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Some girls just suck at life. Vent.

Maybe its just me, maybe I'm completely under reacting to the situation.

When me and FI bought our house last year we bought it in a neighborhood close to my mom. She's recently widowed and was having a hard time letting go. We're 10 miles down the road.

Well, a few months ago the house next to us went up for sale. No, my mom didn't try to buy it. But, my FI's ex girlfriends mom did buy it. I would have much rather mom have bought it (haha). At first I didn't mind at all. The ex didn't live there, and never came around. They never bothered us. Well about a month ago she moved in with her mom. I didn't care, until now.

This girl is crazy. She rides by our house 6-7 times a day (the way the neighborhood is, she doesn't have to pass our house to get to hers, actually when she passes ours she hits a dead end). Stops and parks in our driveway. She stole our dog. She's called the police on me saying I beat my daughter.  She calls our house at all hours of the night. We've changed our cell phone numbers, the house phone numbers, and even our security system number (I'm scared she's going to try and break in our house).  She poured potting soil in our pool.

I mean, the list could go on. Everyday its something new. Its too the point where we haven't stayed home in a week. If my FI isn't home, I don't go home. I sent FI over to talk to her parents when it first started, he was told to get the Eff off their property or they would call the law on him. So, they're no help.

If this continues too much longer, we maybe having to take legal action against her.

What causes girls to go crazy like this??
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  • Um, they are crazy. I would have called the police a long time ago if she's doing these things. Did you get your dog back?
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  • Um. Wow.

    I hope you called the police and filed a report for everything she's done.  I'd go try to get a restraining order, and hopefully the distance they put on it makes it impossible for her to live at home w/ her parents w/o violating it.
  • I would've called the cops when she stole your dog and started calling you non-stop.  That is considered harassment if you tell her to stop calling and she doesn't.  Call them sooner than later. 
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  • Yes! We did get him back. Being that her parents are our neighbors, we've been trying to just wait it out. Thinking she would eventually give up.

  • edited July 2010
    I think I would call the police anytime something happens you can prove. I had one of my ex-husbands ex's bothering me. When her phone harrassment got so bad I just called the police,who called her and then showed up on her porch.

    That scared her for a a few months. But, by continuing to ignore her behavior she finally faded away. But yours seems a bit extreme. Document everything, and maybe even set up a camera, if possible. 

    Good Luck, hope it all works out. Arent crazy people fun?
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  • Get a restraining order! Yesterday!
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  • In NC you cannot get a restraining order unless you dated the person. No same sex orders. We've already tried that route.
  • edited July 2010
    Holy crap, she is insane. Like PP said, you should be calling the cops every time she does someting. Put up cameras in your yard to catch her pouring stuff in your pool or whatever else she does. Document all phone calls. Get a restraining order immediately.

    This sucks, I'm so sorry you have to deal with it. Was she this BSC when your FI dated her? It seems to be an extreme way to ger back at him. Oh, and you should go back over and talk to her parents. If they say to get the Fvck off their property, let them know you feel the same way and will have their daughter arrested the next time she comes on yours.

    ETA--but didn't your FI date her? Why can't he get the restraining order?
  • Next time she pulls something, call the cops. You tried to be civil, you tried to wait it out, basically you gave this girl several opportunities to straighten up when you chose not to involve the police. But she's committed vandalism, theft, harrassment and falsely called the police on you ... to the point where you're afraid that you and your child aren't safe in your own house. It's time for no more Mr. Nice Neighbors.

    Just an FYI, everything else aside, all bets would have been off for me the second she called the cops saying I beat my kid. Even the dog stealing (As long as the dog was returned unharmed), I might have let go, but seriously, somebody lies about how I treat my kid to the cops and it's go time.


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  • That is terrible! Can you Fi get a restraining order against her?
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    [QUOTE]In NC you cannot get a restraining order unless you dated the person. No same sex orders. We've already tried that route.
    Posted by MissDuke2012[/QUOTE]

    If your FI dated her doesnt that apply? And I'm with Seshat,you really need to be proactive here. And I'll be damned if I'd let some BSC girl scare me out of my house. But that's just me.
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  • Document every single incident in a notebook, with dates and times.  If this ever ends up in a courtroom, you will need it.

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  • I have nothing new to add b/c the other ladies have covered it.

    But, I did want to know how your daughter was doing at her new school?
  • If your FI can get one, can he get your house listed as a protected property? Because if he can, then it doesn't matter whether or not your FI is home, she is just not allowed on your property period.

    When I got one on my ex, the judge was able to put something in there that he could not go to my house or my place of work under any circumstances.

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  • He said it makes him sound like a "bitch" if he's the one that gets it. The last time we went up to the courthouse we were told that until we have proof, other than the call about me abusing Cam, the order won't last more than 30 days. But, after some great suggestions, we WILL be buying a camera tonight. From my understanding, she wasn't anything like she is now.

