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First Dance and Father/Daughter Dance

So, I am not sure if I am the only one that feels this way, but I don't want to do either a first dance or a father/daughter dance.  I don't feel comfortable being in front of large groups; it is already going to be really hard and uncomfortable to walk down the aisle in front of all those people staring at me.  My fiance isn't too keen on having a first dance either, but says we probably should do it because people will think we are weird; also he thinks if I don't have the father/daughter dance that my dad will be upset.  I haven't mentioned anything to my dad because we just don't communicate about our feelings, and I don't know how to bring up the topic.  Plus, I worked a lot of weddings at a country club and thought how annoying it is to make your guests sit through almost 15 minutes of just watching two people dance, awkward!  Anyway could someone give me some advice or opinions on this subject?

Re: First Dance and Father/Daughter Dance

  • edited December 2011
    IMHO, it is your wedding, and you should do whatever makes you the most comfortable and happy, not what everyone else "expects." We are not living in a time anymore where you have to follow a lot of rules or have strict expectations and etiquette, and if you're not interested in dancing in front of everyone, don't do it! I thought about not having the father/daughter dance, but my FH really wants to dance with his mom, so I thought it would be weird having one but not the other. But seriously, do what makes you happy! It's your day!
  • ginavtobginavtob member
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    edited December 2011
    I agree, do whatever you want to do! 

    If you feel weird about completely leaving both out, maybe you can pick a more general song and then do the father/daughter mother/son dances at the same time.  That would take some of the attention off of you.
  • lildevi15lildevi15 member
    10 Comments
    edited December 2011
    I agree. Do whatever makes you happy and comfortable. . .it's your day!  I would casually ask your dad "How do you feel about the father/daughter dance?" or "What's your take on wedding dances?" if you are worried he will be hurt.  And if he does want to dance, you can do a bridal party thing or combine it with mom/son like mentioned above.
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