I don't care that no one is here, can we do Unpop Ops?

ricksang

To be honest, IDK if I would do it.

NatesGirl16

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[QUOTE]I think mean things said on the internet hurt a person's feelings, and it doesn't make that person an idiot because "it's just the internet."
Posted by MandK9[/QUOTE]
I completely agree with this.  And I freely admit that I have said, "Ugh, man up" in some cases but have been personally upset over things as well.

MeaghanandMichael

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I don't care that no one is here, can we do Unpop Ops? : Oh, well that would be nice if it's not unpopular around here.  It makes me said to see someone ripped apart online by strangers, then have that person display their sadness and be ripped apart more because "OMG how lame are you that internet strangers' comments actually hurt your feelings??"
Posted by MandK9[/QUOTE]

This is circumstantial to me. Some people deserve to feel sad about themselves for treating people they way they often describe in their OPs, kwim? At least I would want some one to show ME the light. But, if I felt strongly I had reasons for my actions that were justified and people ripped me apart, my IRL friends anf family certainly would matter much more to me than internet strangers so I actually wouldn't really be that hurt.

[Deleted User]

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[QUOTE]To be honest, IDK if I would do it.
Posted by ricksang[/QUOTE]

I bet you would. You're too sweet.

Also, it probably will end up saving her business and that will really benefit her in the long run.

ricksang

I would hope I would.

betrothed123

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I don't care that no one is here, can we do Unpop Ops? : Hmmm I have never heard of anyone doing this and I live in the most generous state according to polls.<strong> I still think her comments were assholish.</strong>
Posted by ricksang[/QUOTE]
Exactly.  I look at it from a different perspective, Cew.  My dad owns his own company, and has for over 20 years.  He's gone over 5 years at a time without pay to make sure his employees were still pulling in enough money to survive.  He never made the news for it, and my parents sacrifices went completely unnoticed by the vast majority of the people who were benefitting from it.  I don't think that lessens what this woman did, though.  It's nice to hear those types of stories instead of hearing the ones where the CEOs are jacking up their pay while the employees are struggling to make ends meet.  That's why it's a feel good story, not because she's the only person in the world to ever do something like that.

[Deleted User]

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I don't care that no one is here, can we do Unpop Ops? : Exactly.  I look at it from a different perspective, Cew.  My dad owns his own company, and has for over 20 years.  He's gone over 5 years at a time without pay to make sure his employees were still pulling in enough money to survive.  He never made the news for it, and my parents sacrifices went completely unnoticed by the vast majority of the people who were benefitting from it.  <strong>I don't think that lessens what this woman did, though.  It's nice to hear those types of stories instead of hearing the ones where the CEOs are jacking up their pay while the employees are struggling to make ends meet.  That's why it's a feel good story, not because she's the only person in the world to ever do something like that.
</strong>Posted by betrothed123[/QUOTE]

This makes total sense. I wasn't looking at it that way, but you are right. It would be nice to see more of the positive side of business. It would also be nice if the big companies would take note and start doing things like our dads and this woman did.

MandK9

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I don't care that no one is here, can we do Unpop Ops? : This is circumstantial to me. Some people deserve to feel sad about themselves for treating people they way they often describe in their OPs, kwim? At least I would want some one to show ME the light. But, if I felt strongly I had reasons for my actions that were justified and people ripped me apart, my IRL friends anf family certainly would matter much more to me than internet strangers so I actually wouldn't really be that hurt.
Posted by MeaghanandMichael[/QUOTE]

No I totally agree with you, some people completely get what they "deserve" when they make asinine posts about the abhorrent things they've done.  I'm more referring to when people make fun of others' weight, looks, SES-- i.e. things that don't actually make them detestable people.

betrothed123

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I don't care that no one is here, can we do Unpop Ops? : This makes total sense. I wasn't looking at it that way, but you are right. It would be nice to see more of the positive side of business. It would also be nice if the big companies would take note and start doing things like our dads and this woman did.
Posted by cew515[/QUOTE]
I couldn't possibly agree with that last sentence any more.

ricksang

MandK we don't do that here on SB, unless a troll or AE says them.

Wrkn925

We deep fry our turkey, it's a lot better that way.

