So my bridal shower is planned for a month from today. My mom and sister (maid of honor) are very excited to plan it for me. Invites are going out today. Now, here is some background: My mom called FI's mom to find out if she wanted to invite any of her family, etc and to let her know what dish to bring (it will be at my mom's house). FI's mom told my mom she wasn't sure who else to invite, so my mom asked her to let her know by today if anyone, since invites are going out.
Fast forward to today. FI's mom and I are in the car together, she brought up the shower and spoiled the fact that it is going to be a brunch (which I didn't know before). I asked her to please NOT talk about it with me since I have nothing to do with it besides giving my mom a guest list and showing up. She agreed.
3 hours later we are at a baby shower and she comes over to me to say "I am sorry for having an attitude earlier but I am VERY hurt that your mom is not including me in planning the shower." I said, "I don't know what to say but my mom and sister are doing it and you had your opportunity with YOUR daughter, give them theirs since my sister never had a shower.(very nicely of course)" She responded with "I only have ONE daughter." I said "I know but you got to do a shower for her." [Meanwhile I am humiliated, angry and bright red] She responded with " I don't want to put you in the middle but obviously your mom and I are very different." I said "I am NOT getting in the middle and do not want to talk about this." Then she didn't talk the entire car ride home.
Also, I failed to mention that she is planning the rehearsal dinner, by herself and my mom isn't calling and asking to be included or talking to me about being hurt that she is not included. I am so angry that she can't go with the flow and let my MOM and MAID OF HONOR/sister plan this for me. Now I can't wait for it to be over, which is horrible. HELP. I know that she is telling everyone that my mom and I are inconsiderate and not taking her feelings into consideration. I am the bride. My family has the right to plan my shower. If she is hurt she needs to call my mom or let it go and not keep putting me in the middle, right?!?
Thanks for letting me vent. I know this will cause a fight if I talk to FI.