A-hole of the month: me

AllAboutTheBenjamin

So I was home over the weekend and I was looking over our guest list making sure we'd heard from everyone when I noticed that someone wasn't on the list.  It was a co-worker of mine.  A co-worker I work very close with and talk to the MOST at the office.  Every.Damn.Day.

I felt like throwing up and asked my mom if we'd heard from them.  Nope.

I called him right away and asked (praying) if he'd gotten an invitation.  Nope.

Yeah.  I wanted to crawl into a cave and just DIE.  I cannot believe I overlooked him.  I even asked for his address and everything.  I just had forgotten to copy/paste it to the master list.

Fortunately he was really cool about it and laughed it off, apparently he and his family were planning on coming anyway.  I hand delivered him an invitation this morning, still feeling like crap - and he still was trying to make me feel okay about it.

Ugh.

I always miss the good morning thread but uh, hi everyone

anna.oskar

What an Asshole!

Just kidding, you're fine!  I totally did the same thing with one of my cousins.  I sent her sister an invite but just never put her info on the list to mail her one.

[Deleted User]

See, the problem is that you admitted to it. White Lie time: the invite must have got lost in the mail! So sorry!

Simple, and believable. Is lying good, no. But in this case, it was all very innocent.

pirategal03

Blame the post office.

One of my co-workers invites got legitimately lost in the mail.  I invited a group of us that work closely together (about 20 people), and of course only hers gets lost, and she's the one who thinks it's a big consipracy that I invited everyone but her.  Blah.

Sooo yeah, blame the post office.  And don't worry about it too much.  You caught it before the wedding, so it's under control. 

amylydia23

It's a little early in the month to be handing out that award but at least everything is figured out now! 

AllAboutTheBenjamin

We actually DID have one go missing in the mail - it was to one of our groomsman and his fiancee.  I called him and asked him what he wanted to eat (because he never responded) and he said he never got an invitation.

BLUGH.

kd.joseph

I think you are being to hard on yourself AATB. And most people understand that crap happens. It's not something you set out to do.

And good morning!

betrothed123

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_hole-of-month?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:88568ddf-ce87-40d5-874f-9aa35e17397aPost:c6de84dd-08d8-4ecc-9e2e-dc0dc57ad187">Re: A-hole of the month: me</a>:
[QUOTE]See, the problem is that you admitted to it. White Lie time: the invite must have got lost in the mail! So sorry! Simple, and believable. Is lying good, no. But in this case, it was all very innocent.
Posted by schlagetermari[/QUOTE]
This is exactly what I would have done.

AllAboutTheBenjamin

Thanks kd.  I guess if it WAS going to happen to someone, this guy is probably the most understanding, and I'm glad I didn't lie to him.  He's totally cool with it even though I felt so incredibly bad.

Lol, I love how he was planning to just come anyway. 

ohwhynot

Aw, you did the right thing.  I don't see any reason to lie - you made a human mistake and copped to it.  Why blame the post office?  You're obviously sorry you made the mistake and the guy knows that, so you're good now.  Let yourself off the hook. 

LessThanZero

I really don't think I could have lied either.

This definitely doesn't make you an a-hole. I think you did the right thing too. It happens and it wasn't intentional so it's all good.

ETA: Spelling.

Celles

I agree with OWN.  It was an honest mistake and you did the grown-up thing by admitting to it.  Your coworker's feelings obviously aren't hurt, so give yourself a break.  The last thing you want is to make him feel bad because you feel bad, which will then make you feel bad that he feels bad that you-- oh, nevermind.  You get the idea. 

Lenore2010

So, you are coming on her claiming A-Hole of the month for THAT?! Sounds like an innocent mistake to me and all is forgiven.

A-Hole of the MONTH? Some people like to give themselves a lot of credit! 

KaylaSue19

I agree, you did that right thing. I am happy for you that it was someone who was understanding and not upset. I don't really see how anyone could be that angry over a mistake, but ya know there really are some a-holes out there. You are not one of them, AATB.

AllAboutTheBenjamin

I felt better after he told me it wasn't a big deal - but you guys saying it's not a big deal helps too.

Thanks girls

Steph0871

dude. This is a perfect chance to blame the USPS.  We had to do that a few times (2 of 3 really were lost in the mail.)

kpwedkk

Things really get lost in the mail, it's unfortunate, but there are humans behind the scenes, not robots, and we tend to make mistakes.  At least you found out in time!!