UO: I don't think people (*cough* my sister) should give in to super picky eaters.
My parents offered me a meal.  If I didn't eat it, I could skip it.  PB&J was not offered as an alternative.  My sister classifies this as starvation and abuse.

maratea

I think selling beer on holidays should be illegal. The one person I want to spend my holidays with- H - is always working. Every single holiday but Christmas Day. Drinkers can go a few days a year without beer.

I think Black Friday is ridiculous.

MandK9

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[QUOTE]MandK we don't do that here on SB, unless a troll or AE says them.
Posted by ricksang[/QUOTE]

Yeah you guys are pretty sensible.  I rarely see things devolve to name-calling. 

To be honest, this was inspired by a completely un-TK-related issue.  There's a website called antiduckface.com, which is silly, and there's a picture of a girl I know on there.  People are vicious, it made her cry, and when someone said that it made her cry, they amped up the insults.  And said "Ugh, she needs a tougher skin if this makes her cry."

J&K10910

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I don't care that no one is here, can we do Unpop Ops? : That's very true. I didn't think about it that way. I guess it's all relative. Both my dad (and his business partner) and my uncle have done this. Also, a friend from HS have been doing this for the last few months.
Posted by cew515[/QUOTE]

yeah, because see (and here I go making it personal), our clincal director and director at my job I just quit were getting bonuses and going home safely at 5pm every day for taking the tough kids we weren't equipped to deal with to keep census up and keep the money coming in.  Meanwhile, I've got a college degree, some grad school, and experience and I'm only making 20 cents an hour more than someone with their GED, working 60 hours a week, not getting raises and getting my ass kicked daily.  So the higher ups taking cuts for the sake of their employees is totally foreign to me. 

But I think it's awesome that you know so many people that are doing it.  I don't care HOW MANY people are doing it, I still think it's awesome.

KaylaSue19

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I don't care that no one is here, can we do Unpop Ops? : I also hate cranberry sauce, but have you ever had cranberry orange relish?  Basically you take a pound of (fresh) cranberries, an orange plus some of the rind, and about a cup of sugar (to taste) and throw it all in the food processor and process it up.  It is ohmygodamazing.
Posted by J&K10910[/QUOTE]

I am late to this, and the subject has probably changed but I got to this and had to say something. I love that stuff! My grandma makes that and everytime I talk about it, no one knows what I am talking about. I am glad someone else has had the pleasure of trying it.

ricksang

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I don't care that no one is here, can we do Unpop Ops? : Yeah you guys are pretty sensible.  I rarely see things devolve to name-calling.  To be honest, this was inspired by a completely un-TK-related issue.  There's a website called antiduckface.com, which is silly, and there's a picture of a girl I know on there.  People are vicious, it made her cry, and when someone said that it made her cry, they amped up the insults.  And said "Ugh, she needs a tougher skin if this makes her cry."
Posted by MandK9[/QUOTE]
Aww that's horrible :(

MeaghanandMichael

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[QUOTE]We deep fry our turkey, it's a lot better that way.<strong> UO: I don't think people (*cough* my sister) should give in to super picky eaters.</strong> My parents offered me a meal.  If I didn't eat it, I could skip it.  PB&J was not offered as an alternative.  My sister classifies this as starvation and abuse.
Posted by Wrkn925[/QUOTE]

I will get on this train. I think as an adult you can suffer through at least <em>some</em> of any meal the hosts are offering you. In fact, I made Mike try 80% of the foods he eats now. Before me, no one made him eat anything he didn't want to eat (read: his parents couldn't be bother to fight him) and now he eats tons of stuff he never thought he would like.

Wrkn925

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[QUOTE]I think selling beer on holidays should be illegal. The one person I want to spend my holidays with- H - is always working. Every single holiday but Christmas Day. Drinkers can go a few days a year without beer. I think Black Friday is ridiculous.
Posted by maratea[/QUOTE]

Mara, did you tell me your H works for a beer distributor/warehouse?  I do, and we close on Thanksgiving day and Christmas Day.  Surely management can figure out how to stock their stores for a day off... ?

