Food picky H?

Night_Sprite

Apparently I have lots of posts to post today. 

I made Irish potatos over the weekend.  Basically you bake wedged potatoes in the crock pot, put in butter, parsley, dill, salt, pepper, and lemon juice and toss.

H doesn't like baked potatoes, so he didn't want to eat it and nibbled despondently.  Am I a mean wife for cooking potatoes, even though I like them or should he suck it up?

J&K10910

If we tell you you're mean, will you never do it again?

Seriously, you can make these decisions by yourself, I promise.  If you like the damn potatoes, make the damn potatoes (they sound DELICIOUS by the way!).  He doesn't have to eat them.

slubkin

I make what I like to eat.  If FI doesn't like it, he can skip it and forage for himself.  He is generally pretty easy to please (although sometimes he avoids vegetables like a little kid) so generally it's not an issue.  But the way I see it is, if I am doing the work to cook, it damn well better be something I want to eat.  If he wants to make the effort to cook for himself, he's welcome to make all the things I DON'T like. 

AllAboutTheBenjamin

Ben is incredibly picky - but I'm mean too.  I'm going to be making things that I like. 

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I make tons of shiit that Matt doesn't like. He just makes himself a sandwich. And if he has a craving for something I don't want, he makes it and I have cottage cheese.

Anysunrise

I'm the picky one, and he's the chef, so he usually makes stuff I like, or whips me up something quick if he wants something I don't. That being said, I'd still eat it if he didn't, he just does it without being asked. So I'd tell him to suck it up or make his own dinner.

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I generally make what I want, but I'm lucky in that H will eat pretty much anything I put in front of him. Sometimes if I have a craving for something he won't like (like Spaghettios), I tell him he's on his own for dinner.

Sometimes H will request something specific, like lasagna or certain dishes, but other than that he doesn't complain because he's just happy he doesn't have to cook.

kpwedkk

Come on, DH has two hands, if he doesn't like what you are cooking, then he can make something too, right??

Potatoes aren't my favorite either, but I swear DH is in love with them sometimes lol!  He can go into graphic detail about potatoes and I just have my eyes roll!

redheadtmk

my SO is super picky too. he doesnt eat poultry or seafood. and doesnt like beef or pork too often. what guy doesnt love meat? i try to make variations of things we can both eat. like i will  broil pork for him and chicken for me. or do steak and chicken fajitas.   he is a good cook so he helps out alot. we usually make something we will both eat for dinner and eat the crap the other doesnt like for lunch or when we are apart.

betrothed123

I'm with J.  If you want the potatoes, make them.  If you'd rather not deal with your H whining about the food don't make them.

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But, I have a serious question. Are you really that worried about it? If so, why? He's a big boy. He can find something else to eat. If want potatoes, you should make potatoes. And then send some to me.

JenGin74

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[QUOTE]Apparently I have lots of posts to post today.  I made <strong><font color="#800000">Irish potatos</font> </strong>over the weekend.  Basically you bake wedged potatoes in the crock pot, put in butter, parsley, dill, salt, pepper, and lemon juice and toss. H doesn't like baked potatoes, so he didn't want to eat it and nibbled despondently.  Am I a mean wife for cooking potatoes, even though I like them or should he suck it up?
Posted by Night_Sprite[/QUOTE]

I thought you were talking about those delicious coconut balls rolled in cinnamon. I love those things.

The potatoes you described sound yummy. Your H should suck it up and eat them!

Night_Sprite

This post was about whether or not I need to be more considerate as I am an alpha personality that needs to be checked from time to time.

Chi_Chi

No, you're not mean. Your H is weird for not liking potatoes.

But seriously, I don't think your actions warrant an "I feel sorry for your H". It's about give and take, right? Now if you lock him in the hall closet and only pass his stale bread a water, well, then...

kimheartsscott

Scott does most of the cooking but yes, we do consider eachother's taste when we are picking meals.  But we are both also capable adults who can make our own food if one of us is feeling like peas (me) or onions (him).

Are you asking if you have the right to be annoyed? I'm kind of lost here.

anna.oskar

Depends, were the potatoes the main dish or merely a side dish?

I wouldn't cook a meal for my husband if I thought he wouldn't eat enough to constitute a meal.  Example:  i made chalupas the other night stuffed with meat and cheese.  H loved it!  The side dish was red beans and rice which I knew he would turn his nose up at and probably wouldn't like even if he tried it.  Do i care?  Nope.  Because the main course was definitely enough food.  The side dish was something i wanted and love.

My H doesn't like many foods at all.  He's not just being picky, he just honestly does not have the tastebuds to appreciate the flavor.  i try to cook my favorites when he's not home or for lunch.  That way neither of us misses out.  Occasionally i've craved something he hates and he's fine with making himself a burger or defrosting soup or pasta sauce out of the freezer as long as I warn him in advance.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

Who the hell doesn't like potatoes?

My H doesn't like beets, brussels sprouts, or fennel. I like the two latter vegetables, but they aren't hard to live without. After all, he doesn't cook meat at home, so not feeding him the veggies he doesn't like is the least I can do.

But I have a low tolerance for REALLY picky eaters, because I like food so much. If he wouldn't eat tons of normal, common food, I'd probably get annoyed and make it anyway. 

martha783

Sounds like you have a pretty healthy attitude, assuming he was fine with eating something else and you enjoying what you made but knew he wouldn't eat.

I have major issues with this area because I come from a family where love is food and my family LOVES all food as well and I grew up feeling loved by how much of my cooking my family ate. NO picky eaters or off-limits foods. My FI, is picky by my standards and eats like a child in what he avoids. The more gourmet I cook, the less he likes it. His mother doesnt care if he eats her food, if he likes he eats, if he doesn't he says so and finds something else. This makes me cry! I know it is MY problem that I associate love with food and not his so I try to change but haven't stopped crying when he says he doesn't care for something I put a lot of time into. I DO feel sometimes like he should TRY harder to broaden his tastes. I don't know about "suck it up" cuz I want him to like, not just eat...but liking can be a choice, right? He doesn't lie and pretend to like, that's for sure.

He wants me to cook what i like regardless of him, but I get no joy in cooking for myself. I guess others here are different!