So FI sister has been talking about getting gastric bypass surgery for over a year now. I've been outwardly against it since I first heard about it and I haven't kept my opinions to myself. At Christmas everyone was talking about wanting to lose weight so I suggested a "biggest loser" idea to go from Dec 27-March 27 for everyone and whomever won (% of weight loss) would get a monetary reward.
Last year his sister backed out of the surgery and just recently she got it. I'm so scared for her it's not even funny. That's really where my anger comes from. I don't want it to seem like I don't think she can handle the diet but if she had the kind of self control needed for it she wouldn't be that big in the first place. She's overweight (roughly 250) but it is not immobiling and she could have lost it with exercise & diet. I've known her for 5.5 years so I know that she has not tried [appropriately] to lose weight (She recently lost 4 lbs in one day because she had to lose 10 in order to get the surgery and she did it in 1 week). She says she has but she has never been one to work out and she always eats horribly. (I hosted thanksgiving this year and she wanted to bring like 294875 pies, I asked her not to because my family wouldn't eat it and I didn't want the left overs and having 1 or 2 would be sufficient. She brought them anyways and then was appauled that no one ate them).
So now she got the surgery on 3/1 and supposidly is doing well. I haven't talked to her and I'm not sure I could right now. I'm still so mad, I feel like it's a very selfish thing to do. She has 3 young kids and I get so scared that something will happen to her. FI understands why I'm upset but is basically saying drop it already. I'm so nervous for the next family function. Sorry I just needed to vent to people that would understand the serverity of gastric bypass surgery.