K Byte

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[QUOTE]I think selling beer on holidays should be illegal. The one person I want to spend my holidays with- H - is always working. Every single holiday but Christmas Day. Drinkers can go a few days a year without beer. <strong>I think Black Friday is ridiculous.</strong>
Posted by maratea[/QUOTE]

THIS, so much. There are a few really good deals every year, sure. But the old saying applies, "you get what you pay for" when you buy that 40" LCD TV that's only $300 or whatever ... and then the rest of the stuff is marked down like 10% more from the "normal" sale price (a lot of stuff at department stores is just on sale all the time especially if it's the department store's private brands) yet there are limited quantities and you have to deal with the awful parking, crowds, and all the unpleasantness that goes along with black Friday shopping just to get $2 more off a pair of pants. NO THANKS.

PaigeMcC

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[QUOTE]We deep fry our turkey, it's a lot better that way. UO: I don't think people (*cough* my sister) should give in to super picky eaters. My parents offered me a meal.  If I didn't eat it, I could skip it.  PB&J was not offered as an alternative.  My sister classifies this as starvation and abuse.
Posted by Wrkn925[/QUOTE]

<div>My parents always told us if we didn't like it we were free to have a glass of water and our next meal would be in X hours.  PB & J was never an option. Suck it up or starve.  haha</div>

maratea

Wrkn- Yes he does. It's a great job the rest of the time and he really loves it, but this tiime of year is ballsack.

J&K10910

I can't believe not a single person wants to argue with my unpop op.  I brought out the big guns today even.

Wrkn925

M&M, no I'm talking about her kids.  We had a family g2g a couple of weeks ago. 
9yo wanted a brownie.  She said, "No, not until you eat some more chips." 
It was the only food there he would eat...

But that 9yo will grow into a man who will have the same attitude.  BF's brother-in-law was at Thanksgiving, and wouldn't eat a single thing out of the 20 dishes on the table.  He usually goes to McDs when they have g2gs. 

ricksang

What was your unpop again JK?

MeaghanandMichael

Sweet bride badges, Paige.

Oops- my bad, wkrn, but I still agree with what you are saying.

J&K10910

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I don't care that no one is here, can we do Unpop Ops? : Ohhh.  Yeah, it's really good.  It's the perfect mix of sweet and tart and citrusy and it's just....yum.  If you don't mind crunching on a bit of sugar ;) My unpop op is that I hate when people are all ready to throw the book at someone that's been charged with a heinous crime, or think that someone should lose all their rights when they've been convicted.  But I'm also of the belief that some sex offenders can be rehabilitated and become productive members of society and that sex offender registries can sometimes cause more harm than good.
Posted by J&K10910[/QUOTE]

For Ang.

PaigeMcC

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[QUOTE]Sweet bride badges, Paige. Oops- my bad, wkrn, but I still agree with what you are saying.
Posted by MeaghanandMichael[/QUOTE]

<div>Thanks! Button from NEY made 'em for me</div>

MeaghanandMichael

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I don't care that no one is here, can we do Unpop Ops? : Thanks! Button from NEY made 'em for me
Posted by PaigeMcC[/QUOTE]

heh. my old one said, "getting my MRS degree" I miss it.

[Deleted User]

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[QUOTE]  But I'm also of the belief that some sex offenders can be rehabilitated and become productive members of society and that sex offender registries can sometimes cause more harm than good.
Posted by J&K10910[/QUOTE]

I don't have facts or really any kind of smarts to debate this with you (because I know you know way more about the subject than I do), but from this parent's perspective, I don't give two fucks about whether or not they can be rehabilitated. I don't think they should ever be in a place to get near a child again. The damage that they cause kids is just to horrifying to risk.

I can tell you right now, that if someone ever touched Ben, I don't know what I would do, but I would want them dead. I would never want them to see the light of day again. For me, it's not as much about rehabilitation as it is about my belief that they should rot for the rest of their lives.

Wrkn925

JK-

Sex offender registries blow when it's a 18yo with a 16yo, or a smaller age difference that just gets caught in the system. 
I also think drunken urination =/= lifetime registered sex offender.  If they have to register, it should be expunged after a few years.  Don't hold a 40yo responsible for shooting Jager and peeing behind a building when he was 21.

I look at prison as rehabilitation.  When educated officials can tell that a person is rehabilitated, they should be released.  If they have served their time and fulfilled the purpose of being in jail, then they have paid their dues.
(Minus sex offenders, and not the kind I listed in the last paragraph.)