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    [QUOTE]In NC you cannot get a restraining order unless you dated the person. No same sex orders. We've already tried that route.
    Posted by MissDuke2012[/QUOTE]

    Your FI dated dated her, so he could get one by that logic.  But, also, that is not true.  NC has the civil no-contact order and that's used for people you DO NOT have an intimate relationship with.  It's for coworkers, neighbors, strangers, etc that are harrassing/stalking you.  I wonder why no one told you about this.  You might want to check it out. 
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    [QUOTE]I have nothing new to add b/c the other ladies have covered it. But, I did want to know how your daughter was doing at her new school?
    Posted by mrscarter052011[/QUOTE]

    I would say she's doing wonderful, but she's no longer there. We took her out. She's staying with one of my friends that recently had a baby.
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    [QUOTE]<strong>He said it makes him sound like a "bitch" if he's the one that gets it.</strong> The last time we went up to the courthouse we were told that until we have proof, other than the call about me abusing Cam, the order won't last more than 30 days. But, after some great suggestions, we WILL be buying a camera tonight. From my understanding, she wasn't anything like she is now.
    Posted by MissDuke2012[/QUOTE]

    What the heck is that supposed to mean?  And even getting a 30 day restraining order is better than nothing, and may scare/shock her into knocking it off. 
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Some girls just suck at life. Vent. : I would say she's doing wonderful, but she's no longer there. We took her out. She's staying with one of my friends that recently had a baby.
    Posted by MissDuke2012[/QUOTE]

    Well, it's great that she's happy with your friend. 
  • megk8ozmegk8oz member
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    edited July 2010
    I think you need to install some cameras (In turn getting more "proof" to get a more permanent order) and your FI needs to get over himself about being a "bitch". If anything, the fact that he won't do what it takes to make you feel safe in your own house makes him an even bigger "bitch", imo.

    ETA: I don't mean that you're FI is a bad guy or anything, I'm just saying, if he's really so hung up about how "un-manly" it looks to seek legal protection from a girl, he needs a reminder that protecting his future wife and making her feel safe is one of the most "manly" things a man can do.

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  • I think you are making a wise choice to involve the police ASAP. Tell your FI too bad if it makes him feel like a "girl" or whatever, its for everyone - especially your child's safety!
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Some girls just suck at life. Vent. : What the heck is that supposed to mean?  And even getting a 30 day restraining order is better than nothing, and may scare/shock her into knocking it off. 
    Posted by ohwhynot[/QUOTE]

    He just thinks if he's the one that gets the restraining order that it'll look like he can't protect his family. Like he's a whimpy guy that can't handle his own.
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    That is all kinds of fucked up. Im curious why you havnt reported/documented all of this stuff as it has been happening. Im almost positive if you had of actually acted rather than sat back on your haunches and hoped for the best, it would already be taken care of.
  • OMG what a psycho!
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Some girls just suck at life. Vent. : He just thinks if he's the one that gets the restraining order that it'll look like he can't protect his family. Like he's a whimpy guy that can't handle his own.
    Posted by MissDuke2012[/QUOTE]

    If he's that opposed and you can't change his mind, I'd say look into the civil no-contact order.  And DEFINITELY put camera up to catch the behavior so you can get a permanent order after the temporary one.
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    [QUOTE]I think you need to install some cameras (In turn getting more "proof" to get a more permanent order) and your FI needs to get over himself about being a "bitch". If anything, the fact that he won't do what it takes to make you feel safe in your own house makes him an even bigger "bitch", imo. ETA: I don't mean that you're FI is a bad guy or anything, I'm just saying, if he's really so hung up about how "un-manly" it looks to seek legal protection from a girl, he needs a reminder that protecting his future wife and making her feel safe is one of the most "manly" things a man can do.
    Posted by megk8oz[/QUOTE]

    Was thinking the same thing Meg.
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  • Like Les said, document everything with great detail. Take pictures of the damage.
    Bring this record to the police station. If they still refuse to do anything, let them know you will be contacting a lawyer and both the police station and the woman will be hearing from him.
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    [QUOTE]In NC you cannot get a restraining order unless you dated the person. No same sex orders. We've already tried that route.
    Posted by MissDuke2012[/QUOTE]

    Have your FI file a restraining order, he dated her.
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  • I'm with everyone else.  Document, involve the police, and try and get some hard evidence.  I have a neighbour like that too, and that's what we had to do.  He's up on charges now ( mischief and uttering threats), it goes to court next week.
  • What the fuuck? IMO, your FI is a biitch for refusing to deal with it and using his fear of looking like a biitch as an excuse.
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