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whereyat

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J&K10910

You'll never see me post a bio or anything like that.  It took me forever to even post an actual picture of me, and not just Box Kitty.  I am FB friends with a bunch of knotties, but I talk with most of them off TK as well.  I deny a lot of FB friend requests from people that I don't talk to off TK and I regularly clean house. 

Not because I'm worried about them canceling my vendors, etc, but just because I don't need random internet people (internet "friends" or not) knowing much personal info about me. 

J&K10910

Oh, and I've also been really careful about posting complaints about my job (aside from just the fact that I work too many hours) or specifics about stuff that happens at work just because I'm paranoid a coworker or supervisor or something will see it. 

[Deleted User]

It would be pointless for me to be worried about people knowing my name, considering that the profession I'm working towards requires people to know who I am. I don't say a whole lot about H because he prefers me not to, and I would never post anything about a fight w have or anything else that people might remember. 

As for FB, I'm friends with a lot of people from here but only the ones I trust not to go BSC on me. And I don't post work rants or anything that could be held against me on FB because I have work friends on there and a supervisor. And even if I didn't, you just never know. 

 

anna.oskar

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_speaking-of-internet-weirdness?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:8d043c63-6057-48dd-ac6f-f52ce4ab1550Post:ae5dfba0-6d1c-47bc-99de-8b95d8ac390c">Re: Speaking of internet weirdness -</a>:
[QUOTE]I think the longer you stay here, the easier it is to get really comfortable and operate under the illusion that it's just you and your reg friends chatting. <strong>But if you go over to the nest, it shows how many views vs. how many replies each thread has, and the number of views is usually exponentially and disturbingly more than the replies, which means there are a whooooole lotta strangers out there watching what you write about yourself who you will never know.</strong> It's the reason I no longer have a bio or use my real name. Even my profile here is privatized. I don't mention specifics on the city I live in, weekend plans/locations, schools I went to, wedding venues, nothing like that. And using your real name and email is pretty foolish as well. A lot of knotties get around the email thing by using a junk email for knotting, such as theirknotsn@gmail.com or something. Then they can give it out here without much worry.
Posted by beatlesgirl25[/QUOTE]

Do you remember when Fish posted her wedding video link and there were like 500+ hits on it even though there were only like 25 regs online?  THAT creeps me out.

beatlesgirl25

Word to the wise: Do NOT FB friend J&K. She likes to sign people up for internet bondage porn and sex toys. I think Cew's in on it too, because of the dildos.

Belle2Be

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_speaking-of-internet-weirdness?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:8d043c63-6057-48dd-ac6f-f52ce4ab1550Post:4aaaea20-9796-4892-832c-ad05467e9d98">Re: Speaking of internet weirdness -</a>:
[QUOTE]Seeing as I met my H online, i don't have a problem sharing a bit online.  I think most people are pretty safe as long as they take normal precautions.  The likelihood for psychos is pretty equal whether online or in real life.
Posted by anna.oskar[/QUOTE]
See I disagree, only because I've seen a lot of people who think they are normal but really are bat-frickin crazy. I've seen people email a womans work clientelle, even Dr. google enough info to call the cops  or contact FB friends and link them to whatever.  I used to post on a Debate Team board where things would get REALLY heated, and people do crazy shiit sometimes when they get pissed enough.

anna.oskar

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_speaking-of-internet-weirdness?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:8d043c63-6057-48dd-ac6f-f52ce4ab1550Post:6ec65206-57e1-436c-a3a8-9a4a90c56264">Re: Speaking of internet weirdness -</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Speaking of internet weirdness - : See I disagree, only because I've seen a lot of people who think they are normal but really are bat-frickin crazy. I've seen people email a womans work clientelle, even Dr. google enough info to call the cops  or contact FB friends and link them to whatever.  I used to post on a Debate Team board where things would get REALLY heated, and people do crazy shiit sometimes when they get pissed enough.
Posted by Belle2Be[/QUOTE]

You know, you're right.  I guess when I said "normal precautions" i meant normal for me.  People DO put a lot out there.  Valid point on your part.  :)

So when i say precautions, I mean modern common sense in the internet age.

reddy123

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_speaking-of-internet-weirdness?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:8d043c63-6057-48dd-ac6f-f52ce4ab1550Post:ae5dfba0-6d1c-47bc-99de-8b95d8ac390c">Re: Speaking of internet weirdness -</a>:
[QUOTE]I think the longer you stay here, the easier it is to get really comfortable and operate under the illusion that it's just you and your reg friends chatting. <strong>But if you go over to the nest, it shows how many views vs. how many replies each thread has, and the number of views is usually exponentially and disturbingly more than the replies, which means there are a whooooole lotta strangers out there watching what you write about yourself who you will never know.</strong> 
Posted by beatlesgirl25[/QUOTE]

