MeaghanandMichael - kinda long

honeybear9311

sorry you feel i have no balls lol i was with the grandma eating mex food and helping clean up my FSIL open house decors so i was not around a comp but its updated just for you lol! but in all seriousness I am clueless about pricing for an event and if i had the money to contribute to the type of affair and would rather sound like a brat to a whole bunch of ppl idk, then hurt someone i care abouts feelings. so bring on the snark, you're not going to hurt my feelings, call it a miscommunication, but i dont think i got what i was tryning to say out, so I am going to try again....

Parents want to pay for our wedding, it was not asked of them, but such a generous offer- but how much they are contributing hasnt been revealed. My mom and my FMIL keep showing/ sending me links for pricey venues that would bump my budget to 20000.  I dont really care if I get married under a tree in the park... well scratch that the wedding is in Nov, might be a taddd bit cold. I feel bad for looking and considering such an expensive place, because I thought in my head that 13000 was the highest I could see this event going. I have looked at cheaper places, but they have (to me, my mom, my fmil) seemed just that, cheap. Tacky, dirty, unprofessional, ect. My FI and I are contributing to the wedding but basically paying for everything but the venue/food/bar. But i feel like a BRAT when i find myself googling these expensive venues. And even though I have ask what the budget is, each party has not given a straight forward answer.  So yes planning, to me, does suck when i dont know what i am doing. I feel like i am running in circles trying to walk a fine line between having a nice, elegant wedding i know my family (well at least the moms) wants me to have and breaking the bank. and believeeeeee me i wish i did have the money to pay it all (because i would be a much richer woman lol) but as i stated in the other post I didnt pick my job field for the big bucks, I love what i do, im just poor doing it lol (early childhood education) Is that an ok explaination Meghan? Do i get my balls back haha

oh a feel FREE to be snarky or post some creative ways to save $, im kinda new at this and need alllllllllllllllllll the help/advice you have

nda_roxybabe

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_meaghanandmichael-kinda-long?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:b2576c32-0c91-4b70-9826-c945de30bf0aPost:4f017b59-a12a-40a3-802e-8156f4d8e0e0">MeaghanandMichael - kinda long</a>:
[QUOTE]sorry you feel i have no balls lol i was with the grandma eating mex food and helping clean up my FSIL open house decors so i was not around a comp but its updated just for you ;) lol! but in all seriousness I am clueless about pricing for an event and if i had the money to contribute to the type of affair and would rather sound like a brat to a whole bunch of ppl idk, then hurt someone i care abouts feelings. so bring on the snark, you're not going to hurt my feelings, call it a miscommunication, but i dont think i got what i was tryning to say out, so I am going to try again.... Parents want to pay for our wedding, it was not asked of them, but such a generous offer- but how much they are contributing hasnt been revealed. My mom and my FMIL keep showing/ sending me links for pricey venues that would bump my budget to 20000.  I dont really care if I get married under a tree in the park... well scratch that the wedding is in Nov, might be a taddd bit cold. I feel bad for looking and considering such an expensive place, because I thought in my head that 13000 was the highest I could see this event going. I have looked at cheaper places, but they have (to me, my mom, my fmil) seemed just that, cheap. Tacky, dirty, unprofessional, ect. My FI and I are contributing to the wedding but basically paying for everything but the venue/food/bar. But i feel like a BRAT when i find myself googling these expensive venues. And even though I have ask what the budget is, each party has not given a straight forward answer.  So yes planning, to me, does suck when i dont know what i am doing. I feel like i am running in circles trying to walk a fine line between having a nice, elegant wedding i know my family (well at least the moms) wants me to have and breaking the bank. and believeeeeee me i wish i did have the money to pay it all (because i would be a much richer woman lol) but as i stated in the other post I didnt pick my job field for the big bucks, I love what i do, im just poor doing it lol (early childhood education) Is that an ok explaination Meghan? Do i get my balls back haha oh a feel FREE to be snarky or post some creative ways to save $, im kinda new at this and need alllllllllllllllllll the help/advice you have
Posted by honeybear9311[/QUOTE]
I do not see how it is not possible to find a nice venue in Indiana for under $13,000. Its Indiana, not NYC.

J&K10910

Holy run on sentences, batman!

nda_roxybabe

Wait, J&K, you actually read that?

amylydia23

I just kind of skimmed through it...   I don't really understand how all the venues you have looked at could cost $20,000.  Many people have beautiful weddings for a lot less than that. 

