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  • NebbNebb member
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    I think you know full well how selfish youre being.
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  • Yes you  are. She's 9 years old and still enjoys birthday parties. If you have been planning you wedding for so long then maybe you should have picked a different date. I think you are being a bit selfish.
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  • She's 9. Her dad's going to be gone for her birthday. Get a grip, and let her have some cake Friday or Sunday. And be happy for your new steppdaughter - while never letting her know you felt this way.
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    [QUOTE]Hi, So I am getting married this weekend. My fiance has a daughter who will be turning 9 when we are away for our honeymoon. My fiance mentions that during our rehearsal dinner his mother would be bringing a cake and presents for his daughter because we would be missing her birthday. I told him that I didn't want this to happen because this is our rehearsal dinner. I then agreed to do something on Sunday after our wedding. Well my fiance's family was going to invite a bunch of people from the wedding and have this party the morning after our wedding as a sort of brunch birthday festivities. I got really upset about this as have been planning this wedding for a year and just want to have the weekend dedicated to us getting married and no also have it be birthday party bonanza. So now my fiance is super pissed at me and thinks I'm being ridiculous and this is 4 days before our wedding.  Am I out of line here?
    Posted by tking97[/QUOTE]
    You're out of line. Seriously, you get your wedding day why do you need the full weekend?
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  • Okay I'm not suggesting eliminating her birthday completely. I'm proposing we do it when we get back from her wedding which will be a week after her birthday instead of a week before.

    As a side note, she didn't plan this party for Sunday nor did she know anything about it so it's not like I'm undoing a party that she planned. And this "party" involved all grown-ups and no kids.
  • Tking, as in "The Knot -ing"? and you joined today...huh.
  • You are aware that after you get married this kid is going to be in your life right? Because right now you are going down the "evil stepmother" path really quickly.

    Grow up and accept that the world doesn't revolve around you.

  • Haha, Blue, I must have been writing when you posted.

    OP, there's no possible way that you can honestly not understand why your future step-daughter's birthday is important.  It's not enough that her own father won't be there to celebrate with her? Is this really the way you want to enter this family?
  • First of all you must have known that you were planning a wedding around her birthday. Why did this just now become a problem? It is kind of ridiculous that you can't share some of "your weekend" with her anyway. The fact that you are upset about sharing this with a 9 year old does not bode well IMO.
  • Nice job, scheduling your honeymoon so her dad misses her birthday.  That's really swell.
  • If her b-day is the week before the wedding where are you? Why not do it before hand?
  • NebbNebb member
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    Why do I see tking talking her FI into stranding the kid in the forest or something so that she can have him to herself. Evil step mother indeed.
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    [QUOTE]Nice job, scheduling your honeymoon so her dad misses her birthday.  That's really swell.
    Posted by skippylouwho[/QUOTE]

    Hell the weekend of our wedding we celebrated our son-in-laws b-day.

    Get over yourself. This is your step-daughter, if I was your FI I would be thinking twice if you're acting like this already. Grow Up! 

    If this is even for real.
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  • OP--are you not responding because you're posting this same inane question on mutliple boards? 
  • Wow. I could understand not wanting to do presents and a mini-party at your reception. But at your rehearsal dinner or morning after brunch? Little girls need every bit of attention from their daddies. She is already coping with a new stepmother (which probably scares her on some level). You absolutely have no right to be a diva about this. Sorry, but all PPs are right 100%
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    [QUOTE]OP--are you not responding because you're posting this same inane question on mutliple boards? 
    Posted by npasquale16[/QUOTE]

    No she's making another AE to back her up.
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    [QUOTE]Why do I see tking talking her FI into stranding the kid in the forest or something so that she can have him to herself. Evil step mother indeed.
    Posted by Nebb[/QUOTE]

    I picture her more as the one living in the gingerbread house with the wicked big oven. "Get in--you're ruining my perfect day!"  Or maybe making the daughter into a servant?
  • Yeah, you are being very ridiculous. Grow up. She's 9. If you are going to be this jealous of her, I bet her dad isn't going to put up with you for long. 
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  • FI's cousins wedding fell on a guests birthday.  She had a cake for him and had the DJ play Happy Birthday.

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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Please help - advice : No she's making another AE to back her up.
    Posted by kd.joseph[/QUOTE]
    Hah.  Maybe the FI will come on in her defense.  Oh wait, he thinks she's being a bitchface, too.

    KD--did I read that you have a grown child? No way!
  • It goes well with Steph's favorite Disney song post, huh??
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Please help - advice : Hah.  Maybe the FI will come on in her defense.  Oh wait, he thinks she's being a bitchface, too. KD--did I read that you have a grown child? No way!
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    Yes this is my son Brenden, he will be 20 in Dec.

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  • That's great, KD.  Can't believe it!
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    [QUOTE]Aww He's adorable
    Posted by nda_roxybabe[/QUOTE]


    Thanks, he's a typical PITA boy, but I love him. He is a momma's boy.
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  • If that was me, and I was entering in with step child(ren) I would be making sure she was the center of attention at some point during the reception.Maybe a special happy birthday during the ceremony, better yet i wouldn't make the wedding or honeymoon so close or overlap the birthday.

    Like everyone else said, get over it. you're a grown woman and a step mother (will be Saturday officially). Celebrate her birthday whenever the family wants. Don't become the evil stepmom already!
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  • Please tell me that people this ridiculous don't exist.
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    [QUOTE]Hi, So I am getting married this weekend. My fiance has a daughter who will be turning 9 when we are away for our honeymoon. My fiance mentions that during our rehearsal dinner his mother would be bringing a cake and presents for his daughter because we would be missing her birthday. I told him that I didn't want this to happen because this is our rehearsal dinner. I then agreed to do something on Sunday after our wedding. Well my fiance's family was going to invite a bunch of people from the wedding and have this party the morning after our wedding as a sort of brunch birthday festivities. I got really upset about this as have been planning this wedding for a year and just want to have the weekend dedicated to us getting married and no also have it be birthday party bonanza. So now my fiance is super pissed at me and thinks I'm being ridiculous and this is 4 days before our wedding.  Am I out of line here?
    Posted by tking97[/QUOTE]

    Do you realize that you sound like a total scumbag?
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