VENT - Urgh. Mad at myself!!

jessmoe

Hey ladies -

I haven't written on here in awhile because I totally got off track.  My summer job has me out of the house from 7am-6pm.  I'm exhausted when I get home and have been letting this be the reason to not work out.  FI has been getting home before me, and so he has been cooking the meals, but we are both really bad at staying on track with eating right.  What did we do tonight?? Ordered pizza. How much did I have (big, thick slices)? 4 slices. 

Anyway, I am going out for FBIL's bday tomorrow, so I was trying on clothes tonight.  I hate how I look in everything and am so mad I've let myself get to this point.  I lost about 35 lbs and was at my goal weight 2 years ago, but have gained it all back plus about 10 or so.  I told myself back I would be down a lot by now to start trying on dresses...haven't lost anything.

I think this is the wake up call I REALLY needed (feeling so horrible in my clothes) - my summer job outfit has pretty much been shorts and a baggy t-shirt, so it's easy to not really notice how I feel. 

This is a total vent - just needed to get it out.  I WILL start my new life - working out - eating right - NOW!!!

GinaRose4

I totally know how you feel. It's aggravating when things go off track. I planned when working out and eating right...well I ate right for two weeks but I've been working out. Still not losing weight though so I need both I guess. Good Luck on reaching your goal again.

FavoriteOne

You can do it, girl!

ev4149

Wow!!!  You are me!  I lost 35 pounds too years ago, but started a new job with crazy hours and gained back 20 pounds.  I decided to stop lurking and start paying attention today... I now have  a notebook to write down what I'm eating and what exerise I do each day.  Good luck!!!  I know you can do it!

msange727

oh god i totally know how you feel. that was me last year. it's a struggle and it sucks, but i swear sometimes you have to have a moment where you get so pissed that it's just the turning point right then. a suggestion - remember that feeling (i still do) of hating all the clothes you tried on, and keep it at the back of your mind every time you feel like skipping a work out or ordering awful takeout. it helps!

in the meantime, you're doing the right thing - and you're motivated. sounds like a good first step!

PeonyPrincesskdd

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[QUOTE]Hey ladies - I haven't written on here in awhile because I totally got off track.  My summer job has me out of the house from 7am-6pm.  I'm exhausted when I get home and have been letting this be the reason to not work out.  FI has been getting home before me, and so he has been cooking the meals, but we are both really bad at staying on track with eating right.  What did we do tonight?? Ordered pizza. How much did I have (big, thick slices)? 4 slices.  Anyway, I am going out for FBIL's bday tomorrow, so I was trying on clothes tonight.  I hate how I look in everything and am so mad I've let myself get to this point.  I lost about 35 lbs and was at my goal weight 2 years ago, but have gained it all back plus about 10 or so.  I told myself back I would be down a lot by now to start trying on dresses...haven't lost anything. I think this is the wake up call I REALLY needed (feeling so horrible in my clothes) - my summer job outfit has pretty much been shorts and a baggy t-shirt, so it's easy to not really notice how I feel.  This is a total vent - just needed to get it out.  I WILL start my new life - working out - eating right - NOW!!!
Posted by jessmoe[/QUOTE]

You can't make excuses.  Getting home at 6 pm is not bad at all.  Once you get in the door, you can make something quick and easy without having to go and order pizza, or next time you can just have a slice or 2 and don't get thick crust and if you are still hungry then go have some salad

You can go to the grocery store and grab a bunch of those salads in the bag and some fat free dressing and your set.  Seriously I never eat 4 slices.  One slice of plain pizza alone (reg crust) has 300 calories and a serious, healthy "I'm on a diet" dinner should only be 500 calories max I would say.

You probably ate like over 1,800 calories for dinner alone. 

You can't do that.  And even your cheat meal wouldn't be that much.  A cheat meal would be like a slice or 2.  4 slices is over board,

Stay on this board for motivation, support, to make right decisions and get on track.  We want to see everyone get on track, and not out of control with their food and meal choices.

Seriously, I have to say 6pm is not late at all. 

They say don't eat too late at night, but it is way better to spend an hour or so cooking and then eat a sensible, low cal dinner at 7 pm, then to eat at around 6 pm and have it be a big, fattening thing which is more cal you should have in a day.

