loosing my motivation (kind of long)

DZKathryn

Alright, so I have been at this wedding diet and excercise thing since October. I have been doing it for my general health too, not just the wedding. Anyway, I have lost about 25lbs and I feel like no one notices. The only person who has said anything is my FI. I live about 400 miles from most of my friends and family and thought that seeing these people once like every 2 months would make it easier for them to see the difference. But no, no one has said anything.

I know it seems kind of silly, but it is hard to want to keep going if I feel like it isnt making a difference because no one else is seeing a change, or at least they aren't saying anything about it.

Its also frustrating because I am out of work right now, which is great for having time to go to the gym, but bad for the budget. I can't really afford to take my wedding gown in any more that it already has been. And, all summer I have been looking forward to buying new clothes for the honeymoon, but now that it is just a few weeks away I can't afford it. With two of my main motivators out the window because of expenses it is hard to want to keep going to the gym.

I know the wrong thing to do would be to totally fall off the band wagon, but I feel like these last few weeks is when I should be kicking it into overdrive, but I keep asking myself why?

raynes

Why?  Because you are healthier.

What kinds of things can you do now that you couldn't do 25 lbs ago?

Other people are dough-heads.  Just because they don't say anything doesn't mean they haven't noticed.  Some people choose not to talk about a persons weight because it can easily be misconstrued.  Look at pictures of yourself, side-by-side, from before, and from now.  That should help you at least see it!

PeonyPrincesskdd

First of all, 25 lbs is a big accomplishment and depending on where you lost it or whatever, some people might not notice and only you will really notice the big difference in the way your clothes feel.  Also, I am sure people did notice, but you want them to have these excited reactions like "Omg you lost weight".  Maybe they did notice, but when they saw you they were so caught up talking about different things, they forgot to mention it to you.  Also, you can still work out and maintain your weight by brisk walking/jogging.  You don't have to kick it into over drive since you already lost enough weight and fit nicely in your gown.  Just focus on some arm exercises because after all the weight loss/cardio you did, you might want to tone up the body and that won't affect anything with the dress.  Legs and arms.  That way, you will also feel great and in shape for your honeymoon. 

You also got to do it for youself.  You can't just give up and call it all quits because other people are not commenting on your weight loss.  You got to do it for you and don't worry about anyone else. The most important person, your FI is the one person you said noticed and gave complements etc and that is the exact, only person who matters

christa62105

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[QUOTE]First of all, 25 lbs is a big accomplishment and depending on where you lost it or whatever, some people might not notice and only you will really notice the big difference in the way your clothes feel.  Also, I am sure people did notice, but you want them to have these excited reactions like "Omg you lost weight".  Maybe they did notice, but when they saw you they were so caught up talking about different things, they forgot to mention it to you.  Also, you can still work out and maintain your weight by brisk walking/jogging.  You don't have to kick it into over drive since you already lost enough weight and fit nicely in your gown.  Just focus on some arm exercises because after all the weight loss/cardio you did, you might want to tone up the body and that won't affect anything with the dress.  Legs and arms.  That way, you will also feel great and in shape for your honeymoon.  You also got to do it for youself.  You can't just give up and call it all quits because other people are not commenting on your weight loss.  You got to do it for you and don't worry about anyone else. The most important person, your FI is the one person you said noticed and gave complements etc and that is the exact, only person who matters
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THIS.
And congratulations on the weight loss...25 pounds is awesome and you should be proud of yourself!! Think how amazing you will look on your wedding day and how much healthier you will be for your future children (if you decide to have any)!!!!!!

miguelhilary2010

If it makes you feel any better, my coworkers and friend have acknowledged my weight loss, but not my own family.  You have to do this for yourself.  Be proud of your accomplishment!

LittleKatie13

At my wedding, apparently lots of people were talking amongst themselves saying, wow, Katie looks thinner (andmore importantly)-she looks really fit.  No one said anything to me until later because they were all afraid that my reaction would be-what I was fat before?  Unfit?  flabby?  It wasn't until my SIL said, she's been working really hard to live a healthy lifestyle and get in great shape, that people finally said, good job, you're hard work is paying off.  So just keep that in mind.  Also, even if no one said anything and you can't buy new clothes, don't you just feel better? healthier? sexier? younger?  I do and that's the most important part.

Goldlie11

Some people think that it's rude to say to someone you've lost weight or other variations.  By saying something about weight loss, it can be misconstrued as saying the person needed to lose weight. I will usually just say something like, "you look great" instead of "you've lost weight".  

Also, for some people, it takes a lot to see a difference.  I know it takes me almost 30 lbs. to change sizes.  After 10, there are little changes, but it takes a lot of pounds to really be noticeable.  

In all reality, you have to be intrinsically motivated to sustain and maintain your weight loss.  Motivate yourself by acknowledging your accomplishments.  Like Raynes said, think about how different you feel.  I feel so much better when I eat right and exercise regularly.  Sometimes that's just as motivating as a new dress size.

Lastly, find ways to reward yourself.  Since you are out of work, think about free treats.  A bubble bath, going to a free event in your city, or whatever floats your boat.  GL

P.S.  The title of the OP should be "Losing my motivation".  Losing has 1 "o" in it.  

PeonyPrincesskdd

feel glad that you feel and look better