<div>This. I always wonder if they will change the format like that here eventually, or if they don't because we have 1000x as many lurkers and it would scare too many off.</div><div>
</div>

BecW2be

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_speaking-of-internet-weirdness?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:8d043c63-6057-48dd-ac6f-f52ce4ab1550Post:357f13fa-bf93-47f2-918b-27265bb42dbf">Re: Speaking of internet weirdness -</a>:
[QUOTE]You'll never see me post a bio or anything like that.  It took me forever to even post an actual picture of me, and not just Box Kitty.  I am FB friends with a bunch of knotties, but I talk with most of them off TK as well.  I deny a lot of FB friend requests from people that I don't talk to off TK and I regularly clean house.  Not because I'm worried about them canceling my vendors, etc, but just because I don't need random internet people (internet "friends" or not) knowing much personal info about me. 
Posted by J&K10910[/QUOTE]

You have your own TLC show. Why would we need even more info about you?

J&K10910

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_speaking-of-internet-weirdness?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:8d043c63-6057-48dd-ac6f-f52ce4ab1550Post:74879f03-4c59-4a06-aeab-8bd2e856bb30">Re: Speaking of internet weirdness -</a>:
[QUOTE]Word to the wise: Do NOT FB friend J&K. She likes to sign people up for internet bondage porn and sex toys. I think Cew's in on it too, because of the dildos.
Posted by beatlesgirl25[/QUOTE]

Dude, I TOLD you.  That was NOT me.  The political spam and free samples, yes.  The sex toys and porn is NOT ME.  I keep that shiit for myself.  I mean....uhmmm...yeah.  NOT ME.

beatlesgirl25

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_speaking-of-internet-weirdness?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:8d043c63-6057-48dd-ac6f-f52ce4ab1550Post:6cfc490f-e1e0-4f6d-be3b-3018427bb5bd">Re: Speaking of internet weirdness -</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Speaking of internet weirdness - : Do you remember when Fish posted her wedding video link and there were like 500+ hits on it even though there were only like 25 regs online?  THAT creeps me out.
Posted by anna.oskar[/QUOTE]

Exactly Anna. You just never know who was watching that while simulatneously reenacting it with their homemade Fishy bride and groom dolls.

J&K10910

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_speaking-of-internet-weirdness?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:8d043c63-6057-48dd-ac6f-f52ce4ab1550Post:9c719e42-81d8-434a-9a3b-2d0d33a0b77f">Re: Speaking of internet weirdness -</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Speaking of internet weirdness - : You have your own TLC show. Why would we need even more info about you?
Posted by BecW2be[/QUOTE]

Up yours, lady.

anna.oskar

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_speaking-of-internet-weirdness?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:8d043c63-6057-48dd-ac6f-f52ce4ab1550Post:ff408a82-952e-4f3f-be49-24a386dd0b77">Re: Speaking of internet weirdness -</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Speaking of internet weirdness - : Exactly Anna. You just never know who was watching that while simulatneously reenacting it with their homemade Fishy bride and groom dolls.
Posted by beatlesgirl25[/QUOTE]


That seriously just made my skin crawl.  eww

beatlesgirl25

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_speaking-of-internet-weirdness?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:8d043c63-6057-48dd-ac6f-f52ce4ab1550Post:2c96af84-8416-44a8-9c65-51830c75a96b">Re: Speaking of internet weirdness -</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Speaking of internet weirdness - : Dude, I TOLD you.  That was NOT me.  The political spam and free samples, yes.  The sex toys and porn is NOT ME.  I keep that shiit for myself.  I mean....uhmmm...yeah.  NOT ME.
Posted by J&K10910[/QUOTE]

Busted. For the last time, I do not need to enlarge my member!

ricksang

I only feel weird about posting when I post naked pictures of myself.

Belle2Be

This thread makes me laugh

J&K10910

I wish I could be serious about anything.

K Byte

I have "internet friends" from other forums on Facebook but I restrict them from seeing certain information on my profile such as my hometown, current town, and work and school information. I do like to be somewhat careful what I post on this board and other fully public forums, but I belong to a forum that's been closed off to the public for YEARS and on there I'll post just about anything.

BecW2be

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_speaking-of-internet-weirdness?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:8d043c63-6057-48dd-ac6f-f52ce4ab1550Post:a62505f0-756d-4d10-8d92-d78042704476">Re: Speaking of internet weirdness -</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Speaking of internet weirdness - : Up yours, lady.
Posted by J&K10910[/QUOTE]

Aw, you called me lady!

I can't believe you were so careful choosing that sig pic. Now we all know your last name is Rodgers! Duh!

J&K10910

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_speaking-of-internet-weirdness?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:8d043c63-6057-48dd-ac6f-f52ce4ab1550Post:4c250ee6-16d3-4709-a7c2-52470ed6b51f">Re: Speaking of internet weirdness -</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Speaking of internet weirdness - : Aw, you called me lady! I can't believe you were so careful choosing that sig pic. Now we all know your last name is Rodgers! Duh!
Posted by BecW2be[/QUOTE]

It's true, you could be anyone.  I guess I have no way of knowing for sure you're a lady.  You could be that old man in his underoos. 