If you say you are so exhausted to work out, then you should be focusing on your diet right now.  I am in your boat of being too tired to work out and in a temporary slump, but that is why I am super careful of my food choices and eating reallly really good, to make up for the lack of physical activity I should be doing.

You can't be eating obsessive portion sized meals, and not work out too.  If you are eating like that you have to work out.  If you don't work out, then don't eat that.  I don't want to come across as mean or pushy, but I don't see how someone inactive like yourself saying your too exhausted to work out, could have the appetite to even eat that much. 

That tells me you aren't getting enough snacks or food during the day.

I have a kashi cereal with skim milk and blueberries for breakfast

a salad or sandwich for lunch, and some fruit and around 3 or 4 I'll have a yogurt so that when I get home, I will not be ravished and starving and want to eat 4 slices of thick crust pizza.  Dinner winds up being my lightest meal bc of the fruit and yogurt I eat while at work, to keep me full, so that when I get home I eat just 4 ox portion of fish or chicken with some veggies and I call it a night.

Goldlie11

One trick that works for me is to make dinner the night before.  I would come in, eat dinner, then go to the gym.  After the gym, I would cook dinner for the next night.  I would also cook enough for 2 nights.  So, I only had to cook about 3 times per week.  

Edit: I also want to say that beating yourself up about it is not going to help.  Acknowledge your mistakes, learn from them, then move on.  You've done it before, you can do it again.  GL

future mrsCDC

firstly good luck!!!

I'm not going to attack...like PP but a few suggestions that helped me loose 30 lbs in 2 months :]

try to eat 5-6 small meals a day with your most carb rich meals being at breakfast of lunch and never dinner. loseit.com is a blessing...if you have an iPhone the app is even better. It helps me stay on track everyday and I even find myself checking how many calories something is before i eat it ha. I am a firm believer in changing your lifestyle of eating and not crash dieting. I also believe in rewarding yourself...you want 4 pieces of pizza pick one day a week thats your "cheat day" (mines sunday) you should not starve yourself of the things you love thats what makes you mess up and gain it all back. Last sunday for instance I got up ate a pancake and scrambled eggs with cheese I then went to a party and had a reasonable amount of the following: potato salad baked beans a veggie burger (on a bun!! WITH mayo!!) and a piece of pie and coffee with cream.. This approach really works for me. I know that if I'm craving something I can have it on sunday and since I'm not eating a great deal during the week I get full fast on my cheat day and I dont over-do it (by my standards)... I guess I should also share I dont eat meat, drink, or drink pop (sometimes pop on my cheat day) My normal during the week routine is working out 4-6 days a week cardio and a few days weights for about 30 minutes before cardio for 45-60 min and eating cereal with soy milk for breakfast, a banana for snack, my lunch varies salad, a sandwhich, weight control oatmeal and i'll eat fruit or a dannon light and fit yogurt then snack again at about 3 almonds and an apple usually then dinner very light a protein and salad or any form of lots a veggies no carbs like rice or noodles then a snack again apple and peanut butter (at god forbid!! 9 pm) Ive talked to many nutritionist and personal trainers and they suggest eating before bed it gives you a better nights sleep. Anyway I'll stop rambling GOOD LUCK!!!  You've still got a long time and I am confident you can loose the weight you want to!!!

PeonyPrincesskdd

You get one "cheat meal" a  week, not a "Cheat Day".   You can ask anyone on these boards and then will tell you that. I just didn't want anyone reading this to have any confusion or think they can eat 1,500 cal for breakfast lunch and dinner because it's there cheat day.   But I do agree with your approach of carbs for breakfast and lunch and a small dinner, and eating small snacks throughout the day. 

jessmoe

Sorry for the post and run ladies - thank you SO much for the support!!! It feels so good to have other women out there who are in or have been in the same boat and know what I'm going through.

Peony - I wasn't giving an excuse about the 6pm...I was saying that I have been LETTING that be my excuse and KNOW it's not.  So don't worry, I totally agree with you!! The thing about the 4 slices (I know that's too much) - sometimes I'm not hungry, but I still eat just because I am craving it...that's what is hard to stop.

I really appreciate all the suggestions!  I have counted calories and watched what I ate and lost a lot of weight before...I know I can do it! I was just really down and mad the other night and needed to vent! I really appreciate you ladies and I know the support will help!

