Snarky Brides

Hoo boy. Need to whine

Okay, so my poor fi is having to put up with my stress/freakouts.   I'm 13 days out from wedding day, 6 days out from my dad's memorial service.  My oldest, very troubled brother is boycotting the service because, thanks to me not inviting him to my wedding, he thinks the whole family is against him.  Thank god my mom believes his story about not being able to get time off from work in order to attend (he did attend dad's funeral back in March). 

My mentally  troubled sister has been having a series of setbacks, culminating in in-and-out hospital stays, calls from her psych to the police, and much drama related to who will take care of her dog (it was a bad, bad idea for her to get a puppy, but she insisted and now can't care for it properly).  She's also blocking herself off almost completely from any help/support we can offer.  Only her grown sons and one other sister even know about this latest series of hospitalizations.

Meanwhile, I'm almost hyperventilating trying to get  details wrapped up for the wedding - I suspect I'm so hyper about them because they are ONE thing I can control and actually see results on. 

Just needed to vent to someone other than fi.  Thanks for the ears!

Re: Hoo boy. Need to whine

  • I'm sorry for all that stuff you're going through.  I'm a lurker mostly on here and on etiquette, and I remember your post about your brother not being invited.  You seem so strong and like you have everything together, so I'm sure everything will work out for you.  Just have a glass of wine (or 3), and remember everything will turn out beautifully. :-) 

    My thoughts will be with you over the next several days with your dad's service and everything else that's going on.
  • So sorry for your stress, OWN.  I don't have much to contribute, other than a hug.  Hang in there - your wedding is getting so close!
    imageFollow Me on Pinterest
  • I don't have much to contribute either, but I wanted to say "hang in there" too.  *hugs*
  • I'm sorry, OWN. It must be really stressful, but you will make it. Its good to focus on the things you can control, because it is not productive at all to worry about those you can't. Hang in there!
    Image and video hosting by TinyPic
    Lilypie Premature Baby tickers
  • Oh OWN, ok now that's real stress.  I'm so sorry this is happening right now.  My sympathy on the loss of your father.  You can't control what your siblings do, and it's not your responsibility to "fix" anything.

    ((hugs))  Remember that soon you'll be marrying your amazing man.  In spite of everything it will be a happy day for you.  You deserve the best at your wedding, and you're right, you do have control over that.  You have every right to focus on that and let all the rest of it go if you can.
  • OWN, try to take every day to relax an don't think about anything.  Do you have a hobby that you can get totally lost in?  I'm sorry you are having to deal with all of this.  Best wishes and just believe that everything will work out!
    Image and video hosting by TinyPic

    2011 Reading Challenge

    Jessica has read 16 books toward her goal of 150 books.
    hide
    "It's fine to have an open mind, just not so open your brains fall out."
  • OWN- so sorry you're having a rough time of it. I know it's a lot to handle all at once. I have to agree with Deep on this one. You cant control your siblings, so focus on what you can control.
    I know it's easier said then done sometimes. But before you know it your wedding day will be here,and it's all down hill from there.

    What do you have left to do wedding wise?
    Image and video hosting by TinyPic
  • Aw, thanks everyone.  I forgot to mention that I injured my hip flexor, or some damn thing, a few week ago so I can't even run.  Bah.  Your words of encouragement helped so much!

    Things left to do: seating charts, programs, flowers, make arrangements for various things like setting up/tearing down, rehearsal dinner, next-day informal get-together, finalize ceremony details, coordinate with our DJ.  Typical last two weeks stuff, I think. 
  • Oh wow, that sucks, OWN. I'm sorry you have so much stress and things to worry about. I wish I had some advice or words of wisdom but I'm not sure I know how to make this one better. And I'm sorry about your dad, I don't think I was posting much on SB in March so I didn't hear about that.

    Just remember that in less than 2 weeks you'll be married to the love of your life!
  • OWN, I am right there with you.  I have 20 days left.  Have you been over to our month board lately?  There is some pretty funny stuff there.  They hate me, but I still post over there every once in a while. 

    Image and video hosting by TinyPic

    2011 Reading Challenge

    Jessica has read 16 books toward her goal of 150 books.
    hide
    "It's fine to have an open mind, just not so open your brains fall out."
  • Well for me I made a lot of lists and just systematically went down the line. One thing at a time. Do you have anyone helping you?
     
    Sorry about your hip. but dont push it and make it worse, you want to be able to walk down the aisle.
    Image and video hosting by TinyPic
  • I'm glad you know you have no control over your siblings...you gotta stick to what you know!!!  I can't wait to see your wedding pictures!!! :)
    It's time. Adoption saving and process started in November 2012.
    Image and video hosting by TinyPic Image and video hosting by TinyPic
  • PiruPiru member
    100 Comments
    Man, you have every right to be freaking out. So sorry that your dad passed, especially so close to the wedding. Hang in there. I agree, focus on what you can control and let everything else work itself out.
    And if you should die before me, ask if you can take a friend. Pick a flower, close your eyes,and drift away- STP
    image
    June siggy challenge!
  • Sorry to hear about all of this.

    I dont think anyone will fault you for taking an emotional time-out from all of this for a few days to focus on what you need to get done.

    As hard as it is, you have to take care of yourself first, and then the others.

    Im sure it will all work out.
    045_45-1 photo 045_45-1.jpg
    BabyFruit Ticker
    DX: PCOS/Recurrent losses/MTHFR mutation (compound hetero)
    5 hysteroscopies/2 surgical
    3 Inject IUIs = 2 m/c's and 1 BFN
    IVF #1= BFP. m/c at 7w6d. Needed 2 D&C's and scar tissue removal. Mild OHSS
    IVF #2 = BFP. Severe OHSS. 4 Drainings. TWINS!
This discussion has been closed.
Choose Another Board
Search Boards