FI and i both love food. The difference is that i have a love affair with vegetables and many other things healthier than his habits.
He tends to choose fried foods and only eats raw carrots and a small variety of salad greens (spinach, romaine, and some mixed salads). Good thing that he's not a dressing fan . . .
i try to encourage him to eat a salad with every meal (at least with every dinner) to up the vegetable/green count.
It breaks my heart when he criticizes himself about his appearance. He's said such things as "i hate being the fattest guy in the room" after some friends left or "i look enormous in that photo" . . . i don't know what to do.
i love him for who he is, but i want him to be happier with the way he looks and to be healthier for our future together. i want to encourage him in ways that are positive.
Additionally, i've found myself eating more and not going to the gym as often since we've gotten serious (we've only been engaged a few days now!). i've definitely noticed weight creeping on and clothes getting tighter.
With the days getting longer, i'm hoping we can fit in more hikes and walks together. i'm a runner, but that's nowhere on his agenda. i'd like to make a pact/plan to hit the gym together at least once a week, but i know he's a little self-conscious there too.
i'd also like to change his/our eating a little bit at a time without sounding like a total control freak. He *loves* fruit (fresh and dried), so that would be a really easy thing to keep stocked. Is it totally overbearing if i packed the snacks in the house (and to go to his office) up in 'portion sized' baggies??
And i'm shaken then i'm still.
When your eyes meet mine,
i lose simple skills.
Like to tell you all i want is now.