My fmil and fsil exist to make me feel like dirt. Because of this fsil is no longer involved in our life. (and example of why, she got made we are getting married before her cause she is 30 and single, told me I can't take fi last name and if we have kids before her she will be mad and many more rude things including calling me names for no reason) since fsil and fi and me no longer talk fmil has gotten even crazier (things she has pulled include, being openly rude to me, asking us not to unpack our new house because she didn't want to see it with our stuff in it, getting mad fi didn't call all his aunts to say we were engaged, freaking out because my mom was staying with us helping me after my car accident ect ) fi and ffil thought that we needed to fix things before the wedding which is in 5 weeks. I agreed to go over there to talk to fmil, fi and ffil were there and I never said anything rude ect. Fmil flipped out called me a bitch, said I ruined her family, kicked a table at me and stood up like she was going to hit me ( as I am still injured from a car accident ) fi and ffil were shocked and I maintained my cool. Fi and I have decided that after the wedding we don't feel like she should be a part of our life if she is so explosive she kicks a table at me. Now my problem is, I can't uninvite her to the wedding, but we had gotten corsages for the mothers, also were doing a thank you to our parents (not only because my mom has done everything for this wedding but she also took care of me when I was hurt) now we don't feel we should be doing anything special for his mom since she is so rude towards me. I also don't feel that we should have family photos taken with his mom and sister. And I do not want her to do a speech or walk down the aisle ect. Or come to the rehearsal dinner. Now, I want my mom to be able to do everything we had planned before but I am unsure if we can just not include his mom in everything? (btw my family and me are paying for the wedding) I don't know I guess I am asking if you would still include fmil after everything? Or if its ok if I don't...considering the lady was going to hit me over nothing. Sorry tried to edit for paragraphs I'm on my BB.