TOAST!!!!????

bridgetlb

ok, my mom just asked me something about who is giving a toast....
i have no clue!!!
we are having a rehearsal dinner (wedding party and oot guest are invited) and a sit down dinner reception... who gives a toast and when? please list all!!!

Jeff and Deepthi

Usually your bestman and Maid of honor will give the toast or your dad can give it. It's a lot more casual of a toast then at the wedding.

cherrrylll

Traditionally at the reception, your MOH and BM give the toasts. Sometimes a parent will also say a few words.
I don't think toasting is required at the rehearsal dinner, but that's really open to anyone in your party that feels the need to say something.

stephl3055

There's no rule on who gives and toast and when it is done.  For instance, some people think that the best man and MOH have to give toasts.  They don't have to if they don't want to.  We only had the best man give a toast because my MOH does not do well in front of crowds.  It was during dinner after everyone had gotten their food (we had a buffet). 

We didn't have any toasts at our RD, but it was really small and informal.  If you want, see if the dads want to give toasts at either event.  The same for the MOH/best man.  If they don't want to, don't force them.  No one will freak out if you don't have a toast at your wedding.  Just keep it to 1 or 2 toasts so it doesn't drag on. 

bridgetlb

do we (or my FI) need to say anything after the toast? who goes first, BM or MOH? i read something about the FI saying something and toasting his bride.....?

bridgetlb

also, do we ask them ahead of time if they would like to do the toast?

cherrrylll

I would ask them if they are doing one so that you can add it into your timeline with your coordinator and DJ.
My husband did a thank you message to everyone right after we did our entrance (We did our first dance after dinner). I don't believe we said anything after the toasts. You can time it out however you want to, though.

shortgirltx

We didn't really do a toast at the RD as it was small and very informal.  At the wedding, we did open toasts, which I do not recomment, especially with your FMIL.  We had BIL, FIL, my dad and step mom, my grandpa and a few friends give a toast and then DH did one at the end thanking everyone.  Oh and our DJ toasted us as well because we gave her brownies.

emimayor

At the RD we had an open forum for toasts and several of our friends/family toasted to us. And at the reception, right after dinner, we had my MOH and his BM say a toast. They both knew to come prepared. And neither were forced to say anything. My Dad opened up the evening after the blessing and my husband toasted me after my Dad spoke.