Poll- Would this be fun, or a PITA

Knittibell

Just curious- if a couple had a Halloween wedding, and decided to do a 1920's theme, rather than a haunted/halloween theme (with martinis, cigars, feather boas, pearls, headbands etc as favors- think upscale 1920's)..

and included in the wedding invitation that guests were welcome to dress in their favorite 1920's attire would you do it? Would you think this would be fun, or do you hate stuff like that?

ETA sorry for the poll typo- need more coffee!

ETA it would NOT be required

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I wouldn't want to dress up, but I wouldn't mind if others did. It would be kind of fun to see people all decked out. But if it were required, I wouldn't go to the wedding, mainly because that theme doesn't interest me. I'm not opposed to dressing up, I'd just have to really like the theme.

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I'm not a huge fan of dressing up, but it might be fun. If you did this, it shouldn't be mandatory. For me, it might even come down to money. It's likely that I'm already paying a good chunk of change to attend the wedding, so the last thing that I'd want to do is pay for a costume.

betrothed123

I don't dress up for Halloween ( no kids and we don't usually go out with friends so there's not much of a point), so to fit the theme I'd have to go out and buy something that would work.  As long as it wasn't required though, I don't think I would care.  I'd just wear a dress or skirt I'd normally wear to a wedding and call it a day.

MarriedInAFever

I think I mentioned this before on here. I know a couple who got married last year on Halloween and dressed as Frankenstein and the Bride of Frankenstein. All the guests and the officiant dressed up. It's NMS, but the guests apparently really loved it.

Knittibell

Our friends usually all gtg for a huge party, so if I did it Halloween weekend, I'd want to give people the option to dress up (definitely would not require it)- but would prefer not to have a bunch of Zombies and whatnot. LOL!  I figure we'll have tables of props,like pearls boas etc, if people decide against dressing up, then get into the mood- could have some fun with photos.

I just liked the idea of the theme if it was for Halloween- rather than the standard pumpkins/horror, etc...

Thanks for the HONEST opinions!!

kd.joseph

I'm with PP's it might be fun for some but dont make it mandatory. Not everyone is into dressing up.

Sloane99

Honestly I'd hate it. I don't generally dress up for Hallowe'en, I have a hard enough time finding something to wear to weddings - this is just double the pain plus the expense because when else am I going to wear that outfit, and even if it was optional, I'd feel this giant obligation to comply and stress myself out wondering if everyone else was.

I love the idea of a wedding with classy 1920's touches/feel but not the note in the invite.

ehathewa

I love stuff like that... my FI hates it.  So for parties like that I dress up and he does not. 

I think that your wording on the invitation sounds nice so people from both camps would feel comfortable dressing up or not. 

K Byte

I love dressing up for Halloween and I usually go pretty all-out, but I don't own any 1920's clothes or anything so I'm not sure how that would work for me.

npasquale16

I love dressing up and think this would be a ton of fun.  It's NMS and I agree with PPs that it shouldn't be mandatory, but I find the off the wall ideas to be the most entertaining.

opalsky007

I think it would be fun, but I'd also plan on wearing something out of my closet rather than renting/buying a costume. I think it'd be pretty simple and cheap to add flashy costume jewelry or a flapper-style headband to a cocktail dress and still look the part.

Knittibell

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_poll-would-this-fun-pita?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:e9578c4a-5743-4f12-940a-bac290918cc4Post:f5751b11-f361-4ba9-9137-e01dfb51842d">Re: Poll- Would this be fun, or a PITA</a>:
[QUOTE]I think it would be fun, but I'd also plan on wearing something out of my closet rather than renting/buying a costume. I think it'd be pretty simple and cheap to add flashy costume jewelry or a flapper-style headband to a cocktail dress and still look the part.
Posted by opalsky007[/QUOTE]

Right, exactly- and if I have lots of hats and boas on offer for people who didn't dress up but wish they'd had... I thought it could be fun. Most of my friends ARE the sort who get into this sort of thing and dig the drama, though I know some of the older folks would not be interested, I think they'd have fun with people watching those who did. ;)

gottahavashorti

I wouldn't want to go out and buy a new outfit for a wedding unless I could rewear it, and I wouldn't be able to rewear a 1920s outfit.

I do like the idea of having 1920s accessories around that people can pick up.  Although maybe in conjunction with a photo booth rather than to just wear around the reception.

andyandhillary

I think it's a fun idea and I love themed parties but it would also be expensive to put together an outfit for that. 

Knittibell

I just figured since most of these people would be buying or making a halloween costume anyhow, they could get accessories to make it vintage for the wedding, which would be on the weekend before/after Halloween.

