What are groom's parent's paying for??

pumpky2312

Every website and everyone I have asked has said something different.  I know the groom's parent's aren't responsible for paying for anything, but what do they typically pay for?  Most people seem to think it's only the rehearsal dinner but others have said marraige license, flowers, etc.  Thanks for the help!

Donnaaries

There are no more typicals as in this day and age more and more bride and grooms are paying for their own weddings.
In our case, DH's parents generously paid for the rehearsal dinner and our bar tab at the wedding.
However, if your future in-laws have not brought up the topic of contributing to the wedding, don't bring it up.  You should plan as if they're not contributing anything until they approach you about paying for something.  It can be a sensitive issue for some families.

donnamarie02

I think now days it just whatever they want and can pay for. We are paying for our wedding totally on our own. I was just in a more traditional wedding yesterday and her grooms parents paid for a few things. They paid for every aspect of  the honeymoon, all things rehearsal, the videographer, the brides bouquet and a few other flowers. Those are only the things that I know of, it could of been more.

MarieSD

A lot of websites will try to tell you what's typical on this issue, but they all disagree and differ because ... there's just no "typical" contribution.

It's up to his family to decide if they're interested in contributing anything, and if so, they'll probably offer soon after the engagement/official start of wedding planning.

His parents offered to host the rehearsal dinner. Until they started making definite plans/reservations, though, I was keeping a little in reserve just in case. I'm cautious and wanted to make sure we were financially prepared in case something happened and we needed to take over on that. There are some stories on this site of what happened when when one family offered to pay but then couldn't, wouldn't, or wasn't able to pay as much as it will actually cost. I want to avoid having any conflicts ilke that.

JennaV26

My FILs are covering the RD, my bouquet, the GM's boutonnieres, the limo & the groom's cake.

I get annoyed because they look up everything for this wedding so they found a site that said "The groom's side pays for this and this" and that's strictly what they go by. But the only reason they are paying for the limo is because I told them my parents weren't going to pay for it since they're paying for everything else when it was brought up what we were doing for transportation.

juliebug1997

My ILs paid for the RD and the day after breakfast.  Since they hadn't really mentioned paying for either of those things, we started planning it ourselves.  It really hit the fan when they wanted to pay for it but didn't like what we had started planning.  I wish that we had just paid for it ourselves and saved the headaches.

llc2011

Like everyone else has said, there's really no set standard now a days.

His parents are going to help out with the RD, but until I actually see that money, we have just budgeted to pay for it ourselves.  If they do chip in, great.  If they can't come up with it, then we'll still be able to handle it ourselves.

BanannaP

FMIL is paying for the rehearsal dinner and is helping with the honeymoon. That's what they did for FBIL's wedding, so that's what she's doing for ours. I would have preferred for her to give me a set amount to spend as I saw fit, but she didn't want to do that, and I'm grateful for whatever she can contribute.

Tiffany618

Ours just gave us a lump sum to use as we wished.   It was more than enough to pay for the RD and a pretty good chunk of the honeymoon.

bridgetlb

my FI's parents are paying for the rehearsal dinner, his goom's cake and the champagne toast at the reception.

sparklingdiamond

My FI's parents aren't paying for any part of the wedding.  His sister is helping to pay for the rehearsal dinner though.

NMac2010

I don't think either of your parents are "supposed" to pay for anything. I think being adults, you should assume you're going to pay for the wedding yourselves unless someone offers to help you.

FI's parents are paying for the rehearsal dinner, and the alcohol at the wedding. (Our venue is BYOB) And, FMIL is throwing me a bridal shower.

danac2010

FI has no family so we are paying for 95% of the wedding ourselves.  We didn't expect anyone to help us but both sets of my parents offer to give us a certain amount of money to help pay for things.  FI aunt and cousins are throwing me a bridal shower but I didn't except that at all.

linzcw04

My husbands parents paid for the rehearsal dinner and his father gave us money for our honeymoon. Other than that it was my parents...HTH

bridgetlb

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_texas-dallas-ft-worth_grooms-parents-paying?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:102Discussion:1f1bfde0-94b4-4847-b623-16ce05eb1c37Post:0c6728bc-625a-440d-8773-b42fbec6dfc5">Re: What are groom's parent's paying for??</a>:
[QUOTE]FMIL is paying for the rehearsal dinner and is helping with the honeymoon. That's what they did for FBIL's wedding, so that's what she's doing for ours. I would have preferred for her to give me a set amount to spend as I saw fit, but she didn't want to do that, and I'm grateful for whatever she can contribute.
Posted by BanannaP[/QUOTE]

this is very similar to my story..... they paid for the reheasal dinner for his brother, so had to do the same exact for us. not sure how he talked them into the champage toast..... - but i really wanted just the money to do with what we saw fit as well (though i am truly grateful for anything).

pattc

Traditionally they pay for the rehersal dinner and the bride's bouquet.