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sarahmk5sarahmk5
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You may have heard me bitching about my one flaking BM, but this is about a different one.

She's my really good friend, but is having a lot of money trouble - she even told me that she can't get me a gift to which I told her I completely understood.  She's selling plasma right now to make rent.  She's staying with me for my bridal shower (and she has a ride with my FI).  She just texted me asking if she'd have a bed.  I told her yes - she can sleep with me, on an air mattress herself, or on a couch - it's her choice.  She told me that she didn't think she could come bc she needs her own bed bc selling plasma is taking a toll on her body.  WTF.

She flakes out last minute on a lot of plans just because she decides she doesn't want to go, and now this.  At least think of a better excuse.  I'm so pissed off right now.
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  • betrothed123betrothed123
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    If she's so hard up for money that she's selling plasma to make ends meet I can't say I blame her.  I understand being hurt, but try to see it from her perspective.  Even if she doesn't have to spend a single penny to get to and be in your wedding, that's time she could be using to maybe make some more cash, try to find a job, whatever it is she needs to do.
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    And betrothed, I'm disgusted with most of the comments that you have posted. I don't think I've ever read such judgmental comments in my life. I'm so lucky that the girls I speak to on theknot are nothing like you...I would've never come on here for ADVICE if I would've encountered a big a bitch as you. I genuinely feel awful for your children or your future children, and I think it would be irresponsible of YOU not to invest in their future therapy sessions starting now. Because trust me when I tell you honey, they're gonna need it. ~jcaruncho2010
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    The fact that she has to sell plasma makes me sad, but yeah. She seems like a douche. I don't know a lot about the process, but how is she allowed to continue to sell it if it's making her unhealthy? And why on earth would the sleeping choices you gave her not be sufficient. I call BS. I'm sorry, Sarah. That sucks.

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  • MeaghanandMichaelMeaghanandMichael
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    um WEIRD, I just posted something similar below... the things people will do, I am just at a loss....
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  • sarahmk5sarahmk5
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    She has a job, actually, the same one as me, which is doing research from a computer.  We're allowed to do up to 40 hrs a week.  She can easily do work here.  I feel bad for her that she has to sell plasma - I told her that if she was really hard up, I could loan her some (though I understand why she didn't take me up, she prob didn't want to mix friends and money).

     I'm also pissed because I think her excuse is complete BS, too.  It's just ridiculous.  And she has to know I'd be upset.  Plus she did it over text.
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  • stmorenostmoreno
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_freak-out?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:cd42836c-da5c-470d-a60f-a430f460f462Post:f3612a7b-d988-48ea-8974-98685dd791b2">Re: Freak Out</a>:
    [QUOTE]The fact that she has to sell plasma makes me sad, but yeah. She seems like a douche. I don't know a lot about the process, but how is she allowed to continue to sell it if it's making her unhealthy? And why on earth would the sleeping choices you gave her not be sufficient. I call BS. I'm sorry, Sarah. That sucks.
    Posted by cew515[/QUOTE]

    I have to agree with CEW on this one.
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  • sarahmk5sarahmk5
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_freak-out?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:cd42836c-da5c-470d-a60f-a430f460f462Post:9e6db4ab-06d2-4008-8982-60e6dff93f7b">Re: Freak Out</a>:
    [QUOTE]um WEIRD, I just posted something similar below... the things people will do, I am just at a loss....
    Posted by MeaghanandMichael[/QUOTE]

    <div>Haha - I see that!  Personally, I don't think I could ever do that, but I've never needed to consider it, either.  I don't judge her for it.</div>
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  • betrothed123betrothed123
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_freak-out?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:cd42836c-da5c-470d-a60f-a430f460f462Post:9d2e71bf-e9f8-4127-aece-0af9d961a3f1">Re: Freak Out</a>:
    [QUOTE]She has a job, actually, the same one as me, which is doing research from a computer.  We're allowed to do up to 40 hrs a week.  She can easily do work here.  I feel bad for her that she has to sell plasma - I told her that if she was really hard up, I could loan her some (though I understand why she didn't take me up, she prob didn't want to mix friends and money).  I'm also pissed because I think her excuse is complete BS, too.  It's just ridiculous.  And she has to know I'd be upset.  <strong>Plus she did it over text.</strong>
    Posted by sarahmk5[/QUOTE]

    Maybe you should try to have an actual conversation with her about it, then.  Miscommunication is very easy via text.  Maybe she didn't fully understand what you were saying to her. 
    kd.joseph's wish is my command
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    Just call me "Brothel"
    And betrothed, I'm disgusted with most of the comments that you have posted. I don't think I've ever read such judgmental comments in my life. I'm so lucky that the girls I speak to on theknot are nothing like you...I would've never come on here for ADVICE if I would've encountered a big a bitch as you. I genuinely feel awful for your children or your future children, and I think it would be irresponsible of YOU not to invest in their future therapy sessions starting now. Because trust me when I tell you honey, they're gonna need it. ~jcaruncho2010
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  • sarahmk5sarahmk5
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_freak-out?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:cd42836c-da5c-470d-a60f-a430f460f462Post:ebdca655-01ac-42ce-a6fa-454ce07ffc0e">Re: Freak Out</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Freak Out : Maybe you should try to have an actual conversation with her about it, then.  Miscommunication is very easy via text.  Maybe she didn't fully understand what you were saying to her. 
    Posted by betrothed123[/QUOTE]

    <div>You're right, but I did lay it out for her just as I did right here with three clear sleeping options.  Frankly, I'm too mad at her to even talk to her right now, but maybe later in the week I'll giver her a call.</div>
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