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Donations as favors

We were planning on making a donation to a charity very important to us instead of favors.  It is in honor of my fiance's mother who passed away of cancer recently.  Any ideas of how to tell people that we are making a donation instead of favors.  Should we place individual things at each table setting or just one table about the charity when people come in?  Any ideas would help. Thanks! 

Re: Donations as favors

  • aholtsbaholtsb member
    10 Comments
    edited December 2011
    Look at the post about 14 post down from this that is called 'Instead of favors'.  I believe it will have all the information that you need on this topic

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  • trix1223trix1223 member
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    edited December 2011
    Make the donation.  It's a lovely thing to do.  But please realize that giving what you were going to give your guests to someone else is NOT a favor.

     It's a donation.  It's wonderful.  I like donations.  I make them myself.  But unless your guests specifically say "Oh, don't give me a favor.  I'd prefer a donation to XYZ" what you're doing is not for them.

    So make your donation, but don't announce it or pretend that you're doing something FOR your guests.  Because you're not.
    "Trix, it's what they/our parents wanted. Why so judgemental? And why is your wedding date over a year and a half ago? And why do you not have a groom's name? And why have you posted over 12,000 posts? And why do you always say mean things to brides?" palegirl146
  • JennasourusJennasourus member
    10 Comments
    edited December 2011


    I normally Find the donation thing super tacky, However with your situation its actually quite lovely. I would Print out something for each place setting to let every know  with something like "in your honor a donation will be made to..."  Also, because its in memory of his mom maybe you could write like a poem about her... or just a little blurb about how very special she was with maybe a photo of you, your fiance and his mom at the top. It could be a nice little token of her at the wedding and something very personalized! Just a suggestion! 
  • MsBunny312MsBunny312 member
    100 Comments
    edited December 2011
    We are going to do a donation, but not sure if we'll make any sort of announcement. It isn't on behalf of the guests, but as something we want to do to start off our marriage. Maybe we'll put it at the bottom of the program is small type. And we won't be giving out any favors.
  • edited December 2011
    Not tacky--it's a really meaningful thing to do.  I put one or two table cards at each table that said " To Our Family and FriendsThank you for sharing our joy and happiness today as we begin our married life together.In lieu of favors, we have made a contribution to theBrain Tumor Patient Care Fund in memory of  Gregory  
    Sean and Sue January 15, 2005
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