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Rehersal Dinner Guests

CarlySaraCarlySara
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My fiancee's dad and step-mom are taking care of our rehersal dinner.  His Step-mom asked for a list of our out of town guests and attendants.  When I was counting in my head, between our attendents and JUST FAMILY out of towners...we're over 50 people (I have a big family..my dad is 1 of 5).  If we add our other out of town guests, we're up around 70 people (I'm not from around here).  I feel bad giving his dad and step-mom a list that long.  Should I sit down and talk with them about iviting less people?  Will out of town guests feel left out if they aren't invited to the dinner?
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Re: Rehersal Dinner Guests

  • jennymassagejennymassage
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    edited December 2011
    Usually for rehursal dinner It is wedding party and their spouses, and immediate family...If it were extended family it would be like half of your guest list.

    You can provide welcome bags for out of towners of places to eat
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  • MrsWalters2BeMrsWalters2Be
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    edited December 2011
    I agree with PP.
    WAY too many people to invite everyone to RD too!
    Just bridal party and immediate fam and spouse. That's all!

    Gift baskets/bags are a really nice touch for OOT'rs...
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  • ellen73ellen73
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    edited December 2011
    I've been to two weddings out of town- where they invited out of town guests to join the rehearsal dinner for cocktails/desert AFTER the more formal dinner.   

    We are having my immediate family (I am the youngest of five), fiance's immediate family, wedding party and fiance's parents out of town guests. This list quickly climbed to 60... which limited our choices for location!  

    We may do the same, and open up the night to out of town guests after say, 9 pm.
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  • jed15jed15 member
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    edited December 2011
    IMO, OOT guests should be invited. They are travelling, renting hotel rooms, and possibly taking time off work to come to your wedding, and they should be invited out of appreciation for doing all of that, as well as you get to spend more time with them than just at the wedding.
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  • rebeccahyannisrebeccahyannis
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    edited December 2011

    I agree with jed15. we will be inviting OOT guest to our RD because they are traveling to us - it will give us some extra time with them. Maybe you should sit down with FFIL and Stepmom and let them know what you think the number will be. They may already have an idea of how many OOT guest you have. Good luck!

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  • ebl2ebl2 member
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    edited December 2011
    We're having a small (60 people) destination wedding, everyone is from out of town.  We invited our family, wedding party (plus spouses), and aunts and uncles.  Our total for the RD is 37.  20 more people and it's our reception!  That's how my FIL's wanted it and since they're hosting it, do what they want.  We told everyone else that we would all meet up for drinks afterward in the hotels lounge.
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  • campergrlsugarcampergrlsugar
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    edited December 2011
    I am so glad the I am not the only one with this dilemma...More than 75% of our guests will be coming in from out of town.  I love the idea of a gift bag with a gift certificate for dinner friday night.  Plus our wedding is on a Saturday...how would we know which guests will be there friday night...seems like a nightmare....we are keeping it to our bridal party, spouses and immediate family....OOT guests will get a welcome bag.  Thanks for the help even though I didnt write this post LOL
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  • CarlySaraCarlySara
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    edited December 2011
    This is what has happened with this situation...

    I told my fiance's step-mom the number and she decided she didn't want to invite everyone anymore.  Just bridal party and immediate family.  My parents (who are divorced) don't want their families, who are all from out of town, to have to fend for themselves.  So now my parents aren't coming to the RD!  LOVELY!
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  • ebl2ebl2 member
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    edited December 2011
    Wow... what a turn of events.
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