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Crappy phone call

So last night, Taylor's best friend/best man called him. He can't come to the wedding. He lives in California, and is undergoing Army discipline for something I think is ridiculous. So, they are not letting him take leave. We both cried after he hung up the phone.
His friend is one of two reasons that we scheduled our wedding when we did. Taylor has always made it clear that he wouldn't get married without his buddy there. Now he has to, and he is completely torn up about it. I think it might be the second time I've seen him cry. I have no idea how to comfort him or cheer him up. For now, I'm just not bringing it up.
I'm in a horrible mood, like on the brink of tears. I feel stupid because I work in an office full of men, and I'd rather not break down crying in front of them.

Oh, another sucky part about it is that my brother is being commissioned as an officer the day before our wedding, and this friend was supposed to do his 1st salute as well. I know that meant a lot to my brother, but now its not going to happen.

No one faults the friend, its just an all-around crappy situation.
I now realize this post is pointless.. just needed to get it out.

Re: Crappy phone call

  • That blows =( E-hug?

  • I'm sorry, Stacey.  That royally blows :(
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  • Senging good thoughts your way. What a crappy situation. Frown
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  • Sorry Stacey!  I know that it really sucks when things don't go as planned and seem out of your control.  Just focus on the positives. You're getting married in a month!
  • I'm sorry. I got one a sudden serious illness phone call from a relative two days before my wedding, meaning that relative couldn't make it, and I took it really hard. Emotions are already high during that time, and you're upset because that person is a) dealing with a lot of bad, and you can't be there for them and b) not able to share your wedding with you. Just know that he is there in spirit, and be sure to share a shitton of photos with him afterwards.
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  • Hugs

    I'm sorry about this crappy situation  :(
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  • I'm so sorry, Stacey! That really sucks. HUGS!
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  • That sucks. Sorry to hear he can't make it.
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    I'd cry too! That totally sucks. I'm sorry he can't be there. :(
     Can you guys skype or anything like that?

    ETA-  Is there any way you could get him on phone or video during the reception to give a toast?
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  • Aw, I'm really sorry for you and your FI. That's a total bummer. Maybe somehow the situation will change for the better within the next few weeks?

    Hang in there Stacey.  : )
  • I'm sorry, that's really sucky.

    I like Jas' idea of Skype or whatever.  Also, you could always do a cardboard cutout?  I know, not at all the same...
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    We'll just not tell H about this little fact, m'kay?
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  • I second the toast over the phone idea. This is a really sucky situation. A cardboard cut out would be fun.
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  • Thanks y'all.

    anna- I know, I can't believe its only a month. In fact, my heart speeds up a little when I think about that. So I try not to think about it. haha

    zippity- yes, its so hard because he is already dealing with sh*t from the Army, and then they throw this on top of it. He just had neck surgery for injuries from Afghanistan, now they are discharging him because of it.. then they decide they want to punish him before he gets out. Just sucks. I'm really worried about him, honestly. They have kinda pushed him to a breaking point emotionally.

    Jas, I don't know if thats possible, but its a really good idea! I will ask Taylor about it.
  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_crappy-phone-call?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:c71e0cde-ffc1-472a-8f28-354a8d407b05Post:8f3ae6a8-37df-4f03-a762-af773f0862dc">Re: Crappy phone call</a>:
    [QUOTE]I'm sorry, that's really sucky. I like Jas' idea of Skype or whatever.  Also, <strong>you could always do a cardboard cutout</strong>?  I know, not at all the same...
    Posted by raynes[/QUOTE]

    Okay, you just got a big smile out of me. :)
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    We'll just not tell H about this little fact, m'kay?
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  • So sorry, Stacey.  This is not what you want to deal with so close to the wedding. 
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  • Oh Stacey, I am so sorry! Fell better soon! (((hugs))))
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  • I am so sorry. Somehow it will all work out and you will still have a wonderful wedding.

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  • What a frustrating situation!  I like the PP's ideas of cardboard cutout or skype toast, though!
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  • No wait, don't ask your FI about the toast, how AWESOME of a surprise would that be? Get the BM to make a tape in case of technical difficulties with real-time conferencing and then show that. Worst case scenario I'm sure you can do audio. Worst, worst case scenario you can just get a taped message from BM for the two of you to watch on your own.
  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_crappy-phone-call?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:c71e0cde-ffc1-472a-8f28-354a8d407b05Post:b04fc445-192a-436a-b8db-980b59da11fd">Re: Crappy phone call</a>:
    [QUOTE]No wait, don't ask your FI about the toast, how AWESOME of a surprise would that be? Get the BM to make a tape in case of technical difficulties with real-time conferencing and then show that. Worst case scenario I'm sure you can do audio. Worst, worst case scenario you can just get a taped message from BM for the two of you to watch on your own.
    Posted by sister2groom[/QUOTE]

    Thats so funny that you said that- the thought JUST crossed my mind before I read this that I should try to surprise him somehow with that.
    I don't even know how we would do that, project the computer screen so everyone can see?
  • Talk to whoever's in charge of audio/visual (or your DJ) about getting a projector, if that doesn't work I would just get an mp3 of his speech
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