Uniquely Us... Ideas on Personal and Meaningful Vows

emcruz20

A Place for Ideas
This is my first post to The Knot, but I wanted to have a place for us ladies to get interesting and less traditional ideas for how to approach vow-writing. I'll kick it off with what my fiance and I are doing, but I would love to hear other fun ideas so that anyone who feels stuck has a resource:

The Dilemma
Matt and I, like many of you, are all about communication and doing what it takes to make each other happy every day. We talked about vows and immediately opted for writing our own. But the question came up: How do we know that what we're promising each other is what'll count in the long-run?

The Solution
We're each coming up with a list of the 10 things (big or small) the other person does for us that means the most. Whether it's how supportive he was of me when I was going through college, or the way I always remember to pick up his favortie candy on my way home from work. We're then going to give the lists to each other and - in order to keep it a surprise - pick 5 to promise to always do for one another on our wedding day.

That's mine... what's your unqiue idea??

jtorgerson

A few weeks ago I went to go see the movie the vow with channing tatum and rachel mcadams although it was a very wonderful movie it had a huge impact upon my fiance and myself. Not only in the movie were they vowing to fiercely love eachother through thick and then but they were also vowing to agree to disagree on red velvet cake.
Tonight as I started writing my vows that I will say on October 19,2013 to the man of my dreams who I don't want to live a day without I thought about this movie and how important the vows actually are. Not just something small like agreeing to go on the first date was but now it's spending your whole LIFE with the other person.
I had no problems writing my vows, however our unique idea for when we do say them is instead of the traditional I do , its going to be I promise. We have been together since I was 15 and promises have meant so much to him and I so we are promising ourselves to eachother instead of doing . Sounds kinda morbid and unhappy when you think of the word do. In my opinoin.

Beads921

I tend to think more broad, overarching themes make better vows. 

I saw a YouTube video of a wedding yesterday that had amazing vows and I think I'd like to base mine around them (although with 491 days to go, I might change my mind). They were a series of promises they each made, they were personal (ie I promise to encourage your...because it makes you...), but covered a lot of really big stuff (partnership, trust, love, joys, challenges, etc). 

bellefille42

Emcruz,

I agree with you that personal vows are the way to go, but I mixed them in with the whoel overarching promise thing. Here are my vows:

George, I promise to love you for the rest of my life without reservation.
I promise to treat you with kindness, respect, appreciation and silliness.
I promise to respect your independence.
In poor times I promise to do everything to make our love rich, and in wealth to never let our love grow poor.  

I promise to make you laugh when you need it, and to be serious when you don’t.
I promise to not leave lights on in our home, and to put my glasses on the nightstand where they go.
I promise to make you root beer short ribs every year on your birthday.
I promise to grow really, really, really old with you, and to love you more with every “really.”  
You will always be the best part of my day, and I am proud to marry you.  I say these vows to you in front of our friends and family, so that we all hear together... when the mountains crumble to the sea, there will still be you and me.
Thank you for marrying me.