Sometimes I wish my last name was Rodgers.  I'd let him complete a pass or two, oh yes I would.  Even if he is a little goofy looking.

Celles

When I was young and stupid, I agreed to meet a guy IRL who I "knew" from a roleplaying community on AOL.  (No, not THAT kind of roleplaying!  The nerdy kind!  Elves and dwarves and all that.)   Anyway, he turned out to be really pushy and wouldn't take no for an answer, so things didn't go very well for the naive and sheltered 18 year-old me. 

I don't blame the Internet for that, though.  I blame me for being stupid and my parents for failing to prepare me for life on my own.  You can't forbid your teenage daughter from having friends and boyfriends and expect her to survive college guys unscathed.

I guess the way I see it is that there are shitty people IRL and on the Internet.  The medium doesn't really change things.  Anyone you meet out and about in the world can hurt you, and you certainly won't have a screen name to hide behind.  So I don't go to any great lengths to protect my identity online, but I do make a point of being aware of my surroundings, being wary of people, and not taking unnecessary risks in the real world.


eta - This took so long to type that the entire tone of the thread changed.  Now I feel awkward about posting.  :P

BecW2be

I'm totally going to stalk MN for the Rodgers-Allen wedding and find you. I'm internet savy like that.

beatlesgirl25

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_speaking-of-internet-weirdness?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:8d043c63-6057-48dd-ac6f-f52ce4ab1550Post:aaef0aae-31c9-42b2-9808-ae5084f0f5a9">Re: Speaking of internet weirdness -</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Speaking of internet weirdness - : That seriously just made my skin crawl.  eww
Posted by anna.oskar[/QUOTE]

Haha, sorry Anna! Um, I meant figurative dolls. You have to admit that popular regs like that have some weird fans. Backwards fish anyone?

My point is that, when you start posting here, you have no idea the fans or enemies you'll make, or how interested people will be in your life, so it's best not to have a backlog of personal information for anyone to dig up, whatever their reasons.

pirategal03

I don't post a lot of really personal things, and I try not to ask other knotties things that I wouldn't feel comfortable sharing.  I posted more specific wedding things on my local board while I was planning, like venue and vendors and such, but I'm personal friends with many of my vendors, and I kept in contact with the others, so I wasn't too worried about it. 

So why do you just lurk?  Internet security concerns?  Just don't like to talk to us?

J&K10910

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_speaking-of-internet-weirdness?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:8d043c63-6057-48dd-ac6f-f52ce4ab1550Post:b4365eaf-cc97-4028-b39c-558dc26e4319">Re: Speaking of internet weirdness -</a>:
[QUOTE]Thanks for y'alls responses, that was really helpful and informative.  (And also, LOL).  I appreciate the input.  <strong>Dude I want my own TLC show....(actually no, I take that back, not really).</strong>
Posted by whereyat[/QUOTE]

Not if you're Kate from Jon and Kate plus 8.  OR IF YOUR SN IS J&K AND PEOPLE THINK IT'S FUNNY TO MAKE FUN OF IT.  I'M THE J DAMN IT MY NAME IS NOT KATE.

Phew.  I feel better.

BecW2be

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_speaking-of-internet-weirdness?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:8d043c63-6057-48dd-ac6f-f52ce4ab1550Post:dadc6fe2-327f-4b70-a662-8a6d4643539d">Re: Speaking of internet weirdness -</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Speaking of internet weirdness - : Not if you're Kate from Jon and Kate plus 8.  OR IF YOUR SN IS J&K AND PEOPLE THINK IT'S FUNNY TO MAKE FUN OF IT.  I'M THE J DAMN IT MY NAME IS NOT KATE. Phew.  I feel better.
Posted by J&K10910[/QUOTE]

Whatever, Kate.

beatlesgirl25

So J, was your FI mad about having to cover up his Ed Hardy tattoos with that jersey? *ducks*

J&K10910

OH MY GOD I HATE YOU GUYS I'M TAKING MY TOYS AND GOING HOME.

katiewhompus

I feel like I am much more reserved than I used to be with posting the longer I'm here (and the more craziness I see). I try to keep any H gripes to myself or to individuals and try not to complain about family because one of my dad's teachers is on TK somewhere *shifty eyes*. My cousin is also engaged now so I will probably try to avoid talking about family as much as possible jic. Nothing I say is particularly mean or things I wouldn't tell them, but I think it could be wrongly interpretted very easily.

I also never posted about Psmart when I worked there or I would have gotten canned. Now I talk about work but not where I am specifically.

beatlesgirl25

It's okay, I'm on the mailing list. I can get more.