Hi ladies!
So, I'm looking for a kinder way of saying, "Shut up, my body is none of your business!" to my extended family.
Here's the deal:
The women in my family are obsessed with their weight and anyone else's weight around them (esp. other women, they tend to leave guys alone). My mom is one of them, but I can tell her much more directly to back off and leave me alone. My mom is clinically underweight (not her fault, she's had cancer 7 times and is lucky to be here. The drugs from her treatments did a number on her and she cannot gain weight to save her life. She doesn't want to be 5'2' and 89 lbs but she cannot gain at all. Though there are days she thinks she's fat...that's another post for another day...). My aunts however are pains in the tushes about weight, and don't really understand that my body image is clearly none of their business. On Christmas, I was told I looked "thicker" and "was I doing anything different?". I didn't get into a health scare I had in the fall, I just didn't say anything cause I was too upset. Normally I'd say something really curt, but to them, that would be rude (ruder than them commenting on my weight in their eyes).
Any kinder-nicer-politer suggestions than "back off psycho, it's my body!"? Want to get my point across, and not cause any huge family issues (dealing with delicate family balance here).
4/29/12
