it signifies, so the fact that they made the choice to participate makes me hopeful.
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: I'm wearing purple today... (warning suicide related) : I'm not wearing purple, I'm wearing blue. Apparently I really am ass-backwards. Damn.
    Posted by Seshat411[/QUOTE]

    Me too sesh. I have on turquoise. <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-surprised.gif" border="0" alt="Surprised" title="Surprised" />
  • SarahPLizSarahPLiz member
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    edited October 2010
    I've worn purple every day this week except today. Today its all black. I guess that's fitting as well. 

    ETA: I posted this, and it disappeared. I posted again, and now this shows up. Who fed the TK gremlins?
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    [QUOTE]My school is participating in this today.  I didn't wear purple (I didn't have antyhing and I'm really involved in the LGBT community anyway),<strong> but a ton of my kids did and I was pretty impressed by that.  They actually know what it signifies, so the fact that they made the choice to participate makes me hopeful.</strong>
    Posted by NatesGirl16[/QUOTE]


    This makes me happy. Maybe there is hope after all
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  • This is the only day this week I am not wearing purple. Its my favorite color. I'm in all black today, but I guess that is also fitting. 

    I have lots of friends and family members in the LGBTQ community, and I know some of them have been through this bullying. It breaks my heart. I am so thankful that none of them took their own life because of it. 
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: I'm wearing purple today... (warning suicide related) : <strong>Um, excuse me? Not everyone in the south is like that. Thanks for such a blatantly ignorant generalization.</strong>ETA--check out that list in the OP. Notice how the kids who died were from all over the nation? Yeah, bullying happens everywhere.
    Posted by Seshat411[/QUOTE]

    I have lived in the heart of GA for many years and witnessed nothing but hatred for anyone who wasn't a rebel and didn't have a rebel flag painted on the back window of their enormous pick up truck that was painted in camouflage colors. So NO it was not an IGNORANT generalization! Especially when it personally affected my family!
  • Considering you called the entire south ass-backwards, yeah, it was. Not all of Georgia is that way either. I have many family members who live in Georgia who are not like that at all. Was your specific area ass-backwards? Sure. The entire south? No.


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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: I'm wearing purple today... (warning suicide related) : I have lived in the heart of GA for many years and witnessed nothing but hatred for anyone who wasn't a rebel and didn't have a rebel flag painted on the back window of their enormous pick up truck that was painted in camouflage colors. So NO it was not an IGNORANT generalization! Especially when it personally affected my family!
    Posted by RosenB[/QUOTE]

    You're basically classifying an entire region based on your personal experiences. I'm sure there are plenty of people in the south that would highly disagree with you
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  • I am also in GA, so without knowing what town you are referring too- its still stings that you assume we are all like that.  Times change and people along with it- I'm wearing purple today because its the right thing to do.  Oh and I've yet to see a rebel flag in our new neighborhood- but thanks.
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: I'm wearing purple today... (warning suicide related) : I have lived in the heart of GA for many years and witnessed nothing but hatred for anyone who wasn't a rebel and didn't have a rebel flag painted on the back window of their enormous pick up truck that was painted in camouflage colors. So NO it was not an IGNORANT generalization! Especially when it personally affected my family!
    Posted by RosenB[/QUOTE]

    So, you lived in a small pocket of one state in a large area of the country, and you still don't think your generalization was sweeping and ignorant? Alrighty then.

    Your community affected your family. Not the entire south. False and, yes, ignorant generalizations are the reasons any people feel judged and bullied. I'm sorry some people in the south were awful to your brother, but most of us are accepting, open-minded and loving of all people.
  • Well, my panties are purple.

    I'm excited to go home this weekend - two of my uncles are going to be home to help my dad harvest, and each are bringing their two sons.  One of my uncle's sons (8 and 10) are jocks, and the other two (6 and 7) are kinda dorky little kids, but sweethearts.  My older little cousins CONSTANTLY bully the younger ones.

    I'm excited because when I catch them doing it this weekend, I'm going to rip those kids a new asshole.  On front of their parents, who never do ANYTHING.

    Also, Rosen - I think you will find bigotry in any region of the country.  Where I live, there is not as much racial diversity.  I think people around here like to think they're tolerant, but we had an incident here just this week where a plane had to land and investigate their passengers because a Saudi Arabian college student used the lavatory.

    There is hate everywhere, don't generalize the South like that.  Jeez.
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  • edited October 2010
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: I'm wearing purple today... (warning suicide related) : So, you lived in a small pocket of one state in a large area of the country, and you still don't think your generalization was sweeping and ignorant? Alrighty then. Your community affected your family. Not the entire south. <strong>False and, yes, ignorant generalizations are the reasons any people feel judged and bullied.</strong> I'm sorry some people in the south were awful to your brother, but most of us are accepting, open-minded and loving of all people.
    Posted by BecW2be[/QUOTE]


    This!

    I really am sorry about what happened to your brother, but making a generalization about how all people of a certain kind/area are, is exactly what they did to your brother and you turned around and did the same thing.

    I get that you're angry, I would be too. But take the high road. Two wrongs don't make a right.

    ETA: You can't promote tolerance by being intolerant.
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: I'm wearing purple today... (warning suicide related) : I have lived in the heart of GA for many years and witnessed nothing but hatred for anyone who wasn't a rebel and didn't have a rebel flag painted on the back window of their enormous pick up truck that was painted in camouflage colors. So NO it was not an IGNORANT generalization! Especially when it personally affected my family!
    Posted by RosenB[/QUOTE]

    <div>hm. Good job.  You brought stereotypes into a thread that was all about NOT stereotyping and categorizing people together.  </div><div>
    </div><div>FWIW. I grew up in Wisconsin (which last I checked is in the North), and there were morons there too.  Rebel flags and all.  Stupidity exists everywhere... but thankfully, humanity does too.</div>
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: I'm wearing purple today... (warning suicide related) : I have lived in the heart of GA for many years and witnessed nothing but hatred for anyone who wasn't a rebel and didn't have a rebel flag painted on the back window of their enormous pick up truck that was painted in camouflage colors. So NO it was not an IGNORANT generalization! Especially when it personally affected my family!
    Posted by RosenB[/QUOTE]

    No offense, but the south =/= just Georgia.
  • Just one more reason I'm glad I left the South and there assbackwards way of thinking.

    This makes me laugh.
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: I'm wearing purple today... (warning suicide related) : I have lived in the heart of GA for many years and witnessed nothing but hatred for anyone who wasn't a rebel and didn't have a rebel flag painted on the back window of their enormous pick up truck that was painted in camouflage colors. So NO it was not an IGNORANT generalization! Especially when it personally affected my family!
    Posted by RosenB[/QUOTE]

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    </div><div>When people say things like this, it makes me assume that they don't get out much.  Seems like maybe you've watched a couple of movies about the south and rebels, and you're trying to relate.  Bad shiit happens everywhere, and morons are in every state.  Don't try to generalize to a location. </div>
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