Unresponsive Guest

Lauren&Sean

This situation is very Junior High; I am sort of in disbelief that I am dealing with this.  Basically, a former co-worker/friend has been completely unresponsive to me since I got engaged. I'm, very confused, because we were always pretty good friends.  She has ignored my phone calls and Facebook messages asking to meet for lunch, etc.

  My MOH invited her to the shower she had for me and she got no response. I am the sort of person who would prefer a simple no, but instead I had to call her and still recieve no response.  I really hate to burn bridges, but should I forgo sending her a wedding invitation?  What would you do?

SuMmErKuTiE

Hmm this is a tough one. It seems as though she's being distant and is already kind of ending the friendship. If you don't mind burning bridges and ending the friendship, then I wouldn't waste the time or money on inviting her. Chances are her RSVP will be MIA and you're going to have to track her down and still get no response.

But, she may still surprise you and show up to your shower.  Is your shower close? If so, hold off and see if she makes an appearance, but if she doesn't I would say the friendship is no longer there and then not to worry about whether or not to send her an invite.

mdavies10

Maybe she's having some issues of her own and there's a reason she's distant.  It's so hard to comment on something like this when there are a million variables that get thrown into the mix, but in my opinion I would invite her if I had an easy guest list to play around with.  She might be dealing with something and when she gets the invitation she might confront whatever issue she's been hiding. However, if you have  short guest list and she's cramping the list, be cut throat about it and don't look back.  If she can't get back to you about meeting up then she's not worth agonizing over a guest list. 

morr0169

Thats easy- do the right thing. Shes playing games. If you would like her to come, invite her. If she declines or doesn't respond its thats her problem. Maybe she is jealous of you or feels like she is loosing a friend. who knows. Its her issue and she should talk to you about it. I'm sure you have plenty on your plate.
Good luck!

MairePoppy

Anyone who is invited to a shower should also receive a wedding invitation. If she doesn't respond, you'll have to track her down for an answer, just like any other guest.
Just a thought: are you absolutely sure her contact information is correct?

Lauren&Sean

Thanks for all of your thoughts; it's really appreciated!  While I am pretty sure that I have her address right, and I know everything  else is correct, I am sort of wondering if there is something more going on in her life than I'm aware of.  We have a mutual friend who seems almost as confused by her recent behavior as I am. I think I will send along the wedding invite with no expectations of hearing back from her.  Thanks again!

weddingbells2010

I went through the EXACT same thing... I still sent out the invites but with absolutely no expectation of hearing back.  In fact, mine is one step worse- she agreed to be a bridesmaid and THEN went AWOL! 

dianenjnj

no, send her an invitation...but don't expect a response.

then cross her off the list for future invites.