Engagement Registry?

BrenAndJo

I have had several friends ask when and where I'm registering for my engagement party...until this, I didn't even think of registering for the e-party.  Some friends have said I should since I am having a 2 year engagement...What is the 'norm' here?? 

elizabethm4

I don't think e-parties are supposed to be gift giving events, I wouldn't register and just tell your friends that they don't have to get you anything

banana468

MIL tried to get us to register but we didn't want the e-party to be yet another party where people felt they had to give presents either.

SuMmErKuTiE

Our engagement party was about 14 months before the wedding, and everyone who came brought gifts. The gifts ranged from cash, to bottles of wine or champagne, to cute small wedding gifts such as picture frames or vases. We weren't expecting much, and were very surprised with what everyone brought us. Whether you register or not, the people who want to bring you a gift will bring you a gift of some sort. There are a lot of people who won't ever show up to a party empty handed.

Being 2 years out from your wedding, I would say it's definitely too early to register. But, if your friends and family are hounding you to register so they have a gift buying guide to go off of, maybe you and your FI can start a small registry with small items and then update it as the wedding gets closer with more things. If that makes you uncomfortable just simply answer that it's too early and you won't be registering until closer to the wedding.

Ditto pp's.. I don't really view Engagement Parties as gift giving events either, but when I attend one I like to bring a nice card and a bottle of wine to congratulate the couple.

BrenAndJo

Perfect- That's exactly what I figured to begin with, i dont know why my friends are so eager for me to register?  Thanks guys!  I feel better now about going with my original instincts

tsp698

I'm glad somebody else had this question (And that somebody answered it).

Our friends keep asking why we haven't registered for our e-party, and what do we want for gifts and we keep telling them we don't want/need anything and we just want people to come.

That answer doesn't seem to satisfy everybody, but we figure that if they insist on bringing a gift they will come up with something or just get us a gift card.

BrenAndJo

No Prob tsp...

I did just see The Knot's e-party check list which does say to register
http://wedding.theknot.com/getting-engaged/engaged/articles/engagement-party-planning-checklist.aspx

Not that this is the end-all-be-all of rules, and I think we will stick to our original plan, but I guess it is 'ok' to register...I think it all depends on your circle of fam and friends...

karmellah

yea everyone asked us too. I refuse to register for my e-party. i jsut want it to be a fun BBQ