Simply Fated

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_meaghanandmichael-kinda-long?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:b2576c32-0c91-4b70-9826-c945de30bf0aPost:58a1ec43-44cd-4fd9-a60a-9e0c1bd906f0">Re: MeaghanandMichael - kinda long</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to MeaghanandMichael - kinda long : I do not see how it is not possible to find a nice venue in Indiana for under $13,000. Its Indiana, not NYC.
Posted by nda_roxybabe[/QUOTE]
Even if she was looking to put together a wedding in NYC, there is always going to be someone who will say the same thing to her, about how 13k is plenty of money for a nice venue.



Anyway, I understand where the OP is coming from. Of course she can add her and her fiance's money to the mix, she only meant that she feels bad using the parents' money for something costly. The money they are offering her is a gift and she can use it all she wants on a venue, but sometimes not everyone likes spending their parents money on things for themselves.
She was only saying how she felt and people were snarky with her, which is to be expected, I'm not saying it isn't. In general, on these forums, it's considered some sort of sin or backwoods practice to let the parents contribute to the wedding funds. So anytime a bride posts about that, snarkyness is to be expected. I've learned from lurking that talking about certain subjects is about as safe as trying to outrun a cop.

J&K10910

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_meaghanandmichael-kinda-long?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:b2576c32-0c91-4b70-9826-c945de30bf0aPost:a8b48656-81e4-466e-84d1-e4ad07354274">Re: MeaghanandMichael - kinda long</a>:
[QUOTE]Wait, J&K, you actually read that?
Posted by nda_roxybabe[/QUOTE]

Nah, just the first paragraph/sentence.  Come on, you know me better than that!

maratea

Are you getting married in Indiana? If so, you can have a wedding for under $4000 for 200 people. I did it. My cousin's wedding in Indiana was less than $2000 for 150 people.

MarriedInAFever

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_meaghanandmichael-kinda-long?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:b2576c32-0c91-4b70-9826-c945de30bf0aPost:58a1ec43-44cd-4fd9-a60a-9e0c1bd906f0">Re: MeaghanandMichael - kinda long</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to MeaghanandMichael - kinda long : I do not see how it is not possible to find a nice venue in Indiana for under $13,000. Its Indiana, not NYC.
Posted by nda_roxybabe[/QUOTE]

Guess you've never been to Indiana, Roxy. It's like the cultural mecca of the Midwest. Indiana is known for their platinum weddings.

mewebster59

She isn't saying (I don't think) that the venue is $20,000.  She is saying that the venues that she has been looking at could push her budget up to $20,000 (or did I read it wrong?).  There are a ton of ways to save money on a wedding though, and if you hand around here long enough you will learn alot of them (budget board is a good one).

dmiller9274

I would think that your first step would have been to establish a budget with your parents.  If they have offered the help, then this shouldn't be an awkward conversation at all.  Get your budget and plan accordingly.

betrothed123

I attempted to read OP, but I'm 90% certain it is not written in English.

salt78

You make my head hurt.

[Deleted User]

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[QUOTE]I attempted to read OP, but I'm 90% certain it is not written in English.
Posted by betrothed123[/QUOTE]

Yep.

BecW2be

Here Cew, let me translate: I got crabby when I sleep late in the former night

beatlesgirl25

Whoa OP. I can't imagine a miscommunication between you and Meg of such magnitude as to warrant this beast of rambling text. It's just too early for that many words.

betrothed123

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_meaghanandmichael-kinda-long?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:b2576c32-0c91-4b70-9826-c945de30bf0aPost:bdae4050-a357-4bab-a8d7-82ac74a0581e">Re: MeaghanandMichael - kinda long</a>:
[QUOTE]Here Cew, let me translate: I got crabby when I sleep late in the former night
Posted by BecW2be[/QUOTE]
Oh... I get it now.... no wait.

kittykaz

Why is everything so up in the air?  Why can't you find out exactly how much your family wants to contribute? 

[Deleted User]

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_meaghanandmichael-kinda-long?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:b2576c32-0c91-4b70-9826-c945de30bf0aPost:bdae4050-a357-4bab-a8d7-82ac74a0581e">Re: MeaghanandMichael - kinda long</a>:
[QUOTE]Here Cew, let me translate: I got crabby when I sleep late in the former night
Posted by BecW2be[/QUOTE]

Thank you. That is just what I was looking for. Makes perfect sense now.

MeaghanandMichael

The problem was that you posted for help and then ran away so you left us with nothing but speculation. If you are going to do this in the future, you should let people know you are posting and then will be busy so people don't assume things or are forced to read between the lines of your posts. Now that you came back, I am able to better understand where you are coming from. (Although, does it smell of backpeddling to any one else?) ::shrugs:: I also agree with dmiller that a lot of the confusion might be eliminated by talking with your parents about their priorities for the money and going from there. Ask on your local as well for helpful money saving vendors.

