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Wedding Shower

Anyone else not having one? Anyone planning their own?  Just curious because I don't think I am having one.  No one has said anything to me about planning one and I feel that it would be rude to ask.  Honestly, it wouldn't bother me not to have one.  I am just curious if anyone else has gone this route.
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Re: Wedding Shower

  • juliebug1997juliebug1997 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_texas-dallas-ft-worth_wedding-shower?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:102Discussion:36293cb3-1556-4883-bffc-8d92a4536d49Post:79e554ed-e38e-46a9-8301-d7f1850601a8">Wedding Shower</a>:
    [QUOTE]Anyone else not having one? Anyone planning their own?  Just curious because I don't think I am having one.  No one has said anything to me about planning one and I feel that it would be rude to ask.  Honestly, it wouldn't bother me not to have one.  I am just curious if anyone else has gone this route.
    Posted by NathanandJordan[/QUOTE]
    I think there have been a few girls who didn't have one. 

    It is really not proper to throw yourself a shower. 
  • edited December 2011
    I'd say it is less rude to ask than it is for you to throw your own shower.  That is a big "no-no" in most people's opinion.

    You never know, they may be surprising you with something!
  • edited December 2011
    While were perfectly happy not having one my step mother spilled the beans that her sisters were wanting to throw one.  I would rather ask than host your own, it's against the etiquette rules.
  • edited December 2011
    I am not having one because a majority of friends and family are OOT. I may request a lingerie shower from my MOH once she gets into town though... We can always do that the night before the wedding.
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  • edited December 2011
    I was lucky that my future sisters-in-law are doing this for me.  I know I had a girl friend who went without one and just accepted gifts at her wedding.  She didn't seem to mind a bit.
  • edited December 2011
    Definitely don't throw your own. But I think it's ok to not have one. I sort of had to ask, in a round about way. MIL had mentioned she wanted to throw me one casually when we first got engaged (Around January), and by about May I hadn't heard anything else about it, and the wedding was in August. So, DH asked if she still planned on throwing me one and she said yes and we got together and worked out dates that both worked for us.
  • courtski2004courtski2004 member
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    edited December 2011
    I initally didn't think that one would be thrown since all of my family is out of town, including the only two 'grown' bridesmaids that I have. The other two are FI's nieces, and are 18 and 14. My mom and sister have decided to throw one the day before the wedding as a luncheon--but just for wedding party and ladies in the family. If anyone here in town is doing anything, I don't know about it, but there is a bachelorette party in the works (apparently) thrown by girls that I play darts with. I don't think that will include an actual shower, but I'm not being included in any of the planning, which I explicitly requested ;)
    But, as PPs mentioned, it is in poor taste to throw your own shower since the main point behind the shower revolves around gifts--it would be like asking for stuff. Which is rude.
  • edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_texas-dallas-ft-worth_wedding-shower?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:102Discussion:36293cb3-1556-4883-bffc-8d92a4536d49Post:804548ee-2bcd-4680-b9bd-b5c0e6fa5605">Re: Wedding Shower</a>:
    [QUOTE]I am not having one because a majority of friends and family are OOT.
    Posted by FebDallasBride[/QUOTE]

    Ditto to this. I moved here for my FI ... I barely know anyone here, and unfortunately my friends/family can't come into town until the day before the wedding. My MOH offered to throw something anyway, but it didn't work out logistically.
  • edited December 2011
    Thanks ladies. I am in no way thinking of planning my own!!  I was just curious how people were deviating form the norm.  I don't want anyone to think I am a gift-grubber!  I am more than happy to go without
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  • edited December 2011
    I hinted to one of my MOH's that I want a lingerie one. People like my aunt and my FI's aunt has asked about showers, and I've said no one has mentioned one. We shall see! :) Showers don't usually happen til like a month before the wedding I think.
  • edited December 2011
    I agree with PP I wouldnt throw your own as the main purpose of a shower is to get gifts so it can send the wrong message.

    I am not having a shower my MOH (only attendant) is in NE and not coming in until the day of the rehersal and the only other local person is my mother.  I think work may do something for me which will be amazing because they totally do not have to.
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