Tacky or not? Boutonniere question

semay23

I plan on having a casual, rustic wedding in October. The plan right now is to have my groom and his party in khakis, white button-ups, and matching ties. Given their attire, would it look strange if they had some sort of small boutonniere? Would it appear tacky to not have them? Any comments? Suggestions?

jagore08

I think it would look a little odd with them just pinned to their shirts.  I don't think anyone would notice if you skipped them as long as your FI is ok with it.

[Deleted User]

What if they wore vests without suit coats, they you could pin the boutonniere to the vest!

rlavach

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[QUOTE]What if they wore vests without suit coats, they you could pin the boutonniere to the vest!
Posted by Jinxed329[/QUOTE]
I think this is a really great idea.

semay23

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[QUOTE]What if they wore vests without suit coats, they you could pin the boutonniere to the vest!
Posted by Jinxed329[/QUOTE]

Ooo... like  suit vests in my color?   Would that look strange with khakis if I the vests were pale yellow? Where are color swatches when you need them?! <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-wink.gif" border="0" alt="Wink" title="Wink" />

Peavy

A boutinnere is meant to go in the button hole (although many suits don't have them anymore) of the lapel of the jacket.  If there's no jacket, then there's no reason for a boutinnere.  I think they look just as strange pinned to a vest as they do pinned to a shirt.  I'm also not fond of the look of a shirt and tie without a jacket.  Why not have the men dress up a little with either a navy or black blazer?  After all, it's your wedding!  Then you have a lapel for the boutinnere.

TruthWithin

When my FMIL got remarried my fiance and his brother wore just khakis and orange/red shirts. They just wore one gerber daisy pinned to their shirts and I think it looked nice. They looked special, but it didn't look weird at all!

TaraKeeley

I really like the idea of "rustic" style boutonnieres!

meggiemo

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_flowers_tacky-or-not-boutonniere-question?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:28Discussion:b1b6013a-5cfa-4e66-8f95-fa863f840bdePost:be8f62d7-e028-40c7-a9f9-2ae527f26a18">Re: Tacky or not? Boutonniere question</a>:
[QUOTE]What if they wore vests without suit coats, they you could pin the boutonniere to the vest!
Posted by Jinxed329[/QUOTE]

<div>I totally agree with this! Vests would dress it up just a little without making it way too formal and you could add a boutonniere! </div>

drummerbonbon

You don't have to use "traditional" flowers for the boutonnieres. I've seen where they don't use flowers at all; instead they use something else "rustic." I like the vest idea, too.

tatersparkle

It doesn't look bad at all with them pinned to the shirts. My FSIL did black pants, white shirts, then she put the boutineers on. It looks fine. But as PPs have said, I don't think anyone would notice if you wanted to save some money and skip it...

JaimeAnn

Maybe something a little different pinned to the shirts. I probably wouldnt do a flower but something else that would match the rustic feel. or if the shirts have a pocket they can something in the pocket.
I like the vest idea someone mentioned before too!!

Future Mrs. Lindstrom

Have them wear matching tie tacks or bars. That way they are wearing something but it won't look strange.

eabilley

I think the vest idea looks nice:  http://www.google.com/imgres?um=1&hl=en&sa=N&biw=1366&bih=667&tbm=isch&tbnid=NIPn27WSLylI4M:&imgrefurl=http://www.elizabethannedesigns.com/blog/2011/04/22/purple-diy-wedding-crestmore-manor/&docid=bj3VQAzwxMByTM&imgurl=http://cache.elizabethannedesigns.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2011/04/Gray-Groomsmen-Suits.jpg&w=600&h=400&ei=tT6pT_CfDKXB6AGysrzHBA&zoom=1&iact=rc&dur=474&sig=114767568236155601465&page=1&tbnh=135&tbnw=181&start=0&ndsp=21&ved=1t:429,r:20,s:0,i:117&tx=74&ty=52

iloveu4ever

It is totally up to you

Jessvln

Vests are a wonderful idea. That's what I'm doing for my wedding. The only person I know that's wearing a floor length gown is me. And the guys will be wearing lovely vests with lapels, but no jacket (except my fiance, of course.)

kprincing

Why don't you have the men wear vests? My friend was just recently married and the groomsmen all wore their boutonnieres on their vests, looked great!

bchinchilla

Scrap the vests, your original idea is fine.  The only problem with boutineers without jackets is if they get in the way of a pocket.  There is nothing wrong with a boutineer on a shirt, Ive seen it done and I actually didn't think anything of it until you brought it up :P.  Have you thought of maybe a pocket square in the shirt pocket (if they're wearing shirts with pockets) or suspenders.  Or belts with nice buckles.  OR neat tie tacks!  Those are all kind of boutineer alternatives because they add to the mens attire.  But really, do what you like. 

silversar59

I saw the coolest boutonniere today online!! Maybe if you want a boutonniere, do something not flowery- I think this might go with your theme!!

 
I just found out that this particular one is sold out, but i'm sure that if you get some old rustic little keys, it can be a DIY project!
If not, I found another one at http://www.etsy.com/listing/100665255/key-to-my-heart-boutonniere-one

Megoeg478

I would think that a boutonniere without a jacket is kinda like clipping a belt buckle to your pants pocket. You know, it doesn't neccessarily looks bad there, but if it's not on a belt it doesn't really make sense. So, since it seems like you are asking for opinions, here are mine:

1) If you want to just do shirts and ties, then consider going on etsy or another shop and finding some kind of tie pin that will add some embellishment and distinguish them as groomsmen.

2) You can still have a casual wedding with the guys dressed in suit jackets. A good rule of thumb is to be as dressed up or a little more dressed up than your guests, and if your guests aren't instructed otherwise, some may show up in shirts and ties, or some in suits. Even then, you can keep the jackets casual by opting out of a boutonniere and going for a lapel pin. Again, there are a ton on etsy.com. Or if you decide the boutonnieres are that important to you, you can then pin them on there with no fear of it looking out of place. But really, suit jackets are just plain classy, and you will thank yourself 30 years from now when you look back at the pictures.

3) If a boutonniere is still what you want, go ahead, pin a flower to their shirts! They're getting free food out of the deal, right?

Good luck.

lisaj58

I think Boutonnieres are fine as long as they aren`t overpowering.I think small ,something rustic to fit decor ,whether it be a small rope twine tied to 1 small flower.