What would you do?

commandz

I got a card at my wedding reception that said that the "gift is in the mail" and I haven't gotten it so I don't know whether or not to email her and say that we haven't gotten the gift. But I don't want to be rude, I don't want it to come off as where is my gift? but at the same I would want to know if my gift for the couple hadn't arrived. What should I do ladies? Thanks!

lesalyric

This happened to me when my cousin got married. I got them a spice rack from BB&B and it did not deliver. She contacted me and let me know she had not received it, I called BB&B and it turns out the lady entering the registry info entered the wrong address. The bride called and found they had numerous gifts sitting in a BB&B warehouse that had been returned as undeliverable.

I was not offended at all that she called me and was actually more worried about my gift getting to them than the ettiquette of the whole thing.

Long story short -- let her know you haven't received it.

bridgetlb

i would call the person! they might have sent it and it got lost in the mail or the store messed up the order and they might be wondering why YOU haven't sent a thank you! they will totally understand the phone call and probably be relieved, since, as i said, they are probably waiting on their thank you.
or.... it could be like my FI's cousin and wife that said a gift card to home depot was "IN THE MAIL!" for his graduation last May, but it never came...  he was thinking it got lost, but like you didn't want to call (mostly cause he knows how his cousin is about stuff)... then when he saw them at the 4 of july they gave him one that day (to the olive garden)... not wrapped or in a card or anything ... that i'm 100% sure they bought that day!!!

fallbride1109

Is this the same thing as "the check is in the mail?" I don't know.  For me it would depend on how good a friend this is.  If it was someone on my IL's side, I would probably have my MIL look into it.

SoonToBeMrsHoz

This happened to me twice for my housewarming and my birthday, for which I didn't expect anyone to bring me gifts, but I had one friend tell me she couldn't make it, but had something that she was going to send me. I never got it, a month or two after the party, she emailed me again for my address to mail the gift, I said she didn't have to worry about it but since she asked I gave her my address again, and to this day, I have never gotten the gift. I saw in person after that and she never brought it up and I just let it go.

The on my birthday, another friend owed me some money which I said she didn't even have to pay me back because it wasn't a big deal, but she said she was going to send me the money and my bday present on a particular date, and I never got either. Given that we were talking about money here that I didn't want either one of us to lose, I contacted her about it a while later and she told me that she was wondering why I hadn't called her to thank her(???), and then she told me that her office seceratary forgot to put it in the mail(?)... but it eventually came but I never cashed the check because the situation felt petty to me..