Advice/Help

llmw07

Ok, so I will admit that both my fiance and I are considered obese.  I would say that I am active but in no way do I have any type of exercise regime.  My issue is that I just keep putting it off and it makes it harder when my fiance doesn't care about losing weight.  Whenever I try to bring it up he gets upset about it.

It's really hard for me to be able to eat healthy when all of the other "junk" is so much quicker and easier to get to.  Does anyone have any advice about how I can get my fiance motivated so we can do this together?  He loves hunting/fishing and the like but that is pretty much the extent of getting him outdoors.  Anyone have any ideas?

SarahM2012

Food wise you can make most of the food you love by swapping out iingredients. I love chicken fingers. I make them with cornflaks instead of bread crumbs, or mashed cauliflower instead of potatoes.  It just takes a little more planning and creativity. I have a meal plan for the week so there isn't a temptation to go out all the time and there is one cheat meal as well. Maybe check out the abs diet for ideas; I found that very easy to use.

You could try walking together a few times a week. If he won't go-- don't let that hold you back. You can't force a person to change, do what you want and maybe that will inspire him to do it with you.    

Just start- don't put it off.. It gets easier if you keep going then stopping and restarting all of the time. Pick a sprint tri or 5k or the jillian michaels 30 day shred or even the push up challenge--something.  You can do it!

Laur0813

I would say take charge.  IMO the idea of having to lose weight can be very stressful,  more stressful than not thinking about it.  agree w pp for sure.  maybe dont talk about it as much, just cook healthier, and ask him to go for a walk with you.  or other active things.  go on bike rides, get some rollerblades.  that way its fun too. 

for everything around the house, maybe have a 'junk food' cabinet.  that way its out of sight unless you go looking for it. 

if he likes fish, start there.  grilled salmon and rice.. thats healthy, and good, just remember to keep portions.  baked tilapia, roasted red-skin potatoes.  I think planning your meals is key.  good luck!

curlycue27

I found Cooking Light to be a great way to start making dinner healthy, but exciting at the same time.  Use sparkpeople.com or thedailyplate to track what you eat and control your portions.  I found that FI was much more receptive to healthy options when they tasted great.

mjjlaw2001

I encouraged my husband to eat better and I also stayed consistent with my own workouts to be an example and when he saw me do that, he also wanted in.  So I would say start making the changes to be an example and he will come around.

msange727

if he's having trouble accepting that he needs to make changes, or is afraid (they never show it!), then be his inspiration. i know it'll be tough at first, but it's your health that's at stake, not just a wedding dress. start making little changes - cut out sweets and/or fried foods. start walking for a half hour a day. you will feel so much better immediately, and when you start losing weight, trust me, your fiance will notice, and he'll want the same results. if he sees you doing it, he'll be inspired to start taking better care of himself as well, and you'll be able to help him and be each other's support system. sometimes they need more motivation than we do!

kimmieniesink

If he needs motivation making it into a healthy competition would work. My family does this all the time, we got pedometers and are tracking who can walk more, and counting our fruits/vegetable servings. Completing different activities, such as household chores and gym activities have different quantities of steps. There is a website that you can track it all on. There is about 20 people from my family taking part in several 8 week challenges. Use this link for more information:
http://www.takesteps.univerahealthcare.com/teamMain.jsp

llmw07

Thank you all so much for the encouragement.  I used to be on a steady work out plan with Billy Blanks as my leader! I really liked doing the tae bo because it wasn't running but still a great way to get my cardio.  I lost 20 pounds but I somehow got away from the routines.  I still play softball 2-3 times a week and have encouraged him to play on the co-ed leagues with me but he just doesn't want too.  I just don't want to press it too much because I don't want him to be resentful of me.   

I appreciate all the feedback and I will get started now. No more putting it off! Thank you!

sarahmarieobx

What about you two going to the doctor together for physical? You can tell your doctor you are concerned about both your weight and need a kick in the butt for FI to get serious.

Hellokatie0517

I recommend talking to him about how important it is to you for the BOTH of you to be healthy.  Consider joining Weight Watchers and ask him to go with you.  Explain to him that he can still eat the foods he loves -- just in moderation.  Go for wallks together or go bike riding.  Do activities together that he may not consider to be exercise.  Sneaking in healthy foods that he doesn't realize is healthy also helps! WW has great recipes, my FI loves everything I've made.

llmw07

Thanks for the help again everyone great ideas! Truly appreciated!