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XP-Husband's family is in deep mourning; please keep us in your thoughts

ohwhynotohwhynot member
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There was a horrible, tragic accident over the weekend and Mark's little nephew died.  Cody was only 14 months old, and he drowned in a small, decorative pond behind his grandparents' home.  Mark and his family are devastated.

We drove to Toledo on Saturday.  There is a visitation later today, and the funeral is tomorrow.  If anyone has any words of wisdom or comfort for this family, I could sure use them.  thank you for keeping us in your thoughts.
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  • SarahPLizSarahPLiz member
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    I'm so sorry, OWN. That's just awful. You are all in my thoughts. 
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  • J&K10910J&K10910 member
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    Oh, OWN!  I'm so very sorry to hear this.  I wish I could say something to help, but I'm at a loss.  I will surely keep your families in my thoughts.

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  • allisong23allisong23 member
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    Oh, I am so sorry. I can't think of anything tio say other than that you are so sorry and offer them your support. This just makes my heart ache.
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  • LesPaulLesPaul member
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    Oh, OWN.  I'm so sorry.  I don't know what to say.  You, Mark, and the family are in my T&P.  Have a safe trip back.
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  • tidetraveltidetravel member
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    Oh my god, OWN, I'm so sorry.

    Bring food.  That's all I've got.
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  • raynesraynes member
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    Oh my goodness, I'm so sorry.  I have no wisdom for this.  I'll keep your family in my thoughts.
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  • JenGin74JenGin74 member
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    I'm so sorry. That's really sad and awful.
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  • marateamaratea member
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    I'm so sorry. That's just so sad. My thoughts are with you family and H's family. 

    Make sure everyone knows it wasn't their fault. Accidents, while still terrible, do happen and while we can't know or understand why, we do know how much we loved that person during the time we had with them.
    My cousin died when he was young and it was so awful, but it brought our entire family closer together. We were close before, but after that, the love that I've felt from my family members is immense.
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  • dmiller9274dmiller9274 member
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    Oh OWN, I'm so sorry to hear about this.  I can not imagine how difficult this must be for the entire family. I hope that you guys are able to spend plenty of time with the family, and let just being together provide some comfort.  Situations like this are so hard to understand, and cope with.  I will be keeping all of you in my thoughts and prayers, and hope that your family can find some peace. 

      
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  • betrothed123betrothed123
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    Oh OWN!  I'm so sorry.  That's terrible.  You, Your H, and his family will all be in my thoughts.
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  • anna.oskaranna.oskar member
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    I'm so sorry Own.  I find that in the face of tragedy like this, that words mean very little .  The best that can be offered is a heartfelt hug to let them cry and thoughts and prayers.

    I'll include you in my prayers tonight and I'm so sorry your life has been touched by this tragedy after only 14 months of having him touch people's lives with joy.
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  • ohwhynotohwhynot member
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    Thank you all, from the bottom of my heart.  I so appreciate your thoughts and kind words.  It was a horrible accident,  but his mother does blame herself.  There were some falsehoods about the accident printed in the local paper, too, which didn't help anyone. 

    I have to post and run, because we have a lot of stuff to do to get ready for the services.  Thanks, though, again for your thoughts.  If you pray, please keep the family in your prayers because many members of Mark's family are religious and are finding comfort in people's prayers. 
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  • MISSCOURTNEY20MISSCOURTNEY20 member
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    Awww OWN. I am so sorry.

    Know that earth has no sorrow that Heaven cannot heal. Know that I am praying for your family and the Lord is listening to everyone's prayers.
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    I'm so sorry, OWN, that's terrible. I'm with anna that words often don't do much during times like this, and I don't really know what to say, but I will certainly keep you in my thoughts.
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  • K&J64K&J64 member
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    OWN, I'm so sorry to hear about you and your H's loss. Just be supportive, a shoulder to cry on for him and the family. Make them all eat, as stupid as that sounds, cook dinner for them. Let the mother know it wasn't her fault that accidents happen and if she is religious, that God had a plan for the young soul and needed him in heaven. (I'm not religious so that would just upset me to hear, so don't say anything like that if she isn't religious). I hope the family is able to find peace during this difficult time, you're all in my thoughts.

