showers and jackandjills

heather_heinzmann

is it ok or proper to have a bridal shower and do a jack and jill....because your fiance dosent want a stag for fear of strippers?

SuMmErKuTiE

My DH didn't want a stag party either (which are very popular in Connecticut and pretty much no where else so please be prepared for people to be overly honest with their opinons on these types of parties). We're originally from CT and moved a few months after the wedding, and all of our guy friends who have gotten married have had stag parties, but DH didn't want one even though his GM's asked him if he wanted one. Instead, I had a bridal shower where we got gifts off the registry and then we had a joint bachelor/bachelorette party which was a party bus to Mohegan. The party bus was co-ed but once we got to the casino we split up and I went with the girls to Ultra and he went off with the guys to some of the other bars and to gamble. It was perfect, no one had to worry about strippers, or rudely selling tickets to a party, and we all had an amazing time.

To answer your original question, I would say no to the jack and jill. Just have a bridal shower and then respective bachelor and bachelorette parties. And do a somewhat combined party if either of you are that uncomfortable about strippers. Even though I'm from CT and am very familiar with stag parties, I've never known anyone to have a jack and jill and I don't think they're a good idea.

seniah

My hubby didn't want a stipper party either - and his guys knew that so they had a guys nightout - first for pizza and beer, then to play whirly ball and then a movie at one of those theatres that serves food and beer.  They had a blast.