I'm trying not to sound like a Bridezilla. In fact, I've been exceedingly careful to make sure that my bridal party understands that I'm pretty chill about everything - haven't had any "rules" and haven't had any requirements or special requests other than that they are available to show up for the wedding in the dress that I purchased for them and stay in the hotel I am paying for.
But my MOH is really adding to my stress. She is my best friend from childhood, college, and now we both work together at the same company and in the same department...so we see each other 24/7. 8 months ago she broke up with her long term boyfriend and I helped her through every step of the way when she found out he was cheating on her. But she says that my wedding is now making her depressed. And she posts all these anti-wedding things on facebook like "I hate it how all my friends are engaged" and she ditches any get togethers I've hosted for the bridesmaids. She let my FMIL plan the entire bridal shower and she didn't contribute anything to it.
25 days to go until the big day and I've been talking constantly about how I am swamped. Most of the wedding stuff I am doing by hand - and she's really crafty too, and told me over a month ago that she would come by my house and help me out. I haven't been looking for her to bend over backwards or be a crafting slave for my wedding, but I haven't gotten even a moment of her help. And now she says she can't make it to the bridesmaid tea that I'm hosting the day before the wedding because she took too many personal days off of work lately. I try so hard not to talk about the wedding 24/7, but any time I try to ask her for a suggestion or vent, she cuts me off and starts talking about how she misses her ex and the wedding makes her sad. It's realy not fair and I don't know the best way to handle this situation.