i think i made a mistake!

crys-crys

A couple of weeks ago I posted a pic of two dresses i was considering buying. Everyone seemed to love the gold dress I had already put a deposit on over the white dress. I picked up the gold dress yesterday (wedding is 10 months away but it was a sample sale dress so I had to pick it up 2 weeks after purchase) and tried on the white again. My mother still loves the gold. My FMIL saw the dress for the 1st time and loved it too. Everyone who has seen a picture of it loves it!

However I still can't get the white dress out of my head! I loved it. My mother keeps telling me the gold dress is more me because it's unique and I've always loved being different. I should be happy that I have my dress but instead I am feeling unsatisfied.   My fiancé is encouraging me to do what makes me happy, even if it means buying another dress.

I honestly don't know what to do. Heh.

/end confusion and whining

Knittibell

I think you're having the "bought the dress moment of panic" - this is common. Once you've finalized and paid for the dress, you'll often feel conflicted about whether it's the right one. Trust that it is!! Your dress will be stunning!

crys-crys

What do you mean finalized and paid for the dress? I paid in full yesterday and it's in my closet at the moment.

Knittibell

I mean that- finalized your choice and paid in full!

I remember your original post and if I am remembering correctly, that gold dress is really stunning, but it's still very definitely a wedding dress... it's not a gold lame prom dress or anything- it's a really elegant beautiful wedding gown, and you'll be gorgeous!

kd.joseph

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[QUOTE]What do you mean finalized and paid for the dress? I paid in full yesterday and it's in my closet at the moment.
Posted by martianwax[/QUOTE]

Exactly, once you've paid for something and have it home a lot of girls go through there panic moment. Like did I buy the wrong dress? And now I've spent all this money on one dress, maybe I shouldn't have jumped the gun.

This is what knitti means.

tidetravel

Your first mistake was trying on the white dress again

Give it some time.  Don't look at it for a couple of months.  If you decide after that time that you absolutely must have the white dress, then get the white one and sell the gold.

M&R7111

I have felt the same way!  I bought my dress pretty early.  I tried on one particular dress I saw on a website just to see if the silhouette was good for me, plus, it really was beautiful in the picture - and I fell in love with it - head over heals.  It was discontinued and they only had the one I was trying on (4x too big) and one more in my size in another store.  Apparently, that was it  So I bought it!  It was the first dress I tried on. 

I adore my dress and it is very different from other traditional wedding gowns, but I sometimes get this feeling of wanting to shop more and I'm afraid to look at other dresses incase I see one I like better!

But that feeling passes - I just have to go look at my dress! 
Actually, I felt the same way about the tattoo I got 9 years ago - it's a commitment thing!

katiewhompus

Calm thoughts...breath in....

I panicked about my dress too. I bought it in November for a May wedding because it was a great deal and I loved it so much. Then I started looking at knottie's dresses and definitely started second guessing myself. Then I had a fitting and fell in love all over again.

thesuninherhead

Everyone goes through this dress panic. 

 

As others have said, wait for your fittings and re-evaluate. Most people fall in love with their dresses at that point (I speak in third person here because the dress I ordered didn't end up arriving in order for me to have a fitting in it! lol). Can we see a pic?

crys-crys

the white dress. No pics of me in it. But it's the one I feel like I really loved.


Me in the gold dress.

Knittibell

They are both lovely dresses. I think the gold is amazing with your skintone- and it's such a soft, pretty gold!

katiewhompus

I still love the gold

i've also found, don't give it to pictures of models!! Dresses that looked amazing on models (or other knotties) didn't look so great on me, so getting dress envy was not productive.

crys-crys

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[QUOTE]I still love the gold :) i've also found, don't give it to pictures of models!! Dresses that looked amazing on models (or other knotties) didn't look so great on me, so getting dress envy was not productive.
Posted by katiewhompus[/QUOTE]

I wish I had taken a picture of the white dress on me. I felt like a freakin' princess in that dress. I have never felt like that before. It also made me waist look tiny! LOL.

katiewhompus

But the most important question, could you pee in it?

Knittibell

Well, if she couldn't there's a solution...

Let me ask- if you felt like a tiny waisted princess in the white gown, but bought the gold gown, why? Did you ONLY buy it because your Moms liked it? There must have been something else in the pro column, and something in the con column for the white dress. do you remember what they are?

crys-crys

I bought the gold dress because it was beautiful and elegent and different. My mother and bridesmaid LOVED that gold one. Since the line is discontinued and it was the only one my FI said grab it while you can and since it is inexpensive, you can get another dress later if you want.

There were no real cons on the white dress side aside from the fact that everyone tells me the gold one is so unique and special.

Knittibell

Ok, well... I'd say give it a little time, then. If you still want the white one in a few months (do you have time?), then go ahead and sell the gold after trying the white one on again. If it really was inexpensive, then it's not that huge a problem, and it'll work out, either way. But I advise you to sit on it for a little bit, you may change your mind back again.

crys-crys

Wedding is in 10+ months. I hace some time. i only started looking now because everyone told me to allow time for alterations.

Steph0871

I'm late, but I wanted to put in my two cents.  I LOVE the gold dress.  I'm thinking not many people can pull that off... but like PP said- it looks great with your skin tone.  And, FWIW, your waist looks tiny in the gold one too

crys-crys

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[QUOTE]I'm late, but I wanted to put in my two cents.  I LOVE the gold dress.  I'm thinking not many people can pull that off... but like PP said- it looks great with your skin tone.  And, FWIW, your waist looks tiny in the gold one too :)
Posted by Steph0871[/QUOTE]

Thank you. :)

tidetravel

Whatever you do, don't start alterations on the gold one until you're sure that is the dress that you want to wear on your wedding day.

That being said, as much as I love the gold one, I think the white one is the dress you are meant to be married in.  I know you had reservations about the gold one before, so it makes sense that you would be questioning your purchase now, especially since you seem to have bought it out of necessity, and not "love."  Sell it to recoup some of your money, and get the dress that you really want.

anne.azano

it sounds like you're trying to talk yourself into the gold dress and it's not really what you want.  Get the dress YOU  love, not the one that your mother and everyone else loves.