My brother is being a beebee groom

marriedfilingjointly

Text I got from my brother a week ago:  "How much money did your wedding cost, and how much did mom and dad give you?"

Um, good luck with that. 

We exchange Christmas wishlists in my family and he sent his yesterday.  Today he replied all and said "Also, cash would be great, since we don't really have any to help pay for our awesome wedding. So definitely put that up as a higher priority for my list. Thanks guys!" 

No joke.  Meanwhile, his gf is like super-bride.  She's been really sweet and gracious and they could get married by Elvis in Gatlinburg and she'd probably be fine with it. 

zippityb

I would tell him that my parents provided the traditional dowry of a donkey. But since he's a boy, no donkey for him.

LessThanZero

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[QUOTE]Text I got from my brother a week ago:  <strong>"How much money did your wedding cost, and how much did mom and dad give you?" </strong>Um, good luck with that.  We exchange Christmas wishlists in my family and he sent his yesterday.  Today he replied all and said "Also, cash would be great, since we don't really have any to help pay for our awesome wedding. So definitely put that up as a higher priority for my list. Thanks guys!"  No joke.  Meanwhile, his gf is like super-bride.  She's been really sweet and gracious and they could get married by Elvis in Gatlinburg and she'd probably be fine with it. 
Posted by marriedfilingjointly[/QUOTE]


I usually respond to things like that with "Nunya".

"Nunya what?", you may ask.

NUNYA BUSINESS!

staceytaylor0704

Oooh.. Fun. Luckily my parents were pretty open about how much they gave my sister, and they are gifting us the same amount.

Did you ignore the text?

AllAboutTheBenjamin

I like his lady.  But I kinda want to ram a spikey stick up his nose.

Anysunrise

Sounds like my brother. Whenever Christmas/his birthday comes around, it's a list of things like "An iphone, xbox, superexpensivebrandofshoes" and goes on for about 2000 dollars.

Meanwhile, I'm like, an Amazon gift card, thanks!

dmiller9274

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[QUOTE]I would tell him that my parents provided the traditional dowry of a donkey. But since he's a boy, no donkey for him.
Posted by zippityb[/QUOTE]
I'd go with this.

Blueyed228

How old is he?

I dont think I would tell anyone that info.  Not even my brother.

pirategal03

I'd tell him he'd have to ask them. 

And if they'd like, they can borrow a page from my grandparent's book and tell him "we don't love all our children the same".

This engagement is going to have lots of fun stories, huh?

marriedfilingjointly

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[QUOTE]I would tell him that my parents provided the traditional dowry of a donkey. But since he's a boy, no donkey for him.
Posted by zippityb[/QUOTE]

That's effing hilarious. 

He's 24.  I told him that mom gave me some money as a Christmas present she set aside and it was enough to pay for my dress and alterations.  However, my parents were still married to each other then, and since they split, money has been tight for both of them, as my brother knows (moreso for mom, who would happily give him money if she had it, dad's just irresponsible).

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I want to call my brother a beebee groom, because he probably will be. But that better not be for a long time, and not to the girl he's currently dating. Oh, God, would she be a beebee bride.

But I digress. I would probably tell my brother to bite me and go cry on mommy's shoulder, but that's just how we talk to each other. And I would give him a nice lecture on being an adult and not sending out Christmas lists like that.

marriedfilingjointly

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[QUOTE]I'd tell him he'd have to ask them.  <strong>And if they'd like, they can borrow a page from my grandparent's book and tell him "we don't love all our children the same"</strong>. This engagement is going to have lots of fun stories, huh?
Posted by pirategal03[/QUOTE]

Ha!  The irony of that would be that he's always been the golden child.  Sis and I started working when we were 15.  Brother didn't work until senior year of college when my mom could no longer afford to send him a weekly allowance and pay his fraternity dues.

I just replied all to the email:  "I believe a standard dowry is a donkey and a sack of coffee beans.  Would that help?  It's going to be hard to wrap the donkey so sorry if it isn't a surprise. "  

SarahPLiz

That's so funny. I couldn't imagine my little sister ever asking me that. She knows better! She knows neither of our parents has any money..  

