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donnamarie02

So I'm watching reruns play on TLC. I really wanted to do a fun first dance. Matter of fact the first thing my mom said after I was engaged wasn't congrats it was so your gonna do a fun first dance right w/o me ever mentioning it to her. I told her no b/c FI doesn't dance. Now the more I watch the show makes me want to do it even more b/c it's so me. The problem is it's SO.... not him. I'm totally unsure about asking him. Should I even bother knowing he doesn't dance or should I ask him to put his pride a sidefor  4minutes to give his bride a little bit of fun.

**Edit** haha if you knew my FI you would know there is no forcing, hence me being afraid to just ask him. I guess I didn't word that exactly right. I always give him a hard time b/c before we started dating he would go out dancing w/his guy friends no questions asked but he's never gone dancing w/ me so I always give him a hard time.

cfibelkorn

There needs to be an "other" option....here is what I think

You can ask him (no harm in asking), I remember I wanted to do one too, but respect his wishes. My FI said no way and that was that. We are not doing a fun dance b/c he would feel uncomfortable.

NMac2010

I didn't vote, because I would say "it depends".

I know some people don't dance because it makes them really uncomfortable. If he's one of those people, do you really want to make him uncomfortable? It's his wedding day too.

If he doesn't dance just because he is being difficult, then I say, he can suck it up for a few minutes.

But I wouldn't ever force FI to do something he really isn't comfortable doing.

Tiffany618

Would he take lessons?   We did a rumba to a more upbeat song and we took 3 lessons to learn how to do it.  It was fun!

We did a slow, meaningful dance for our private last dance.

bobbileighb

I agree there needs to be an other.  I say ask him because it cant hurt his answer may surprise you but if he really doesnt want to do it then I dont think your wedding is the place to ask him to suck up something that he isnt comfortable with.

linzcw04

I agree - "other" needs to be an option....I would ask - he is your fiance after all and there will definitely be more pressing issues that are going to come up that you may be afraid to ask but you have to - just part of it all.
Now the key is your response and action after his answer....if he says no then you need to respect his wishes. My husband didn't want to do a crazy first dance either and I thought it would be cute...heck he was reluctant to even do a normal dance! But he did and he lived so no harm done
On the other hand if he says yes then there you go! Start planning but I still wouldn't make it too over the top - if you already know he is uncomfortable then you know he is doing this just for you - to please you - so don't have him doing the worm or something on the dance floor, lol

fallbride1109

I agree with the PP.  Ask him if he would consider it and if he says no, that's that.

Mariah09202008

Ask him.  If he says "No" or doesn't seem fully comfortable with it, then just do a fun dance with your girlfriends!  Don't force him to do something that he won't enjoy or will be stressed out over.