Okay, so we ordered our tuxes! Woohoo! Then, the at the end, the lady was like, "So you probably want the groom to match you, so should we do your chosen style in ivory on ivory?" ... Josh and I looked at each other, "....??"
Okay, I realize we are adults and we can do what we want, but what's the norm here? We were thinking the groom would match the men, but with a slightly different tie, different bout, etc.
This would be the groomsmen in silver/pewter and Josh in an ivory/ivory... not sure if it matters but all flowers on or held by the bridal party will be red, all flowers/candles decorating the ceremony space will be creams/ivories..
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