Pre-wedding Parties

Bridal Shower

Good Morning Ladies!

I have talked quite a bit about the MOH of the upcoming wedding I'm in. She is very disorganized but that is neither here nor there right now. My question is:

The bride doesn't want physical gifts (she is not registering anywhere) instead she wants people to buy gift certificates (from the wedding photographer to help with the cost) or give cash (to go towards the honeymoon, which actually isn't a honeymoon because 4 of our other friends are going with them). Is this acceptable? Don't women go to bridal showers to watch the bride open gifts? What is she supposed to do? Open 60 envelopes (yes 60, the groom wants to invite every single woman they can) and call it a day?

Help :-/

Re: Bridal Shower

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    danieliza1127danieliza1127 member
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    edited December 2011
    It would be extremely rude and tacky for her to ask for gift cards for the wedding photography or for cash.  Seriously tacky.

    The only way she could do this is just not register.  Then if people ask where she's registered, she can say something like "oh we aren't registered, we're just saving up for xyz".  That clues people in to give cash, but at a bridal shower, people are going to bring gifts whether she wants it or not because like you said, that's the whole point of a shower - to "shower the bride with gifts". 
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    edited December 2011
    The MOH included in the invites (that have yet to go out and the shower is in a month) that the bride and groom would prefer cash/gift certs than gifts (not sure how she worded it exactly). I think it is extremely tacky and if you try to tell her or give her any opinions she gets very defensive and say that we are all ganging up on her...

    She is literally driving the 5 other bridesmaids up a wall with the shower and bach. party because she is not staying in contact with anyone and it's only getting closer to the wedding. She says "oh it's fine we still have 3 months"..but that's actually not the case. A lot of the BM's have to request the time off from work (and 2 of them work in a salon and it's really tough for them to get a Saturday off) and the other one is required to work every Saturday (she is the only one who does her job). Everyone is so stressed. One of the BM's started throwing out ideas for the bach. and the MOH's sister emailed her saying that she better check with her sister because she is the MOH and is the one who is planning.. well that's great but nothing has been planned yet and we refuse to sit around any longer and wait. Turns out the MOH planned and reserved a room at a casino for a ridiculous amount of money without checking with anyone first.! I'm NOT ok with it and I have expressed my feelings.
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    trix1223trix1223 member
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    edited December 2011
    Bad, bad idea.  And remarkably rude.  I'd probably decline the invitation if I received a note that the preferred gift was cash or gc's for a shower.  Or I'd go and take a lovely hand-crocheted toilet paper cover.=)
    "Trix, it's what they/our parents wanted. Why so judgemental? And why is your wedding date over a year and a half ago? And why do you not have a groom's name? And why have you posted over 12,000 posts? And why do you always say mean things to brides?" palegirl146
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