    This is a rough week on this board with lots of deaths in peoples families *group hug*

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  • MeaghanandMichaelMeaghanandMichael
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    I am so so sorry Own. I am extending my deepest thoughts and prayers to you and your family. Hugs and kisses for you :(
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  • marateamaratea member
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    Also, I happened to read the post on E, and NCV2 (I think that's her SN) said in the longterm, don't forget about him. One thing my family did was avoid talking about my cousin, but I didn't. Yeah it will hurt for a long time, especially to talk about him, but remembering him and all of the great times with him is what will keep his memory alive, not being sad and sorrowful that he is gone. I specifically remember my aunt and uncle saying they felt like everyone had forgotten about Ben, which wasn't the case, no one felt comfortable talking about him.
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  • kd.josephkd.joseph
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    OMG OWN
    I am so sorry to hear this. I really have nothing I can say that will take away the pain. I cant even imagine what you, Mark and his family are going through.

    Please just know that you are in our thoughts and prayers. Again I am so sorry. If you need anything please let me know, ok?
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  • sarah0725sarah0725
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    I am so, so sorry, OWN. My thoughts go out to your family.
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  • LesPaulLesPaul member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_xp-husbands-family-deep-mourning-please-keep-thoughts?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:a6e8aa9c-2b05-4f17-87c7-3297924337b3Post:c3b45cca-e315-4749-ab98-c88449d4da4c">Re: XP-Husband's family is in deep mourning; please keep us in your thoughts</a>:
    [QUOTE]Also, I happened to read the post on E, and NCV2 (I think that's her SN) said in the longterm, don't forget about him. One thing my family did was avoid talking about my cousin, but I didn't. Yeah it will hurt for a long time, especially to talk about him, but remembering him and all of the great times with him is what will keep his memory alive, not being sad and sorrowful that he is gone. I specifically remember my aunt and uncle saying they felt like everyone had forgotten about Ben, which wasn't the case, no one felt comfortable talking about him.
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    I second this.  No one would talk about my Mom after she died, and I really wanted to.  I think I would be better off now if people weren't afraid to talk about her after she was gone.
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  • StarmusicaStarmusica
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    oh OWN. I am so so so sorry to hear this. This is just unthinkable. I wish I had words of comfort but as I myself learned this week... sometimes just a hug and a shoulder to cry on is the best help of all.

    We are all thinking of you and your H's family. 

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  • SCBojangles1138SCBojangles1138
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    I'm so sorry to hear about your family's tradgedy. You all will certainly be in my prayers. I most certainly agree about never forgetting him.
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  • Night_SpriteNight_Sprite
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    God, OWN.  That's so awful.  Carry a box of tissues in your purse for lots of sharing.  I'm so so so sorry.
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  • AllAboutTheBenjaminAllAboutTheBenjamin member
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    This is absolutely terrible.  T&P for Mark and his family.
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  • kathrynhabibtikathrynhabibti member
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    That is incredibly tragic and heartbreaking for all of you. I'm so sorry.
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  • zippitybzippityb member
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    :( That is awful. I am sorry, OWN.
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  • pixiedust84pixiedust84 member
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    This is a poem that was on a caring bridge site of a friend of mine whose little girl passed away from cancer. It brought him and his wife a little bit of peace. I just thought I would share it with you and you are welcome to pass it on if you'd like.

    Again I'm just so sorry. Such a sad, unthinkable tragedy and my thoughts and prayers are with you.

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    I still would have chosen you...
    If God had told me "this soul will one day need extra care",
    I still would have chosen you...
    If He had told me "that one day this soul may make my heart bleed",
    I still would have chosen you...
    If He had told me "this soul would make me question the depth of my faith",
    I still would have  chosen you...
    If God had told me "this soul would make tears flow from my eyes that would overflow a river",
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    I know it was God who chose me for you...
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  • ReneeJacobReneeJacob member
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    Wow. No words can possibly express how sorry I am that this happened. I have and will keep all in my prayers.

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  • HobokensFuryHobokensFury member
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    I have no words but I will keep Cody's family in my thoughts and prayers.
     
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  • slubkinslubkin member
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    I'm so sorry to hear about this.  Any death is hard, but a child's is always really tragic.  My thoughts are with you during this difficult time.
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