My mom threw my fiance and I an engagement party a few months ago. At the party a friend of my FMIL mentioned that she wanted to throw me a shower. I thought this was so nice- especially since this is the first time I had even met her. The problem is, my mom is throwing my shower. I'm an only child and my mom has been looking forward to planning this forever. She already started her planning and my shower won't be for another year and a half. I know a lot of people have multiple showers, in different cities. My fiance is from another state so I thought this would be perfect. My family and friends would go to my mom's shower and his family would go to the other. The only prob is, I found out that this lady lives pretty close to me and my family. I can't split up my family and friends to go to each shower- that would be weird. Also, I want my mom's shower to be the main shower. She knows my style and taste and I know it will be everything I want and very special and I don't want to take away some of the guestlist because I know my mom is prob throwing a pretty pricey shower.
Should I suggest this other lady throw a bridal luncheon or should I encourage my mom to call her and have her help with the planning of her shower (I mentioned this to my mom and she didn't seem too happy about that). Right now, I'm not tooo worried because it's so far away but I don't want to dis this lady who offered something so nice.