BecW2be

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: My brother is being a beebee groom : Ha!  The irony of that would be that he's always been the golden child.  Sis and I started working when we were 15.  Brother didn't work until senior year of college when my mom could no longer afford to send him a weekly allowance and pay his fraternity dues. I just replied all to the email:  "I believe a standard dowry is a donkey and a sack of coffee beans.  Would that help?  It's going to be hard to wrap the donkey so sorry if it isn't a surprise. "  
Posted by marriedfilingjointly[/QUOTE]

This is why you are my hero. And my first choice for Wife if we ever switch teams.

Wrkn925

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[QUOTE]I would tell him that my parents provided the traditional dowry of a donkey. But since he's a boy, no donkey for him.
Posted by zippityb[/QUOTE]

I thought it was a cow?

marriedfilingjointly

Awesome!

pirategal03

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: My brother is being a beebee groom : Ha!  The irony of that would be that he's always been the golden child.  Sis and I started working when we were 15.  Brother didn't work until senior year of college when my mom could no longer afford to send him a weekly allowance and pay his fraternity dues. I just replied all to the email:  "I believe a standard dowry is a donkey and a sack of coffee beans.  Would that help?  It's going to be hard to wrap the donkey so sorry if it isn't a surprise. "  
Posted by marriedfilingjointly[/QUOTE]

Must be something about being a boy.  The favorites run the same way in our family. 

You replied all?  Who all was in on this e-mail? I missed that part.

zippityb

Donkeys ain't cheap. Tell him that if he protests.

marriedfilingjointly

Mom, sister, beebee groom brother, Wes, and FSIL.  And he's online per google chat and isn't responding.  lol. 

bsn1752

My personal fav...

You:  "I didn't tell you how much they gave me??"

Him:  "No."

You:  "Oh, probably because its NONE OF YOUR D**N BUSINESS!"


Always makes me feel better...

marriedfilingjointly

I should mail him a copy of Bridal Bargains. 

AllAboutTheBenjamin

Tell him they gave you so much for your wedding, there isn't any money left for his.

Starmusica

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[QUOTE]Tell him they gave you so much for your wedding, there isn't any money left for his.
Posted by AllAboutTheBenjamin[/QUOTE]

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</div><div>you just made me snort in an attempt to hold in a laugh in class (its just starting so I am still here- i should log out asap....)</div>

marriedfilingjointly

Yes!  Or "they gave you your wedding money when you were in college, you blew it all on cheap beer and bad decisions."

SarahPLiz

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[QUOTE]I should mail him a copy of Bridal Bargains. 
Posted by marriedfilingjointly[/QUOTE]

<div>I have a copy of the "Budget Brides" planner, with nothing written in it. Want me to send it to him anonymously? </div>

pirategal03

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[QUOTE]Yes!  Or "they gave you your wedding money when you were in college, you blew it all on cheap beer and bad decisions."
Posted by marriedfilingjointly[/QUOTE]

Unless FSIL is a college girlfriend...that one could potentially backfire. 

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

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[QUOTE]Are we related?  My brother actually went to my parents and threw a fit because they paid for my sister's wedding and mine but wouldn't pay for his.  He accused them of discriminating against him for having penis.  LOL
Posted by Kat Eyes[/QUOTE]

Well, he seems to have a point. I mean, there's the whole tantrum issue, but really, they didn't pay for his wedding and they paid for their other two kids' weddings? I'd be kind of pissed, too.

amber2123

Repeat after me NOYGDB

polichik

Yeah.. I think the whole paying for daughters' weddings but not sons' weddings is BS. I know people can spend their money however they want, and of course nobody is obligated to pay anything to anyone, but I think it's a weird gender thing. Why treat your children unequally? If you're going to pay for one and your financial circumstances haven't changed, it just seems kind of arbitrary.

Of course, he shouldn't have thown a tantrum about it. But I do find it odd.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: My brother is being a beebee groom : In theory I get what you are saying.  My parents went with the old school tradition and no one was more shocked than me when they offered to pay for my wedding.  My parents position was that the bride's parents pay traditionally and that he should take it up with them.  By the way I am speaking of my first wedding.  Joe and I are paying for this wedding. 
Posted by Kat Eyes[/QUOTE]

Right, I guess it just sucks if his fiancee's family doesn't subscribe to that tradition or can't afford it. They can't just MAKE her parents pay for it.

Rosie109

Sometimes I think I am missing out on all of the good shiit I could put my family and friends through