Goldlie11

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[QUOTE]<strong>You get one "cheat meal" a  week, not a "Cheat Day".</strong>   You can ask anyone on these boards and then will tell you that. I just didn't want anyone reading this to have any confusion or think they can eat 1,500 cal for breakfast lunch and dinner because it's there cheat day.   But I do agree with your approach of carbs for breakfast and lunch and a small dinner, and eating small snacks throughout the day. 
Posted by PeonyPrincesskdd[/QUOTE]
I disagree.  A woman in my WW meeting used to take off one day a week.  After weigh in, she would eat whatever she wanted for that day and even drink wine.  For the rest of the week, she stuck to her daily points.  She lost about 50 pounds in about 8 months and is currently a lifetime member.  <div>
</div><div>Taking a day off is fine unless you decide ton binge eat at every meal.  </div>

PeonyPrincesskdd

Jess.. Your wedding is on my one year anniversary!! That is very exciting... Mine was a friday wedding May 14th so I guess yours would be saturday.  I was so excited about the whole planning process/etc.  I was so caught up with it, that I never had to work out.. I was constantly busy.. The reason I am on this board is bc I gained some weight on my honeymoon like 6 lbs.... but I also just wanted to get back into the whole exercise/nutrition part of my life.. since now I am done with the whole wedding planning and have a lot more time for exercise/nutrition now

I remember prior to my wedding it does get crazy and its hard to fit in all the work outs.. but from my experience, every little bit counts, even a little walk or something.  You want to look fabulous on your day.. May 14.. and my day- my 1 year anniversary lol

jessmoe

Peony - aww, May 14th's a good day! =] I agree - every little bit counts! I WILL be working out at least 5 times a week - even if I can only get in 20 minutes!!

jenb1205

I say don't beat yourself up for having four slices of pizza.  Were you hungry?  You have to eat something and if that is what you craved or was convenient, why not have it and satisfy yourself. 

The key is to take that experience and learn from it.  Were you uncomfortably full?  Did you feel sluggish and gross afterward or the next morning?  If you had either of those issues, you can consider cutting down the number of slices.  However, if I'm hungry for four pieces, I'm going to eat them and move on.  Obviously, I wouldn't make that an every day habit but why feel down about it?  Pizza is DELICIOUS.  When I have it, I enjoy the heck out of it.  Throw some veggies on it or eat it with a salad if you are wanting a more balanced meal. 

Our society, especially for us women, spends WAY too much time being guilty about eating "forbidden foods"! 

PeonyPrincesskdd

I agree that it was an experience that she will learn from.

I think that she probably didn't get enough meals/snacks in throughout the day.  If you eat a sensible sized breakfast, lunch and 2 snacks ( an early afternoon and a mid afternoon snack) and one dinner that equals out to your 5 meals a day.  3 meals + 2 snacks.  I eat this, but everyone's calorie needs or different.  Some need more, some need less.

Breakfast - Kashi cereal,
                   skim milk
                   blueberries

Snack-       Fruit

Lunch-       Either a turkey/cheese sandwhich on Whole Wheat bread or
                  a salad with chicken and almonds or cheese

Snack-       Greek Yogurt (protein) with some granola

by the time dinner rolls around I could never eat 4 thick crust slices of pizza.. I am barely hungry at all because I sometimes eat my yogurt within 2 hours of leaving work, so that when I get home I am not famished and ready to eat the first thing I see, and binge eat because of the lack of calories all day.  If you are eating enough throughout the day, chances are you won't grab something irrational and quick.  No one said they were guilty about having a "forbidden food".. it was more of being guily about the amount eaten. 

jessmoe

I was hungry when I started eating the pizza...but I know I was full by 2 slices.  I just didn't want to stop - which is my problem - making myself put the delicious pizza down!  But that doesn't happen everyday - it was just that night and I needed to vent because it bothered me about how my clothes were fitting, which made me sad.

PeonyPrincesskdd

Yeah situations like that happen all the time. Trust me.  When you don't have your comfort foods"forbidden Foods" often, you miss them so much and want to have a lot of it.  I did that with applebee's boneless buffalo wings and blue cheese.. delicious and regret because I had them at like 10 at night.. so now I know I won't do that again... lol..  It's a once in a while thing, and like with the pizza, all you can do is just chug water the next day after to flush it all out of your system, and eat lighter throughout the week since you had a lot of calories in that one day.. you gotta balance it out, and working out always makes me feel better knowing that because I made the choice to eat x quantities of x food, I now have to work it off.