I love the photobooth idea, but am wondering if the budget will handle it!

betrothed123

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_poll-would-this-fun-pita?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:e9578c4a-5743-4f12-940a-bac290918cc4Post:1798c6d8-a9f6-4e4b-8e63-dc075fa3b27b">Re: Poll- Would this be fun, or a PITA</a>:
[QUOTE]I just figured since most of these people would be buying or making a halloween costume anyhow, they could get accessories to make it vintage for the wedding, which would be on the weekend before/after Halloween. I love the photobooth idea, but am wondering if the budget will handle it!
Posted by Knittibell[/QUOTE]

Maybe rather than making it a decade based theme you could go with a formality based theme (think masquerade ball Halloween party, or something).  That way people can just come dressed up based on the formality of the event and still be "in costume".

SCBojangles1138

I'd be more comfortable with dressing up for something like a Halloween costume wedding...for me it'd be harder and possibly more expensive to find a 20's theme costume. JMO though

I think the idea of dressing up is fun though!

Knittibell

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_poll-would-this-fun-pita?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:e9578c4a-5743-4f12-940a-bac290918cc4Post:ff22eafd-09b6-4877-9726-4b62cdc5a7c7">Re: Poll- Would this be fun, or a PITA</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Poll- Would this be fun, or a PITA : Maybe rather than making it a decade based theme you could go with a formality based theme (think masquerade ball Halloween party, or something).  That way people can just come dressed up based on the formality of the event and still be "in costume".
Posted by betrothed123[/QUOTE]

This is the other thing I am considering- if our colors are black/white/red, getting a bunch of fancy masks as favors.. like these:



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And some plain black silk ones for men, etc...

ricksang

I had a Halloween wedding. I wish now that we would have has a costume party instead of a formalish type wedding.

lharri12

I wouldn't dress up in 20's garb, but it would be fun to look at everyone else.

JessAndTrav

I would feel silly sitting in a ceremony wearing something like that.

Costumes aren't necessarily comfortable, and I don't know how well that'd work out for you. I think more people would pass than you might think.

But it also depends on your crowd. You know them better than we do...do you think they'd dress up and get into it?

I have a friend who had a DW, and her AHR was a halloween party, but it was dress up as whatever, and was a huge hit.

polichik

I LOVE stuff like that, but it's definitely not for everyone. It wouldn't fly with the majority of our wedding guests, but it really depends on the crowd.

I know of a couple who was having a steampunk wedding (I don't think it was sarah#s, although I know she is) and decided to have little baskets of accessories at the reception in case people wanted to pick them up. I like that idea.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

If I had something that went with the theme, I'd do it. I have a black cocktail dress that is sort of 20s-esque and I'd do my makeup in an old hollywood style. If I didn't have anything I could do, I'd just dress in regular cocktail attire. I don't think I'd buy anything specifically for just one party.

I much prefer a classy theme like that to seeing people dressed up as Barney or Britney Spears at a wedding, i.e. normal Halloween costumes.

mrscarter052011

As long as it's not mandatory I think it would be fun. I went to a Renaissance themed wedding years ago and garb was optional but we dressed up and it was a blast.  Just imagine 80+ people in Renaissance style clothing doing a conga line. LOL 

The idea to have extra boas around is great too. 

pooh8402

for a wedding, I'd feel silly doing a full costume. I'd probably just throw on a cocktail dress and do my makeup 20s style--all lashes and red lips. for just a party, I'd have a blast with it and go all out.

TheCranberry

I think that would be fun!  I agree that you'd have to find a way to word it or get around by word of mouth that it's not mandatory so people who do dress up and those who don't feel comfortable. 

I also think the idea of having props at the wedding is a good one.  You don't even need to have a photobooth to pull it off.  Just put different things on the tables or maybe have a table with all of the props and whoever wants one can grab it. 

I'd love to go to a costume/masquerade type wedding even if I just wore my regular outfit and added some type of hair piece or mask or necklaces or something.

shoegal715

I hate theme weddings. The theme should be your marriage.

Knittibell

Thanks everyone, for the honest opinions!! I think if it ends up being Halloween weekend then I may just go for it. More elegant, though- maybe long pearls and boas for the BM's at the reception, and Fedoras for the guys, and loads of props in case anyone else decides they want in! We're a big halloween crowd, in terms of our friends, so I figured if we took the Halloween weekend, we should do SOMETHING fun!

PunkRockPrincess13

Any excuse to play dress up is great ...and the fact that its a classy theme makes it so much fun. Plus...who doesnt love a martini ...mmm...