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Vow Help

So, FI and I are writing our own vows. Fi is a little nervous about this, because he said he's afraid his vows will "come up short", or not be long enough, or "good enough", or whatever. I don't know where he's getting these crazy thoughts.

Anyway, we were talking last night and he said he wants me to read them, after he writes them to give him the "ok". I really don't want to do this, I think that kind of takes the fun out of it, if I know what he's going to say before we get up there in front of each other. Especially if he expects me to "proofread" them, so to speak. I don't want it that sketched out.

He also wanted to read mine first, to get an idea of what to write. I didn't really want to let him read mine either, because again, I feel like that kind of takes away some of the "aww" moment.

I've thought about telling him to maybe find a friend to run it by, instead of me..?

I want to help FI as much as possible, but I still want it to be a special moment during our ceremony. I told him to google writing our own wedding vows, to see what other people have done.

WWYD? Opinions?

Re: Vow Help

  • cfibelkorncfibelkorn member
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    edited December 2011
    I agree that I wouldnt want to read them...maybe he can have a sister or his mom or your mom proofread them...That way he has a girls input without ruining your surprise
  • juliebug1997juliebug1997 member
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    edited December 2011
    I agree:  get him to have a friend or his dad read through them.  I would also encourage him to just write something from his heart.  There's a great scene in the SATC movie when Carrie is encouraging Big to write his vows the night before their wedding (that didn't happen) and she had some very simple words for him. 

    I applaud you for writing your own.  Bill and I just followed the little book that we got from the church for ours. 
  • edited December 2011

    I agree with PP.  Does he have a sister or his mom that can read them?  Your mom or sister?  I would have him talk to someone close to either of you that would be able to give him good advice and that he can trust with something like that.  My FI decided to talk to his BM and my oldest sister if he had any questions.  Good luck on the vow writing!  And I agree hearing them for the first time at the alter is the best way!

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  • edited December 2011
    Ok, thanks ladies. I'll just suggest he maybe have someone else look them over.
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