Gifts for upcoming wedding.

RYoung1485

A friend of FI and I is getting married a week from today. I say $50 is an appropriate amount to spend on the gift, FI says $100 is more appropriate. What d you ladies find to  be an appropriate amount to spend on a wedding gift.

on a side note- I would expect this particular couple to spend maaaaaybe $30 on us for our wedding.

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We give what we can afford at that time. Your gift shouldn't be based on how much they may or may not spend on your wedding. There is no "right" amount. We usually give around $50 if a check or gift card, or buy something off a registry that doesn't cost a fortune.

staceytaylor0704

Yep, what sesh said. I went to a wedding yesterday and only gave a $30 giftcard, because its all I could afford right now. Buying new tires, vet visits, and paying for a wedding has drained me lately. Definitely should not base it off what you think they woudl spend on you.

number55

We give about $100 each, so $200 a couple. But we are at a point in our lives where we can afford to give that much (I have been to 4 weddings in the past year and a bit, I gave that amount at 3 of them and about $150 (for two of us) at the fourth).

The only other wedding I have been to was when I was about 25. I gave a $40 gift. But that was what I could afford then. 

LesPaul

Right or wrong, I base it somewhat on our relationship.  If it's a more casual friend or coworker, then it's usually about $50.  For someone closer to us, maybe $100-$150. 

nda_roxybabe

We give what we can afford which is not a lot but what are we supposed to do? I don't base it on the couple or anything.

mocha beans

Give what you can afford.  If that's $100, then do that, if $50 is more affordable then give that much.  It's up to you.  We usually give around $30-40, depending on our situation.  If we had one to go to now, it'd be $20 cause that's all we can really swing.

kimheartsscott

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[QUOTE]Yep, what sesh said. I went to a wedding yesterday and only gave a $30 giftcard, because its all I could afford right now. <strong>Buying new tires, vet visits, and paying for a wedding has drained me lately.</strong> Definitely should not base it off what you think they woudl spend on you.
Posted by staceytaylor0704[/QUOTE]

This EXACTLY. 

The last wedding we were invited to we sent a $40 gift.  If we were going to a wedding next weekend it would be $30 to $40 max.  Until we are out of school and past all this wedding business, I can't see us spending $100 on anybody except immediate family.

LP11509

Ditto to everyone who said give what you can afford.  But for the sake of settling your disagreement, maybe compromise and give $75 this time?

RYoung1485

Thanks ladies, The only reason I brought up what theyd likely spend on ours is to show that the friendship is not a very close one these days. In the midst of our wedding planning, remodeling our house, my school and some other financially draining endeavors I really think we SHOULD only spend about $50. I tend to lean in the middle of what you ladies have said.. I spend based off how close I am to the person and what I can afford at the time. For this specific event, if I were single, I'd only spend about $25. But FI is less emotional of a spender than I am when it comes to these situations. 

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

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[QUOTE]<strong>We give about $100 each, so $200 a couple.</strong> But we are at a point in our lives where we can afford to give that much (I have been to 4 weddings in the past year and a bit, I gave that amount at 3 of them and about $150 (for two of us) at the fourth). The only other wedding I have been to was when I was about 25. I gave a $40 gift. But that was what I could afford then. 
Posted by number55[/QUOTE]

This. It also depends somewhat on the relationship, but if we are close and go to the wedding, that's about what we spend.

allisong23

I usually do the $100 each, $200 for a couple thing myself.

betrothed123

It depends on the relationship, but I give what I can afford, not a set amount.