That being said, Fated, no one here cares which bride has their parents pay for stuff. Mine sure as well did. You somehow missed a big portion of the issue people have with parents paying. The judgement lies in the brides whining about how the money is not enough, or that their parents want things a certain way.

MeaghanandMichael

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[QUOTE]Whoa OP. I can't imagine a miscommunication between you and Meg of such magnitude as to warrant this beast of rambling text. It's just too early for that many words.
Posted by beatlesgirl25[/QUOTE]

There really wasn't a miscommunication, more like lack of communication. She posted and ran. I really wanted her to come back and explain, so I guess she did (somewhat coherantly.)

psichick

i still have no idea what the OP is talking about

[Deleted User]

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[QUOTE]Parents want to pay for our wedding, it was not asked of them, but such a generous offer- but how much they are contributing hasnt been revealed. My mom and my FMIL keep showing/ sending me links for pricey venues that would bump my budget to 20000.  I dont really care if I get married under a tree in the park... well scratch that the wedding is in Nov, might be a <strong>taddd </strong>bit cold. Posted by honeybear9311[/QUOTE]

This is my favorite part of that whole post. Taddd is now my third favorite word right behind Cupzilla and Cvnt Fuuck Pig.

betrothed123

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_meaghanandmichael-kinda-long?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:b2576c32-0c91-4b70-9826-c945de30bf0aPost:f86e635c-833d-465c-8c2f-c949bbaea69f">Re: MeaghanandMichael - kinda long</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to MeaghanandMichael - kinda long : This is my favorite part of that whole post. Taddd is now my third favorite word right behind Cupzilla and Cvnt Fuuck Pig.
Posted by cew515[/QUOTE]
That was my least favorite part because I know someone named Tadd, and he's one of my least favorite people in the world.  It reminded me off him.

quotequeen

If your mom is sending you the links for the venues, and she is the one that wants the open bar, etc., then why do you think she is going to be upset about the cost?  It seems like you're running in circles here.  Why don't you pick a venue you like and sit down with your mom and say "If we did this, it would cost $X.  Is that ok with you?  Should I find something cheaper?"

J&K10910

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: MeaghanandMichael - kinda long : That was my least favorite part because <strong>I know someone named Tadd, and he's one of my least favorite people in the world.</strong>  It reminded me off him.
Posted by betrothed123[/QUOTE]

ZOMG ME TOO!

nda_roxybabe

Fever- you had me going for a second. I'll admit, I've never really been to Indiana (other than for a hot second for a layover). I can't imagine all their venues costing over $20k though.

zippityb

I have nothing to add other than I bet Mexican food in Indiana is grody. Tex-Mex FTW.

HaylaC

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[QUOTE] And even though I have ask what the budget is, each party has not given a straight forward answer.  Posted by honeybear9311[/QUOTE]

well as you are an adult i would politely explain that you need to know the budget so that you can plan properly. Either that or agree what your parents are paying for and let them guide your choices as to what is suitable. 

Blueyed228

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[QUOTE]The problem was that you posted for help and then ran away so you left us with nothing but speculation. If you are going to do this in the future, you should let people know you are posting and then will be busy so people don't assume things or are forced to read between the lines of your posts. Now that you came back, I am able to better understand where you are coming from. <strong><u>(Although, does it smell of backpeddling to any one else?)</u></strong> ::shrugs:: I also agree with dmiller that a lot of the confusion might be eliminated by talking with your parents about their priorities for the money and going from there. Ask on your local as well for helpful money saving vendors. That being said, Fated, no one here cares which bride has their parents pay for stuff. Mine sure as well did. You somehow missed a big portion of the issue people have with parents paying. The judgement lies in the brides whining about how the money is not enough, or that their parents want things a certain way.
Posted by MeaghanandMichael[/QUOTE]

Yes.  Especially since she posted this in her other thread stating that she cannot contribute.


<strong><u>Ha, would love to, but I am a broke joke, I make next to nothing but thats the field that my career is in (early childhood education)

</u></strong>I have said before, plan the wedding you can afford.  Anything your parents want to offer is just bonus.

beatlesgirl25

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: MeaghanandMichael - kinda long : There really wasn't a miscommunication, more like lack of communication. She posted and ran. I really wanted her to come back and explain, so I guess she did (somewhat coherantly.)
Posted by MeaghanandMichael[/QUOTE]

Ah, I see. I thought it was just someone ranting about how wrong you were about them. Carry on then!