My fiance and I are having a very small wedding....35 max guests (mostly out of town family). We are paying for the wedding on our own so we kept the invite list small to stay within our budget. I hadn't thought about having a shower since the wedding is small and most of the female family members wouldn't be able to come....there would only be 3 local girls that could come that are invited to the wedding. My friend, who has offered to help the MOH throw a shower, has suggested that we invite all my friends, even if the friends aren't invited to the wedding. She said a lot of the girls would still like to celebrate with me even though they're not invited to the wedding. I am a little uncomfortable with this because I don't want the girls to feel I'm inviting them to a shower just to get gifts. Two questions: Is it appropriate to invite all my friends to the shower even though they're not invited to the wedding? Can I have the MOH put on the shower invitations "No gifts required" so they don't feel obligated to bring anything?